Well, safety during sex depends on how rough you and your partners are physically. If both of them are gentle with you, do not penetrate deep and don't contort you into odd positions, you should be safe. Just be gentle and keep it slow and sweet, and you should be safe

Use a condom! (unless the extra partner has been tested recently).

There is more than 1 extra partner involved Some use a condom and some don't but I think they are safe. I know most of them for many years.

They are reasonably not to rough but I do feel more fragile and more tired at times.

It's not just your body right now, you're letting something grow in it so you need to tell any partners involved to be gentle! It's your responsibility alone to keep you and your child safe.

Be really careful about STD's, certain ones can cause birthing complications or be passed to the child during birth.

I will. Thank's to both of you.

I really wouldn't suggest it. Just because you've known someone for years dosen't mean they can't have a disease. Many people especially men carry these stds with no signs or symptoms and could pass something to you unintentionally. That is just a very risk situation and you have your child to think about. Also....."thinking" someone is clean isn't a great idea..I've known so many people who have gotten an std from someone who they "thought" and they swore they knew was clean...and wasn't. I mean think about it....people don't purposely get stds or spread them around..most people don't know they have them. Good luck.

.herpes and hpv are both examples of std's that can not be checked for in men unless their are obvious symptoms. .i would strongly advise against this just to be safe but if you do make sure to use condoms.

I am now asking, almost everyone to use a condom. Most are but you know it's not always that easy and some don't. My boyfriend already thinks I am difficult and over cautious.

Over cautious? How can anyone be over cautious with their own life and the life of their child?

Make everyone who touches you wear a condom! They aren't just 'touching' you, they are also touching the life of your unborn child. I'm sure in a few years, if the child turns up with hiv, you won't think all these people were 'probably' ok. It only takes one.

Wear a condom. I don't care if you have sex with 2 dozen men. But I do think you have a responsibility to make sure that baby is safe!

It would be that easy for me. No one would come near me and put my baby in danger just because they don't feel like wearing a condom. Simple as that.

There is pretty much no such thing as being difficult and over cautious when it comes to your baby's life.

Maybe you need to talk to your boyfriend about why he is not more concerned about your child's health.