You are already doing the first thing right - which is coming here and asking for help.

The second thing you should do is start asking for help outside of the internet... such as your close friends, family, and professionals.

I will tell you that you are not a freak, and that you will do just fine. You are a person, and a great one at that, and you deserve better (and you know it).

"Start living now. Stop saving the good china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materializes. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath, is a gift from God."

My suggestion to you would be to start going out more, even if there's nothing else to do than just walk, and also to start making more connections with people. That will help you keep busy and you won't have time to think about your depression. Also, spend more quality time doing your favorite hobby - that really helps!

All the best to you!

Sometimes life can get you down, and really down. And just like you said, when there's no hope, whe we feel empty and like the world is closing in on us, it really is hard to feel good about life and about ourselves! The good thing though is that there's hope!!! You came here looking for help because deep down you know that there's a way out of your misery! I'm really glad that you took this step because it shows that you really care!!! And we're here to provide you with if anything a little bit of hope! Even though I would love to tell you what you need to hear, I'm afraid I don't have the necessary knowledge to do that, so I suggest you go back to your counselor and let it all out! Tell him or her exactly what is on your mind! Don't hold back...remember your counselor is there to help you, that's why he/she is getting paid, that's why he/she decided to get in that line of business!!!! So take advantage of that!!!!

Depression is an illness, and just like any other illness, sometimes you will need to take medications to correct it! Just like a diabetic needs insulin to survive, well depressed people need anti-depressants to correct the chemical imbalances in their brains that make them feel bad!!!

I hope that you will go back to your counselor and that sooner rather than later your life will be a happy and good one!!! Best of luck to you!! Take care.

I personally do not fully agree with the above statement. Yes it's an illness, both of the mind and the body - but it only works in stages. First the mind gets 'depressed', and then the physical symptoms manifest.

If you can fix your state of mind by finding what is currently bothering you and also finding a way to fix that - then your physical symptoms will go away as well.

Meds can help you get out of the pit, but they will never solve your underlying problem. They will correct your chemical imbalance by inhibition methods - but they won't change your subconscious programming that you have habitually developed over the years.

I constantly hear people complain of the fact that even though they are not depressed anymore due to the meds - they are still not happy in this life. I would advise you do not go the meds way completely, but if you choose to - then use it in moderation and only to help you get out of a miserable state... just enough to be able to help you fix your problems on your own.


Some tips on how you need to mentally fix your depression:
1) Recognize your problems - make sure you are aware of what they actually are (what is bothering you that is making you feel depressed?)
2) Acknowledge and accept your problems (you are not perfect, no one is... so just accept any failures of the past and keep them by your side for future reference)
3) Solve your problems - that means you need to sit down and think through everything that is currently bothering you and figure out ways of fixing each issue (if you want, you can write out your planning on paper)
4) Learn from your mistakes - now that you realized what was causing you your problems, make sure now to try to not repeat them... and only do things in a way that will benefit you