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Q: Not Talking At 21 Months

asked by: tinkinpink84 on May 24th, 2007

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I know i know it can be just normal but at the same time i am concerned, because some of the things he does are similar to children with autism. Is there anyone else who had or has a child at this age that wasnt talking? Not to long ago he knew a few words, his first word at 8 mths was kitty kat but said kih kah, and he knew momma and dada and byebye, he said the word juice once. He still points to my belly and says bah bah cuz i told him when i was pregnant there ws a baby in there and i guess he is still under that impression. But now he doesnt say any of them at all. When he wants something he grunts and whines and twists his wrist while touching his fingers together instead of pointing a finger at it. At first i was thinking maybea hearing problem because u can say his name numerous times and he doesnt acknowledge it at all. But then i ask him if he wants juice he will hand me his cup and run to the kitchen so i dont think his hearing is the case. He seems smart otherwise and understands everything or most of what u say, i ask him to throw something a way and he will go do it , i got excited yesterday i asked if he could get me a diaper for jordynne and hewent in the cabinet and got one out and one of hers! If we could afford it right now id put him in daycare cuz im not sure if the not being around kids his age is affecting his not talking. Hes not like totally mute though he babbles but no real words at all. My mom got flash cards that i try and show him and piont and tell him the picture but he ends up grabbing all the cards and throwing them all over the floor or just wanders off and wants nothing to do with it. But i think at his 2 yr checkup if he isnt talking i will bring it up with the pediatrician because at 2 theyre supposed to know about 50 words and he doesnt even know 5 right now and he turnes 2 in august. Sometimes i feel bad when i tell him off etc because for all i know he could have a real problem and not just be delayed or something so i treat him a little differently at times cuz he just seems special to me, hes bright and smart just the whole social skills etc he seems to lack and jason sorta favors jordynne at the moment, i guess she will be a daddys girl wich makes me feel bad that he seems to favor her more then joseph. It also makes me mad that brandy said that joseph was stupid and retarded and that im a bad mom cuz he isnt talking just because her daughter is and shes 3 mths older. But i havent really met anyone whose child was perfectly normal but at this age wasnt talking at all.
sorry for the long post

Replies(13)

Mommy35

replied on May 24th, 2007

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Is .Brandy one of those girls that gives you the hard time? What a witch to say that to you? I think most kids do talk more at his age, but you can't compare your son to other people's kids.

tinkinpink84

replied on May 24th, 2007

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she is, if her daughter was the way joseph is i would never ever call her daughter retarded her daughter or my son has nothing to do with the arguments between the 2 of us. I know not to compare him to other kids, he just seems more behind then anyone ive known ya know. ive sorta run out of ideas on how to help since the flashcards arent doing much, i talk to him likea normal person not a baby, i try andpoint to his body parts or things in the huose and ask him to say them and he just i dunno, has the shortest attention span ever. Im sure he is capable of talking because he does talk just no real words at all. sometimes he stomps his foot and says what sounds like "oh god" but hehe i dunno. Sometimes it seems like jordynne will be talking before he is, my sister thinks maybe because of jordynne thats why he isnt talking because she doesnt talk and gets things by crying etc so he sorta does the monkey see monkey do, her sons 3 mths younger and has a large vocabulary but he has a 4 yr old sister who talks and talks and never shuts up lol.

Mommy35

replied on May 24th, 2007

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He may be imitating his sister. That is a good point. There are lots of signs of .Autism and being non-verbal isn't the only one. If he gets what he wants by pointing, and gesturing than he has no reason to talk. If he asks for something by pointing ask him to say it and try not giving it to him until he tries. "Oh you want the ball? Can you say ball?"

I would go abolutely ballistic on someone who called my child a retard or any name just because they were mad at me. Oh hold me back!! Sounds like she is an immature little health forum.

HcoBrunette06

replied on May 24th, 2007

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my cousin bryce is 3 and hes just now starting to talk more.

he's always "jabbered" but we couldn't ever understand him, for abou 6 months now it's been more clear, but not before that. we were actually starting to get worried.

ShiningShannon

replied on May 24th, 2007

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All the things you decribed about you son are exactly like my nephew. He doesnt seem to talk very much, he babbles and makes noise, he can say mama and dada and I have heard him jabbering but no real words, you cant understand him, he also say "boo" a lot and plays the "knock knock joke" but it sounds more like "nah, nah". Other then that he seems to be a smart, healthy boy, my sister and her husband are thinking that it might be a hearing problem as well. He is going on 3 years next month and has an older brother that just turned 4 in january, his brother talks great, says a lot and seems like your average 4 yr old, they play together(cause trouble together, lol) and everything else. I was reading a bit on autism and thought that it sounded a lot like that too. I havent talke to my sis in a little bit, so I dont know if he is improving, I just dont want her to get scared that something serious is wrong. I know I should mention it though.

michelle1981

replied on May 24th, 2007

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Are you saying he has regressed in terms of his speech? Has it started since .Jordynne was born?

Let me give you a little on .jordan. We thought at one point(between the age of 2 and 2 1/2) that he was autistic. At the age of 2 1/2, he was only saying mama, dada & baba. he would point to things and say dada... he referred to everything that way. He couldn't chew(he didn't know how to) until he was almost 3. he did a lot of screaming, but not necessarily because he was angry...

Is he able to look in your eyes when he's being spoken to?

What i would do(what i did) is see your doctor and address your concerns to him/her. They will refer you to a specialist that can help you and .joseph.

I'm sure he'll be fine hun Wink

tinkinpink84

replied on May 25th, 2007

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what i notice is when he jabbers to u he starts out looking inyour eyes but then his eyes wander away, but he wont look at my face when i talk to him. he was still saying those few words for a while after jordynne was born then out of no where stopped.

michelle1981

replied on May 25th, 2007

Supporter

Go to your doctor's hun. They will help you find the resources to help Joseph.

Jordan had help in a few different areas. They put him in an intergrated nursery which was connected to the children's hospital where he was going. He saw an Occupational therapist and Speech therapist directly through his nursery... it was great! But he also received more intense treatments at the hospital.

But it may be nothing. Just talk to your doctor.

Idony

replied on May 25th, 2007

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im not gonna tell you not to worry, becuse quite frankly you have every right to

but i watch a 2 year old (he turned 2 in faburary) and he use to not talk, he would point to something and grunt, then the grunt turned into him saying yeah, that was it, it was because his sister and old babysitter would talk for him and allow him whatever he wanted just by pointing

his doc got conserned and sent him for a hearing test, which came back perfect (as we all knew it would) and then he started comming over to my house and i watched him and his sister during the day (still do) and with his mum and me working together he now says a lot of words (mommy, mama, dada, baby, ball,ok, yes, ne, please, more, eat, pee, potty, poo, hair, eye, nose, teeth, knee, arm, etc) we dont let anyone talk for him and we pretend not to know what he wants when he just points, he has to say something befor ehe gets anything

his lack of words has really made potty training difficult, but were working on all this

i know no two kids are the same, but i hope my experiance with this kid can at least give you a little hope, im sure he is very very smart boy, he may just be being stubborn like alex (the boy i was talking about) is (and yes, it is just stubbornness now, he will say a word without meaning to and then pretend not to be able to say it again until you practically force him to lol)

~alicia~

Willa Weintraub

replied on May 25th, 2007

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HcoBrunette06 wrote:

thats how it is with dalton/He only says about 20 words and he's almost a year and a half old.my sister asked the docotr and she said some kids just start talking later than others and unless he gets to some rediculous age where he really should be talking and he doesn't say *anything*, she has nothing to worry about.

phelangelica

replied on May 19th, 2009

New User

hold off on further vax until you know

it is possible that he is suffering from certain neurotoxic effects of the vaccines. it could get worse if he is given more. I urge you to REFUSE further shots until he is speaking.

LisaJoanne

replied on May 26th, 2009

Experienced User

There is a lot more to autism than the lack of speech. It can be difficult getting a correct diagnosis for your child, but follow your instincts. My son's paediatrician was unconcerned about the lack of speech in my child. He'll probably catch up all of a sudden was his learned opinion. No, nothing's wrong he kept telling us. We knew differently but let ourselves be convinced because didn't want anything to be wrong. I now have a teenager who is both intellectually disabled and autistic, as well as suffering from coeliac disease. He had epilepsy for years too, but fortunately grew out of that, as he did with the asthma. None of this is probably the case with your child, but the point I am trying to make is that in some respects you have to be your own doctor. Have the child checked out, but make sure the doctor listens to and addresses all of your concerns. If you don't feel confidant with what they say see someone else. Early Intervention is the way to ensure the best possible outcome for a child. Good luck, and I hope your precious son will be chattering away soon.

tukadean

replied on September 11th, 2009

New User

son doesn't talk yet

what happened in the end? My son is now 19 months and also doesn't say anything. He jabbers a lot and smiles and plays a lot but no words. I'm worried a lot.

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