|Before we got married, which hasn't been too many months now, we signed a prenuptial agreement. Both of us wanted it, in fact, she asked for it before me. We both have assets before marriage. Mine accounts for 3/4 of what we have. Saturday, we went to the dealership and I bought her a new car and paid for it in cash. She traded her truck in and that did pay for 1/3 of the price and I paid the other 2/3. Afterwards, we went to eat and she brought up the fact that it was put into both of our names, while becoming very upset in expressing it, and that if we divorce, I would be eligible for half of it and would I take it. I replied no and was shocked. Afterwards, she started insisting that I add her name to my vehicle which I don't have a problem with, fair is fair. After that, she started wanting me to add her name to all of my accounts. The prenup specified that we both have to leave our before assets in our own names, otherwise it is void and the other in entitled to half upon divorce. Today, she added me as a beneficiary to her account, but doesn't actually add my name to it, which that's ok with me. My accounts don't have a beneficiary clause. She never brought up about adding my name to her house, which is the asset she has and is fully paid for. I had my house fully paid for too, which I sold to move in with her, and that is some of my money. She wants her name added to that account for one. I believe if her name is on that account, my name should be on the house.
It has really hit me wrong here. I have thought that to calm her down, we would have a postnup written up guaranteeing her the vehicle. Hopefully, that would ease her mind. This is my first marriage and I stayed single for so long because all women ever wanted from me was what I would buy them. I thought, I hope, she is different. Have I fallen into a trap?
|wow, it sounds a little odd that she would marry you and worry abour something like this.didn't you two talk about this before you did it?I would sit her down and ask why sheis so upset by this and wonder if she is planning on a divorce anytime.I would be very carefulk about what you do. follow the prenump rules to keep things from geting ugly.I would tell her if she doesn't like it too bad, you both agreed and signed the papers.|
|I am definitely not going to add her to my accounts whatsoever, just as the prenup states. I am losing trust in her completely. At this point, I am beginning to question as to why she really did marry me.|
|I'm one of those girls, so I apologize if this comes off as rude.
My husbands name is on my car as is mine. Because he traded in his car towards it and I continued the payments. (this is before we were married). Because he had financial interest in it he wanted to guarantee that he got his return in the event of a breakup.
We recently purchases an suv for him. I put down the money for it and he will continue to make payments. My name is also on this title for previously mentioned reasons.
I have made it perfectly clear that I do not expect my name to be put on anything that he previously owned and visaversa.
However If I am to help him pay for any assests my name is to be placed on them as well. He knows this and excepts this. I refuse to help him (for example) pay for a house or a boat or what have you, only to turn around in a divorce and say that my name isn't on it so, therefore, I have no legal intitlement toward it. If I am making a substantial financial contribution to obtaining an asset my name will also appear on it. If he has a problem with my name being on something then I will not help him purchase it. Plain and simple.
My mother is in her 3rd marriage and I have seen first hand what happens when your name is not on something you paid for go to someone else.