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I am in a very committed and loving relationship with my Russian Fiancée for over one year. We met online, had intense discussions via phone and comp for 5 months before meeting in person. When we first met, she was curious about sexual desires and we cybered a few times. She was always very positive and told me that we were very compatible sexually. In person when we met, she waited the first evening after a romantic meeting and dinner. Our chemistry was incredible, and the second day I couldn’t keep her off me. I was always a gentleman and was considerate in making sure she was ok with any progression of lovemaking. Since our meeting, she makes positive innuendos as to our sexuality together, but if I start to become aroused in our conversation, she drops the subject as if she is shy or does not want it to go further. I know she desires to be with me and I am certain she is faithful. My question and bewilderment is; given our level of intimacy and trust together, and the fact we had a mutually compatible sexual experience, why would she seemingly have no interest in expressing her sexual feelings or wanting to culminate them with me via phone comp, especially since I know she enjoyed it at the beginning of our relationship? I am very puzzled. Any ideas from a Russian woman’s perspective? By the way, she is 23 and very intelligent and sophisticated.

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replied May 12th, 2007
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Re: She Is Too Shy About Verbalizing Sexual Needs And Desire
federer wrote:
I am in a very committed and loving relationship with my Russian Fiancée for over one year. We met online, had intense discussions via phone and comp for 5 months before meeting in person. When we first met, she was curious about sexual desires and we cybered a few times. She was always very positive and told me that we were very compatible sexually. In person when we met, she waited the first evening after a romantic meeting and dinner. Our chemistry was incredible, and the second day I couldn’t keep her off me. I was always a gentleman and was considerate in making sure she was ok with any progression of lovemaking. Since our meeting, she makes positive innuendos as to our sexuality together, but if I start to become aroused in our conversation, she drops the subject as if she is shy or does not want it to go further. I know she desires to be with me and I am certain she is faithful. My question and bewilderment is; given our level of intimacy and trust together, and the fact we had a mutually compatible sexual experience, why would she seemingly have no interest in expressing her sexual feelings or wanting to culminate them with me via phone comp, especially since I know she enjoyed it at the beginning of our relationship? I am very puzzled. Any ideas from a Russian woman’s perspective? By the way, she is 23 and very intelligent and sophisticated.

Thanks for any ideas you may have


sounds like she might be having second thoughts.. ask her..
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replied May 12th, 2007
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Re: She Is Too Shy About Verbalizing Sexual Needs And Desire
federer wrote:
I am in a very committed and loving relationship with my Russian Fiancée for over one year. We met online, had intense discussions via phone and comp for 5 months before meeting in person. When we first met, she was curious about sexual desires and we cybered a few times. She was always very positive and told me that we were very compatible sexually. In person when we met, she waited the first evening after a romantic meeting and dinner. Our chemistry was incredible, and the second day I couldn’t keep her off me. I was always a gentleman and was considerate in making sure she was ok with any progression of lovemaking. Since our meeting, she makes positive innuendos as to our sexuality together, but if I start to become aroused in our conversation, she drops the subject as if she is shy or does not want it to go further. I know she desires to be with me and I am certain she is faithful. My question and bewilderment is; given our level of intimacy and trust together, and the fact we had a mutually compatible sexual experience, why would she seemingly have no interest in expressing her sexual feelings or wanting to culminate them with me via phone comp, especially since I know she enjoyed it at the beginning of our relationship? I am very puzzled. Any ideas from a Russian woman’s perspective? By the way, she is 23 and very intelligent and sophisticated.

Thanks for any ideas you may have


Could it be that she likes having sex with you but she doesnt enjoy masturbating?? Some woman, me included do not like to play with ourselves (finger ourselves). I dont know but to me thats what it sounds like. If she was having second thoughts as the previous poster suggested, I couldnt see her saying things that could get you aroused or saying that you are sexually compatible..... just my opinion anyways.

Goodluck, I hope it all works out for you Smile
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replied May 12th, 2007
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I must say one thing, make sure you research everything about this girl. How did you meet her online?
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replied May 13th, 2007
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My advice - Learn about the culture. Never talk about sex before you become intimate. It's not the done thing. I found useful information about values and culture of Latvian and Russian women from a local dating site www.randevu.lv
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replied May 14th, 2007
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Maybe Shes Just Embarassed...
Maybe she is a little bit more comfortable over the phone, internet.. ect.. but in person she gets embarassed and I agree that it could be related to her culture. But talk to her about it, it could be anything. Good luck.
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