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Boyfriends Past Still Bothers Me After Finding Nude Ex Pics

Well to start my boyfriend had a child with his ex when they were in highschool. They didn't get along so he now lives in California and she in Texas and he pays childsupport. I understand that they keep u
intouch cause of the kid but he says its mostly by pictures etc.

But a few weeks ago I was playing a game on his cell. I got bored and I looked at his pics and found naked pictures of his ex..the one he has a kid with. MY heart and trust were broken the moment I saw them. So now he's going to a wedding in Oregon which he didn't invite me too. And I'm scared of what mite happen there since their having a batchelor party.

Am I over reacting? How do I deal with this baby momma drama? My mother went through the same scenerio and still has to deal with the other woman after 20 years
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replied May 17th, 2007
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have you confronted him about it?Quite frankly that would bother me.I would wonder how long he's had those pics and my trust would also be broken.You need to confront him and ask yourself can you live with it? knowing he had them after being broken up for so long?do you want to deal with it?she will be there for the rest of his life,because they have a connection with their child.
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replied May 17th, 2007
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Re: Boyfriends Past Still Bothers Me After Finding Nude Ex P
ladyT83 wrote:
Well to start my boyfriend had a child with his ex when they were in highschool. They didn't get along so he now lives in California and she in Texas and he pays childsupport. I understand that they keep u
intouch cause of the kid but he says its mostly by pictures etc.

But a few weeks ago I was playing a game on his cell. I got bored and I looked at his pics and found naked pictures of his ex..the one he has a kid with. MY heart and trust were broken the moment I saw them. So now he's going to a wedding in Oregon which he didn't invite me too. And I'm scared of what mite happen there since their having a batchelor party.

Am I over reacting? How do I deal with this baby momma drama? My mother went through the same scenerio and still has to deal with the other woman after 20 years


My first guestion is why did he not invite you to the wedding? Ask him? and then ask him why he feel a need to have a naked picture of his x wife on his phone. Then Tell him that is unexceptable. If you are keeping your feeling to yourself because you are afraid of losing him, don't. You will not have a good relstionship doing that!
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meblonde01 wrote:

My first guestion is why did he not invite you to the wedding?


forgot to ask. . .
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replied May 17th, 2007
I asked and he sayd he didn't think his friend would want to pay for 2 plane tickets since his friend was gonna pay for the ticket and accomidations. But i find out last minute that he going to be staying in the guest house Sad

I'm independant and live on my own so I would have payed for my own ticket eitherway. And its not just the wedding party we.ve been together 7mnths and I.ve only met 1 friend of his when I know he has many others he hangs out with and that includes his female friends. I.ve told him that we should go out so I can meet the rest of them but he keeps putting it off. And then he sometimes complains that we don't go out much Rolling Eyes

I know there are a few of his female friends that like him or that he.s maybe messed around with but I don't care bout the past. I would just like to feel like I'm taken into consideration when he goes out. We live 15min from each other and my parents live in his hometown so I know there should be no excuse
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replied May 17th, 2007
Oh and concerning the pictures he said they were old pics from like when.they knew each other back in Texas I guess. He bought a new phone so when he transferrd his album those went in there too. He said he.d forgotten about them. He said he erased them but then I noticed the memory card was gone so I don't kno if he knew and he was just hiding it from me. Either way I told myself if I find out that their still there there's gonna be a problem.
Cause even tho my trusts been broken I still trust him a little but I'm very cautious now and I hate feeling like that
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ladyT83 wrote:
Oh and concerning the pictures he said they were old pics from like when.they knew each other back in Texas I guess. He bought a new phone so when he transferrd his album those went in there too. He said he.d forgotten about them. He said he erased them but then I noticed the memory card was gone so I don't kno if he knew and he was just hiding it from me. Either way I told myself if I find out that their still there there's gonna be a problem.
Cause even tho my trusts been broken I still trust him a little but I'm very cautious now and I hate feeling like that


yep when you lose trust it is a hard thing to handle
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replied May 17th, 2007
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I know what your going thru. Ive had a similar thing. I was with my chap 6years and we split last month. His Xs were a big issue and in the end i stopped him seeing them as he cheated on me with one of them. I kept fincing letters and pics of his X he was engaged to! not that i was looking. the one day he left his wallet and i couldnt resist as i had a gut feeling. There was a pic of us with his Xs face taped over mine! He said he done it one day when he was mad several months ago! Sick if you ask me. he had a bad past and i swear still loved his X. I couldnt hack it, it caused a lot of arguments and problems for us.
My trust for him was broken and im afraid when that goes theres not much left. Unless you can trust him again and work through it im sorry to say but its guna be very hard
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replied May 17th, 2007
I totally understand that its gonna be real hard. Especially since it took him 4 months to tell me he had a kid.lol I got over that but just to see my mother go thru it freaked me out. But I'm strong and I have self respect so I'm sure that if anything else comes along i'l make sure I know how to handle it.

We were even thinking of moving in together in the future I just hope things don't get worst..like him giving her our house number and her calling lol oh well I'll enjoy what we have now and start preparing for later on
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