I'm 18 and have been with my girlfriend
for around 6 months now, so i'm obviously
someone of little experience. A few
months back (possibly feb or march) we had
sex for the first time, felt great, seemed
to last a decent length (20 odd mins
maybe?) it all seemed perfect, we both
enjoyed it. Since then i started
masturbating on my own a lot more and
after that we have had sex maybe 3 or 4
times more. These later times though I
have found myself ejaculating way earlier
than i would like to and sex has lasted
way shorter than the first time I did it.
Obviously i'm not enjoying it ending so
quickly and neither is she. Is it possible
that the cause of my premature ejaculation
(if thats wat it deffinitely is) is that i
masturbate too much or a lot? I really
want to go back to how it was when we did
it for the first time, which felt
great...
Also on a side note, my girlfriend told me
that in none of the times we have had sex
has she ever orgasmed...is that a problem
with her or with me? Obviously it does
take longer for a girl to orgasm than a
man to ejac, but say i ejac after 2.5
mins, she most likely hasnt orgasmed...any
help?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-20-07 10:39am
I don't think your masturbation has caused
you to ejaculate sooner.
As for her, most women don't orgasm during
sex. There's nothing wrong with either of
you, it's just how it is. There are two
kinds of female orgasms, the vagina kind
and the more common clitoral one.
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watst003
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Posted: 05-20-07 13:02pm
surely thats a bit odd though, i would
have thought maybe at least once she might
have orgasmed? no?
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 05-20-07 15:18pm
I doubt the problem is that you have been
masturbating. Many men take longer their
first time because they feel somewhat
nervous.
Most women don't orgasm during sex,
especially when they are still fairly new
at it. Many women never do in their
entire life though. That's just the way
it is. It does not necessarily mean there
is a problem. Just keep trying different
things and see what she likes. Make sure
she tells you what seems to work for her
and what does not. Maybe she will have
one during sex eventually, and maybe not.
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paul995
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Posted: 05-20-07 17:38pm
masturbating too much doesn't affect the
longevity of sex. and it's normal for
women not to orgasm during sex. practice
makes perfect!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-21-07 00:57am
watst003
wrote:
surely thats a bit odd
though, i would have thought maybe at
least once she might have orgasmed?
no?
Nope. She probably was getting very into
it and it probably felt very good, but
that doesn't mean she orgasmed. She may
also have faked it. Please don't think
women are evil for doing that; there's a
lot going through a girl's mind during
sex!
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watst003
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Joined: 20 May 2007 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 05-21-07 05:44am
Ok, i can understand now that most women
dont orgasm during sex, but i still have a
problem here. If im still ejaculating too
early, i can tell when she looks
disappointed and she feels its happened
way too quickly so she hasnt enjoyed it
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-21-07 12:19pm
watst003
wrote:
Ok, i can understand now
that most women dont orgasm during sex,
but i still have a problem here. If im
still ejaculating too early, i can tell
when she looks disappointed and she feels
its happened way too quickly so she hasnt
enjoyed it
Your pe is a separate issue. There are
several good topics in this section of the
forum you can check out for advice and
tips and support. Good luck!
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mohinish
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Posted: 04-12-08 10:04am
i've heard this for first time. usally men
ejaculate early on their first time.
anyway this is not due to masturbation.
she's not achieving orgasm-too common. how
to give her orgasm is too wide but i think
you can satisfy her by stimulating
clitoris, it's easiest.
coming to pe, i think you just need to
follow few tips.
1)try doing kegels exercises- pc muscles
located between anus & scortum-clench
& release them, it can be done
anytime, anywhere.
2) stop & start techniques- just when
you think cumming is near, stop pumping.
wait untill sensations for orgasms pass.
you can read more here http://tinyurl.com/4638rg
best of luck
