I know im ready to have sex and I want to
but I dont know my boyfriends 19 im 15
he's a virgin and so am i. We've been
going out for about four months and he
asked me about sex about a month ago and I
said I wasnt ready he said that would be
fine and he would wait as long as I wanted
him to because he was in no hurry and he
wasnt going to pressure me into it.. A
few days ago I asked him about it again
and asked him about the possibility of me
getting pregnant because I would have
rather had us talk about it then just have
it happen then be totally lost as to how
to bring it up... He sounded sincere when
he told me that he would stick around if
that happened and I want to believe him
but I dont know if I should considering
all the other guys I know that left thier
girlfriends after they got pregnant...
Sincere or not?
Input??
I would rather lose my virginity to him
than anyone else and I believe I really
love him and he treats me very well, he
even takes care of me when I dont feel
well on those monthly weeks
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kaireejo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Aug 2003 Posts: 25 Location: salt lake city
Posted: 08-31-03 21:54pm
Wait till you get married!! Please, you
are still in high school. At this point
you still have your whole life ahead of
you. Who says you will even marry this
guy? If he is the one, why not save
yourself for him? Keep yourself pure!
You may think you are ready for sex, but
you really aren't. It will just cause
problems in the relationship. _trust me_
on that one!!
Hope you make the right decision!
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HongKongChick
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 222 Location: Oklahoma
Virgins Posted: 09-01-03 00:07am
Ok, that's the thing, sex isnt for
everyone! Though it seems fun and all,
but sometimes it is not the best thing to
do for pleasure!
Do you think he loves you?! You sure u
love him? I know that u probably think
that "of course I dont know for sure,
that's why I am asking" and I think that
if u are unsure about anything, then u
shouldnt do it.
If u think u are absolutely ready for sex,
and u want to bare all those
responsibilities that might come with it,
then ok, I cant tell u no.
Of course that u cant trust every guy to
stick around, that's why if you depend on
that, u fail automatically. Do not depend
on people for ur own life. But also, not
all guys leave their gfs...
Make the decision that u feel good about.
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evilpickle
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Posts: 26 Location: virginia beach
Sincere Or Not..? Posted: 09-01-03 14:26pm
Hey, you don't know if he is sincere or
not...Maybe that should be a clue. If
you're worried that he might leave isn't
that reason enough to avoid bringing a
child into the world. Even if you arent
planning on a child, the chance is there
if you have sex. You may even want to
check your states statuatory rape laws.
Youre not 16 which is the typical age for
consent, so chances are if he did have sex
with you, it would be illegal. If you got
pregnant, he could be looking at jail
time. I don't claim to be wiser, but I am
older, don't have sex with anyone unless
you are absolutely sure that they would
share responsibility in the outcome (baby,
std. Etc.). Also, its great that you are
seeking advice, but you need to live your
own life, part of growing up is deciding
whats best for you as a person, no one
here will be there to hold your hand or
share responsibility for the outcome...You
will be the one that has to deal with it.
If you have gathered nothing else from my
post hopefully you will pick up on
this...Wait! Wait! Wait! Good luck to
you.
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blu_eyes00
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2003 Posts: 96 Location: Canada
Posted: 09-02-03 10:38am
Babygirl,
it sounds like you have a good head on
your shoulders by telling your boyfriend
that you were not ready. I applaud you
for that. He said he will wait, so make
him wait until you are ready. And I also
think it is great that you are aware of
the consequences, and that you want to
talk about the possibility of pregnancy.
Now, only you yourself will be able to
tell if your boyfriend is sincere or not.
No one here on the message board can tell
you. You know him, you know what he is
like and stuff. If you are unsure, then
you are not ready. Talk about it more
with him, and tell him that you are unsure
if he is sincere or not. What are his
plans for the future? What are yours?
How can a baby fit into this,
realistically...Who will sacrifice school?
Who will get a job? I think you are on
the right track, and that you know you
want to lose your virginity to your
boyfriend....But if he truly loves you, he
will wait until you are 110% ready - and
comfortable. If he doesn't wait, or
starts bugging you to do it...Then you
have your answer as to whether or not he's
sincere.
