want to get pregnant

Stop being so hard on yourself!! Unless you have been to a doctor and he told you something was up with you (which it sounds likeyou haven't) then there is no reason to think there is.
Me and my hubby have been trying to get pregnant for almost 3 yrs, and we went to all the drs appt, went on clumid, did 3 iui's, and still nothing. Now because of money and it was just being to damn stressfull for me we are taking a break from meds and dr's and just having fun again.
Have you tried talking to your hubby about how is actions and words make you feel.
I'm not trying to get to personal or anything so if this comes out wrong i sincerly apologize, but does he really want to have another baby? I'm sorry if that came out wrong but it just sounds like in your posts that it is just you trying and worrying, and getting stressed about ttc, are you sure he is there with you even if he is acting like a person?

How insensitive. I would have been pissed!!

It's not over yet. When was the last time you tested? Have you made a dr appt yet?

Keep your head up sweetie. Were here for you!

~Big hug~

In my opinion, it is him that needs to work on himself, not you. Perhaps he is the reason for you not conceiving yet. We know that stress can cause us not to ovulate. What bigger stress is there than an unsupportive husband, who says mean things. I don't want to put him down, I know you love him, but good grief. No one deserves to be treated that way. The fact that he has kids should make him a more compassionate, caring person. He should want to help you thru this, not make it worse for you. Obviously your love for children and want to be a mother and carry a baby is so strong. Why would he want to play with your emotions like that? Dont consider yourself less of a women because you havent conceived YET. You are young and beautiful and it will happen, dont count yourself out.

PS, not to be rude, but if my husband EVER discussed my infertility with anyone, and made a joke of it, he would have his own fertility issues to deal with in the form of a high heel to his ba**s.

I can't believe he talks to you that way. That is so disrespectful! If my husband ever spoke that way to me...

.I think you should get your relationship with your husband squared away before you start ttc again. He needs to understand how to speak to you, how to treat you, what is acceptable behavior and what is not, etc. From the sounds of it, if you did get pregnant he would just make fun of your belly. He doesn't sound very nice to me at all, and I would tell him that .i'm not sure I want him as the father of my children with that nasty attitude of his. Maybe he'll start to understand that his words carry weight and that he's hurting you.

Men can be clueless, but there's no excuse for being downright mean.

I agree with the other girls sweetie, and just know that we are .N.O.T attacking you. I would not be able to be with someone who said such mean things to me.

So he has other children, do they stay with you, or do they stay with their mother? How much time is your hubby around his children? And again I have to ask, does he really want to have another baby? Because it doesn't sound like he wants to be bothered with the attempts of trying to conceive one. And he certainly doesn't understand where you are coming from.

You really need to have a strong talk with him and stand your ground to let him know how his words hurt you. Don't let him get away with that crap, you deserve way better than to be treated like that. My dh would be out the door if he ever treated me and said those things to me. That just doesn't sound like something you would say to someone you love with all your heart.

I would have to say that my best advise would be to just take a break and don't think about ttc so much because it sounds like you are always stressed about it. Take care of you and you only right now.

***BIG BIG HUGS***

Wantingajr,
I just read all this and I double agree with all the girls on here. First of all it's crazy for you to think there is anything wrong with you. Only a doctor can diagnose that. Second, his behavior is absolutly unacceptable. You should not put up with that type of talk. This is the time he should be more supportive and loving/understanding about all this. you should teach him a lesson and I don't mean anything crazy but maybe counseling would be helpful. I am sorry honey this is all too much. Please take a little break and some time to figure things out first. We are all here to support you. hugs

Thank you all so much for the support. I really appreciate it. Like some of you have wrote i'm going to take a break on ttcing because i am defenetly to stressed and he obviously doesnt undestand. He told me that the reason he thought i would conceive quick was because his ex got prego maybe the 3rd or 4th time they were together. His girls do not live with us and we barely get to see the oldest one (alsmost 7) and the other one lives with her grandfather (almost 6) they were both born on Nov. Just a yr apart...His ex has 7 kids all together but only 2 are my dhs. Some times i feel jelous but i think that if god is doing this then is for a reason. Its just not meant to be at this time. I am going to take some time off this whole thing and focus on other things like maybe going back to school and i am hoping to open my own buisness. I recently became a notary public for the state of texas so a buisness doing something like that would defenetly work here. Maybe this is why i have not conceived. My dh is been an as**h*** so i am just going to let him know that are going back to normal and to have fun. I know that i will not get the idea completely out of my head but at least i am going to have things to focus on and even more cause i am trying to loose some weight...So this will be a very mind occupying thing. Thanx again girls for been here even though we dont know eachother. And dont worry about my dh he is going to get a piece of my mind the next time he decides to joke about this...

I think that is the best thing for you right now. I am also going back to school to help get my mind off of it (even though it is never to far away). Just keep yourself busy with other things and eventually you will start to relax about it. Just remember you will always have the urge, but at least you can teach your body to respond better. For me personally even though we aren't actually activly trying when af come to visit i still feel like balling like a baby, but I take a deep breath and remember everything else I have going on and think that this must be for some reason. So just remeber to have fun with you dh again.

~~big hugs~~