People tell them how hard its going to be cuz its the truth... What would you rather hear? " oh its a peice of cake" or " its going to be the most difficult thing uve ever done" now if ur a smart @$$ ud say the first one, but most people would be greatfull to hear the truth and hear the possibilities instead of finding out themselves... Im 16, 4 months pregnant, n I wanna know all I can... These "girls" ask for our help an opinions... We tell them what we think is right... You dont think they are going to hear this stuff we tell them from their parents and friends? They hear it, so its nothing new to them..

Your right you get told that alot but it is the truth. If you make seem pregnancy and raising a child easy think about how many young girls would think twice before using protection because they have a unreal view of what pregnancy is like.

Hey!! I completely agree with you!!!!! Of course it will be hard but I think everyone already figured that out! There are so many good things to go along with pregnancy!!! When I first came on here a lot of people gave me a hard time but there were a few that wished me luck the whole way through and were there for me even when I miscarraiged and I thank those people. Good luck sweetie!!! ~misty

I know it will be hard, but i'm ready for it. I've seen what my cousin has gone through with her 2 children and how happy she is. I know that I will have little chance of going on to have a great career, but all I want to be is a cook and a wife to my loving and very special 'fiance'. I've changed countless diapers, bathed screaming babies, carried them around for up to an hour trying to hum them to sleep. Lost countless nights of sleep and been woken up at 3 am for a diaper change and a feeding. I know how to make bottles and how not to 'play' with babies as if they were capable of telling you things are not right when you swing them around. I've recently been caring for my 2 year old baby cousin and my 3 1/2 year old baby cousin (both of which are screamers and late night cryers) so I know how hard it is! I've been with them since the day they were born and they've even called me mommy a few times. That's why I want my own baby.

I dont think anyone is saying that motherhood isn't wonderful, because it truly is. There are just things to take into consideration before you decide on having a family.

But do you want to handle that the rest of your life of taking care of another when you can wait? Tennesse, please wait. I know you want one but its alot of responsibility.

Teens sometimes think that they want a child for the right reasons but all they really want is someone to love and be loved by. At least this is what I have found working with many of them. Once you get to the root of why they want the child it has nothing to do with the baby itself. Just my thought

I think tanya is right. Wanting a baby because they are cute and you can love them and they will love you in return is not a good reason to have one. It is so much more than that. You need money, medical care, dental care in the future (insurance), a place to live plus furniture. Always have food on the table. Just because you have 15,000 saved up does not mean youll be wealthy forever, that may only cover, like what...One year? What about the rest of your life? You have to be a good cook, house cleaner and know alot of things from dealing with teething, constipation, sickness and any other things. Its not a peice of cake. Please think twice about having a baby.