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Q: My B/f Wants to Have a Baby!!!
asked by: kprincesss9106 on May 18th, 2007
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(5-18-07)(10:00p.m.) ok.... i said money wasnt a problem b/c were wealthy..very, and he says life isnt promised to morrow. n he always want his child to go through everything with him... he has raised his sister and ive raised my nephew since birth he's almost 3 now and living back with his mother, who has now got her mind right. both of us has had experience with children. but i agree i do want to live my life...n have fun while i can... he understands but still would like a child to be there with him. he's very wealthy he own his own designing business. he just wants to get his degree to learn everything he can! so i still need help!






(5-18-07)(OK.... IM ONLY 15 YEARS OLd! I'LL BE 16 JULY 18 AND HE'LL BE 18 NOV.20.. I LOVE HIM DEARLY, AND HE WANTS A CHILD BAD! HE'S BEEN SOOO EMOTIONALY LATELY, I THINK ITS BECAUSE OF OUR TALK ABOUT CHILDREN. I WANT KIDS AS BAD AS HE DOES, MONEY ISNT A PROBLEM, BUT HE LIVES 60 MILES AWAY UNTIL HE'S 18, AND HE'S GETTIN AN APPARTMENT LIEK I SAID MONEY ISNT THE ISSUE, BUT I AM STILL IN SKOOL HE WANTS TO GO 2 A COMMUNITY COLLEGE TO GET HIS BUSINESS DEGREE, IM AFRIAD OF HOW MY PARENTS AND FAMILY WILL THINK AND LOOK OF ME, BUT HE KEEP TELLIING ME NOT TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! BUT I NEED HELP! IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS, PLEASE ASK! Crying or Very sad)


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MizzForsythe03
replied on May 18th, 2007
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kprincess your only 15 yrs old sure money isnt an issue but u are only 15 going on 16 wait until your done school first then have a baby and if he really loves u he would wait a few yrs cause taking care of a baby at your age is EXTREMELY HARD i dont tons of teenage girls in my community that are 11 - 18 that have kids and even then the 18 girls wish that they havent gotten pregnant but they dont regret it either cause babies are sooo presious but if u want one or both of u want one talk about it first and some babys fathers dont help at all see he said hes going to school he wont be there to help u change the diapers feed the baby be up every night to help u witht he baby i dont know him but he migh be differnent but i would talk about it with him think LOOONG AND HARD cause a baby with change your life FOREVER no hanging out late with your freinds cause you'll have the baby no more fun but then agian youll have fun with the baby playing with the baby bathing feeding cleaning up after the baby your baby has to have your attention all the time and i dont know how your parents are soo i cant say nothing about them doing anything about it or your friends but i know some of them probably will look down on u even other people as well but its not their life is it but i suggest u think awhile on this one and maybe just wait until u graduate and then have a baby then you have your school done and over with it will only be a few more yrs or a yr whenever your graduate yrs is
well anyways i hope i was a help see ya
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ladylee70
replied on May 18th, 2007
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Re: I Need Help! My B/f Want to Have a Baby!!! Is He Insane?
kprincesss9106 wrote:
OK.... IM ONLY 15 YEARS OLd! I'LL BE 16 JULY 18 AND HE'LL BE 18 NOV.20.. I LOVE HIM DEARLY, AND HE WANTS A CHILD BAD! HE'S BEEN SOOO EMOTIONALY LATELY, I THINK ITS BECAUSE OF OUR TALK ABOUT CHILDREN. I WANT KIDS AS BAD AS HE DOES, MONEY ISNT A PROBLEM, BUT HE LIVES 60 MILES AWAY UNTIL HE'S 18, AND HE'S GETTIN AN APPARTMENT LIEK I SAID MONEY ISNT THE ISSUE, BUT I AM STILL IN SKOOL HE WANTS TO GO 2 A COMMUNITY COLLEGE TO GET HIS BUSINESS DEGREE, IM AFRIAD OF HOW MY PARENTS AND FAMILY WILL THINK AND LOOK OF ME, BUT HE KEEP TELLIING ME NOT TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! BUT I NEED HELP! IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS, PLEASE ASK! Crying or Very sad


You are disillusioned if you think money isn't an issue. If you have a baby, money will be an issue given your ages unless you are trust fund babies!! My husband and I both have college degrees, have good paying jobs, are frugal with our money and it's still difficult. Just because he is getting an apt doesn't mean money isn't an issue. He really doesn't sound too mature if he is thinking that right now.

Good luck to you!! Please be smart in your decision making as you have the rest of your life for a child. Take advantage of your youth and have fun! The best years of my life were ages 16 to 18! Those were fun times - very fun times Cool
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babyAndy
replied on May 18th, 2007
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Unless you are rich, money will always be an issue.
Putting money aside, wait a few more years until your body and mind are more ready.
Finish school first, then take it from there.
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Mommy35
replied on May 18th, 2007
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I agree with the others! Money is an issue unless you truly are a princess. Enjoy being young, party, and do things that *normal* teenagers do. You have your whole life to have babies. They are a lot more work than you realize, so to answer your question, .Yes he is insane!
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arcadia
replied on May 19th, 2007
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your boyfriend is insane. you are way too young to even be thinking about being a mother. i'm 20 years old, & i feel way too young to be a mother. your life changes dramatically. you won't be able to be a kid anymore. your friends with probably abandon you, & the only staying up all night you'll be doing is with your screaming baby. your friends will be out partying, & you'll be home wrist deep in poopy diapers. money is an issue. i don't care how "wealthy" you think you are. it is so expensive.

i'm not saying that being a mother isn't wonderful.

but it is so incredibly hard.

i have a 2 month old son, & sometimes i still cry because sometimes i just want my old 20 year old life back.

think about what's at stake here.

think about the rest of your life.
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kaerbear
replied on May 19th, 2007
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Just because someone wants something that doesn't mean that the time is right. It's okay to dream about having a baby one day but you have to be responsible and think about what would be best for the baby. Try being in a committed relationship with someone who can prove that they will stay with you through life's challenges before you decide to make a decision that will last a lifetime. A baby is a huge committment and a huge responsibility. At 15, chances are you can't even grasp the amount of time and work and responsibility that are involved in raising a child. You need to be thinking about your education and what kind of a career you want to have. You should just be starting out to find out about relationships and dating, not making a decision that will tie you to one person for the rest of your lives. Please think about this and act responsibly. There is nothing wrong with wanting something, but that doesn't mean you have to have it right now. I hope you take the initiative and use protection and think about your own future instead of getting pressured into something you likely aren't ready for.
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Dannzibelle
replied on May 19th, 2007
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Money will be an issue. no matter how well off your family is it's not *your* money to raise your child with. I'm 15 years old and 35 weeks pregnant and believe me you do not want to be in my position. get on birth control so you don't get pregnant or don't have sex. your boyfriend may think he wants a baby now but who's to say that if you did get pregnsnt he wouldn't freak out and leave you like a lot of guys do?
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