I really don't know what to say. But I feel like I should respond. I know how it feels to think you don't have anything. Like I never had a computer or cable or sometimes even a house phone for a long time while I was growing up. But I just remember that some people had it much worse. At least I knew that my mom loved me more than anything in the world and I know that she still does, even when we have our differences (actually they are more like similarities, we fight because we are so alike) but I went through a lot of counseling. I went through counseling becaus ei found out my step dad was not my father, that my father had abandoned my mother while she was pregnant with me and doesnt even know im a girl. And I sunk into a major depression. I tried killing myself a couple of times. One time even landed me in the hospital. Luckily I had a great boyfriend who helped me through all that. In fact, it was the one I am having issues with right now.....The more I think about it the more I wonder why this decision is so hard. But please know that I am here for you. I know what it's like to feel like you havent any friends. I finally outgrew that to realize I have many friends who care a great deal about me. But I am here if you need to talk. I wish there was something I could do or say to make it better.

I told you how I feel

Hi sweetcheeki,

i don't normally reply to many posts in teenage pregnancy forum, firstly because i'm certainly not a teenager, i'm 30 years old, but secondly because the girls in here give great advice anyway,but I felt I have some life experiences of my own to share with you. My usual id is actually 'suzy', I had to change my id because I changed my email, and with my old id, I can't seem to change my email details, grrr. Anyway, what i'm trying to say is that you and your mum don't need to be rich to have nice things. My husband and I don't have money, we never have, but we still have nice things. Firstly because I sew, so we always have very nice new clothes to wear and we don't have to pay the expensive prices of brand name clothing, secondly because hubby loves gardening and brings in a bag of vegetables every night from the garden for me to cook. So we eat like kings aswell, but it costs us virtually nothing. I'm actually making cot sheet sets from old bed sheets of ours that are still in good condition, but they are still sitting in the cupboard not really being used, because we have so many. So rather than pay $40 for a sheet set and pillow case from a department store, i'll make them for nothing. I have also made the curtains in our house. Whenever my daughter wants the latest boot leg pants that her friends are wearing, I sew them up for her in what ever colour she wants, what ever type of material she wants. I'm also 28 weeks pregnant, so I have sewn all bubbies clothing that I think he will need. We are also using cloth nappies so that we don't have to pay for disposables. There are money saving techniques everywhere you turn. In the end, what i'm trying to say is that if you make an effort to do something about your situation, your life will take a dramatic turn. You may even have fun. Everyone can learn to sew, everyone can grow vegetables, everyone has the ability to change their lives. If you really want to help you and your mum, do something about it, only you can fix your situation. Money will never just fall into your lap. Make the most of your life, because life is cruel, and it will chew you up and spit you out.

Good luck.

Ok heres my opinion. Im sorry u have a rough life, really, I am. . But u gotta learn, soooo many people have rough lives.. And as bad as u think u have it, there are tons of people who have it 10x worse. There are people who are beat daily, sexually abused all the time, have many disabilities, on top of things that your going through. Trust me, I know alot of the time it really feels like things are the worst the can get, ive been here many times. . Ive been depressed, tried killing myself etc.. But the worst thing u can do for yourself is feel sorry for yourself. U have to focus on what u do have.. It may not feel like much, but u do have some things. I mean, maybe not the best life, but at least u have one, and at least u do have a family still.. U gotta look at the positives and stop being so negative otherwise u will never get urself outta this black hole. . .

No saying

I really think that they were just trying to say that things are not as bad as they seem................

Listen, what I was trying to say is basically what the rest of the girls said. You come on here and you complain about how bad things are and about how you wanna do this and that and the other thing. But from what I can see it is just talk. You arent going out and doing anything to fix the predicamint that you are in. I think that you need to learn to give life a chance. You cat say that you havent been granted a fair hand because many people have had worse. Do you know who dave pelzer is? He is an author who has written 4 books about his life. They are called "the lost boy, a boy called "it", a man called dave, and then his newest release I forget that that is called." my point is, dave had a rought life. His mother held him over the stove and burnt him, his mother did not feed him, she called him "it", he lived in the basement, he was not allowed to play at the playground at schol because she watched from the parking lot and he wold get beat. She did nothing for him. But did he complain, hell no he didnt. He just took it like man. He did not knark on his mother he tried to obey her and make it better. Until one day when someone noticed his scars and took him out of that place. Then he lived in foster care...Did he complain hell no he was grateful to be free from that hell hole. Needless to say he made something of himself and is now widely known and successful..Good luck..

I am sorry if I offended you, and I am sorry I didnt tell you before, I just dont trust or believe you. I think that you and prettychicki are too of the same kind.

Nothing

I am sorry that you are unable to understand what I am saying... Life is important, stop complaining..

*no heat, no water but I have a computer and the internet*

that makes no sense!!

Im sorry! Im sure everything will get better soon!

Jill,

its okay... Dont worry

I have been supportive of u ever since u stepped onto this forum but quite frankly my patience with u has worn very thin. The girls are right u want him yet ur not willing to do it urself. If ur seeing a shrink for depression there is also the chance that u could tell them about ur home they dont specialise u know. And let me tell u another thing wot do u think ur shrink would do if he/she found out u had no water no heat and u wanted to kill urself, I have told u its time to grow and have a look around, if ur unhappy learn to fix it,

as for ur home life do u think that everybody else in the world has had the best life well u can think again, if we are all happy now its because we chose to change the things we didnt like perhaps if u shut ur mouth and went to school and got a job and became independent things might be a little different for. I hold no sympathy for u being deaf because all u do is complain about it, u said u have been deaf since u were born then it is probably time that u got over it. I had it rough to and u have no idea just because u have it rough now dont assume that u have the worst life. And besides u cannot compare u life to someone else wot u feel might be different to someone else even tho u went thru the same thing. Stop and think about wot u say and how u say and wot u want out of life and stop using deafness and I want to kill myself as excuses for me at least to feel sorry for u, it should have become apparent to u that u cant fix these probs urself and u need help its apparent to the rest of us.

From someone who cant wait to have a jellybean all of their own

I would like to chat with you online.. Particularly because so we could give a better chance to talk more about things.. I mean you do actually help me alot.. To deal with things. I mean I didnt expect to have another deaf person that goes through a worse thing than I have gone through, and even though I totally understand. It would be nice if we chatted and get to know a lil, I wish I knew what you have gone through.. Not much of it though if you dont want to share but yes I would like to though.

Im not sure wot I can tell u, my family life will and always shall remain family business I would share with these women and u things but not all my life, its been difficult, and I feel ive moved on and theres no need to dwell on the past.


And as I said to u before u have to move on and stop using deafness as the reason ur life and ill also ask u to stop telling ppl im deaf they can read it for themselves but when u say it it sounds like im after sympathy for being deaf when im not and that being deaf is the reason my life was screwed wen some it was bad choices on my parents and my behalf. Sweet there comes a time in everybodys life where they have to realise the mistakes they have made and the decisions they made and take some responsibility and this is wot u have to do. If u wanna talk u can pm here or email or ill see ya online.


From someone who cant wait to have a jellybean all of their own

You make no sense. Stop complaining, you say that I didnt offend you and then in the next sentence you are complaining again. What the hell?

Same to you

Same to you? Makes no sense...I love u stacie! Lol

Ohh look at jordan's aviator!! Holy crap!! And as for sweetchicki, I dont go and rant and rave about things. I think that a lot of the girls on here agree with me. I also think it was a good idea to delete your post because what were you doing? Complaining. What do you always do? Complain. What are we all tired of hearing you do? Complain. Not cool.

Same to you!! Haha good one!!

Jordan I love you too!!