It's your day. Whatever makes you happy! Many people specify no children under____on their invitations. So just tell them that you can't bend the rules for them. That it wouldn't be fair.

Danni might have some good ideas on how to handle this because her sisters wedding is shortly after her edd.

I know that i would be a bit pissed off if someone bought a new baby to my wedding. My nephew was born two days before my 13th birthday and on my birthday everyone came round and paid more attention to him then me, at the time i was angry because to me turning 13 and entering the teens felt like a big occassion yanno? But also you do have to remember that the baby is your family too and if you were to say anything it could result in a huge family row.

We must of posted at teh same time! Well my sister wants .Mika to be her second flower girl so i've got no problems there!

You're absolutely not being childish!!

I didn't have kids at my wedding either. I did specify it on my invitation. I do think people would be dotting over the baby and it may take some of your thunder. At least that's the way I would feel, too. Also, I wouldn't want the baby to suddenly cry over "my moment" during the ceremony and then have people "goo goo, gahing" over the baby during my moment! It's your day not the babies or your brothers.

Personally, I wouldn't let the baby attend the wedding but I would let the baby go to the reception because then I feel there is ample time for people to give you and your family the attention plus see the baby. Oh, I see that the family will already see the baby the day after. In that case, then I would just specify no kids on the invitation and just apologize and state your reasons why you don't want the baby there. I honestly believe they would understand unless they had a lot of babies at their wedding and didn't mind.

My mom would say the same thing. I think most grandmothers would say that.

Good luck and be strong! It's your day.

I didn't restrict babies at my wedding, but i wish i had. During the ceremony, my friends boy just wouldn't stop crying. You could hear him more than us saying our vows.

What are you going to do?

well,I think it can be thought of both ways.I think the baby will always get attention but during the ceremony,everyone wil be paying attention to *you* not crowding around the child while you say I do.I think it would be ok unless like michelle said,the child is a cryer and thats all you can hear.Maye ask them if she cries to bring her outside?I think it would be totally fine if she was there.even though a new child is a big thing,so is a wedding and the day before they will all get to see her and pass her around!

but it is *your* day and it is up to you!

who knows,maybe since no one really ran to see finny,this baby wont be a big deal either?but I bet he will get just as mucha ttention as her,since your family will be down and all!

I would be torn myself. I did have children at my wedding, I had a three week old at my wedding that did nothing but sleep the whole time. She was my friends child so there was no family of hers there. I love kids and I wanted all my little cousins and nieces to be there with me. At the same time, if my brother had just had a baby, I could see how I would have gotten a little upset and would think that they might steal all the attention.

If you don't mind telling the rest of your relatives that their kids can't come, then it is fine to put that on your invitations. (No kids under age ___ please) People will understand and will most likely not be offended.

On the other hand, like Melissa said, you could just ask them to make sure that they take the baby out of the ceremony if she starts crying. That is a very reasonable request. And then again, they might realize that it wouldn't be the best idea to bring a newborn to a wedding and might just get a sitter. They will probably want to kick back and let loose and have fun and help you enjoy your special day without having to worry about their little one.

The bottom line is that it is .Y.O.U.R day and you get the final say in what goes. People will understand whatever your decision is.

I wouldn't see a baby as being a threat to "stealing my thunder" but it's your wedding.

I do know that if i thought someone had a problem with my baby being at my wedding then i would try to find someone to watch her or just not go to the wedding. Maybe you should consider that this is a new baby and that maybe they won't attend if they can't find someone to watch their baby. I wouldn't really want to leave my new born baby with someone I didn't know very well. I just know that i didn't really want to leave my baby much in the beginning at all and well just not going to a wedding wouldn't be the worst thing in the world.

childish or not it's your wedding.

I can see this perspective but once you allow one baby, you have to allow all.
Some babies may be good, in general but babies are very unpredictable and you just don't know. I personally wouldn't want to have additional unneeded stressors on your wedding day, which would include wondering if a baby will be crying on your wedding day. I have heard similar responses as Michelle's from people who allow babies/toddlers at weddings. I have also been to a few weddings that allowed babies/toddlers and it was quite distracting. Of course, kids in the wedding were allowed!!

That is a good point I originally didn't think of.

Another idea I just thought of that I was going to do but didn't was that if any of your other relatives have small children that maybe you could get a friend or someone to watch and entertain all the little ones durring the ceremony. I was going to get a girlfriend from work to entertain all the little kids durring the wedding ceremony in one of the church's classrooms.

I ended up putting that one on the back burner and completely forgot about it when it came time for the wedding. I'm sure it would have been helpful for some of the parents. They would have been able to enjoy the ceremony more without having to worry about keeping their children quiet.

For my sister's wedding i have said that if .Mika cries then i will take her out of the room beause to me it just doesn't seem fair on my sister and her partner. Although i think her kids will be maikng more noise than .Mika, .Daniel will be 3 and .Faith will be coming up to 2 so it's gunna be an interesting wedding to say the least!

i've been to a small wedding with about 8 or 9 children attending and it was fine.(all age ranges from 6mo to 8yo).the worst they did was during the resception was slide their matchbox cars across the dancefloor

but I guess the card thing is a good idea!

are you asking everyone not to bring thier children or are you considering just asking her not to bring hers because that seems just wrong...

thanks for all the comments.

i would *never* ask them to leave the baby home. i'm hoping they'll think of it themselves! they have plenty of people to watch the baby, her whole family lives here too, and she's not going to breastfeed so that's not an issue either. they'd have no problem leaving her, they already have her childcare lined up and it's a different person every day of the week.

i obviously don't want a crying baby at my wedding, but i also don't want them to have to take her out and miss it.

there won't be any other children there aside from finn.

i know it's stupid. but it's going to be such a small event that if everyone is oohing and aahing over the baby it will be very obvious. i'd probably feel differently if we having a huge reception, but it's just going to be a really nice intimate sit down dinner.

also, i'm never the center of attention. just this once i wanted to be.

Maybe just talk to your brother about it,maybe he will be understanding and he will make the decision?

then if you aren't haveing anyother children then finn then i dont' see it as a problem. Just tell your brother not to bring the baby. Tell him that there aren't going to be another children than Finn and that you don't see it right that you let her bring their baby and everyone else can't bring thier children.

my little sister was one when she was at my wedding and she was a little sh!te to say the least! lol. i also had my cousins there who were 4 and 5 and they got really bored and were playing up.

i had to have them there cause they were immediate family but it was annoying and i felt like we should be 'hurrying up' for them....

i have to say....i understand what you feel bridg but i guess you can call it selfish...yes, people will love to see her but your day will still be upon you 3 ...people dont play with babies for hours on end and i am so sure that baby will be sleeping most of the time.