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Hey all ! Well i'm 17 years old virgin. So like 2 days ago, me and my girlfriend were at a friend's party. I used some alcohol, and so did she. So we went to another room, and started to make love, I gave her foreplay, I went down on her, and according to her nailprints on my back, she liked it. But when I was about to penetrate her, I just lost my errection. I put on the condom, and when I was about to enter, it just went limp, nothing, just went soft, and I was not able to get it hard anymore. But when we just meet eachother daily, and do some kissing, and just play with each other, my penus is rock hard,and when I masturbate, it is rock hard, really HARD ! But after that night, I'm really worried about it. OMG I feel like I'm like only a half-man, or something. She is also a virgin, and it was the 1st time for both of us, and I just destroyed it, I feel so misserable, depressed and so ashamed. She said to me it's ok, and she understands it, but im not sure, if she really thinks like that. Please guys give me some tips, I soon got exams comming, and due to this problem, I'm really depressed. Was it becouse of the alcohol, or what ? Please Help Sad And like one of the topics below, I feel so low, and lonely, I also want to run far away, so noone knowes me I exist. I dont want to speak to my friends about this or anything. I feel so lost.

Please help.
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replied May 19th, 2007
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It was probably either the alcohol or your being nervous. It happens. It's not a big deal. Smile When you're ready to try again, make sure you are somewhere you can relax, take your time, and feel comfortable. You'll get it eventually.
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replied May 20th, 2007
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agree! when I drink too much alcohol, sometimes i have a hard time getting an erection or I don't really feel doing it. Unlike of course, if i'm just sober or at least tipsy, i could still handle it. But when I'm really drunk, it just can't be done. Another thing that might have cause your winky to be shy was because it was your first time and first times can be really nerve-wracking. When your nervous, "it" won't paticipate.

Go to a very comfortable place where only you two can be intimate. I think it will do you good.
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replied May 21st, 2007
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agree! when I drink too much alcohol, sometimes i have a hard time getting an erection or I don't really feel doing it. Unlike of course, if i'm just sober or at least tipsy, i could still handle it. But when I'm really drunk, it just can't be done. Another thing that might have cause your winky to be shy was because it was your first time and first times can be really nerve-wracking. When your nervous, "it" won't paticipate.

Go to a very comfortable place where only you two can be intimate. I think it will do you good.


Ok uhm, you said that its nerve-wrekcing on first time, but wont I be nervous during the 2nd time ? I think I have now fear, that it happens again, also my girlfriend is afraid that it happens again, or she thinks i will really go in depression. please give me some tips, how I can relax, and forget about that "getting it hard" thing during foreplay ? Please help.
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replied May 21st, 2007
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Relaxing is all up to you. You have to be comfortable with your partner and confident that you will not be disturbed. You have to be comfortable with your body. You have to be able to accept the fact that sex does not always go 100% according to plan and that it might not be like it is in the pornos. What you described is very normal.

If you and your parter are that upset about something that is a very normal part of sex, it is possible that one or both of you are not ready. When you are truly for sex, there should not be too many things that will cause you to be embarrassed in front of your partner.
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replied May 25th, 2007
yeah, you could blame alcohol for it.
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