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Didi09
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What Is Safe During Pregnancy ?
Posted: 05-10-07 21:35pm
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Hi,
I am not sure if my question belongs here
or in the pregnancy forum. I taught I
might have a better chance to received an
answer here. I am into my 15th weeks, my
boyfriend wants us, or should I say me to
have group sex. That is something I have
done but now I am getting more and more
worried, because of the baby. I cant find
any information on this and I am
embarrassed to ask my doctor. Please help.
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Tylanas
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Re: What Is Safe During Pregnancy ?
Posted: 05-10-07 21:39pm
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| Didi09
wrote: | Hi,
I am not sure if my question belongs here
or in the pregnancy forum. I taught I
might have a better chance to received an
answer here. I am into my 15th weeks, my
boyfriend wants us, or should I say me to
have group sex. That is something I have
done but now I am getting more and more
worried, because of the baby. I cant find
any information on this and I am
embarrassed to ask my doctor. Please
help. |
Well, safety during sex depends on how
rough you and your partners are
physically. If both of them are gentle
with you, do not penetrate deep and don't
contort you into odd positions, you should
be safe. Just be gentle and keep it slow
and sweet, and you should be safe 
Use a condom! (unless the extra partner
has been tested recently).
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Didi09
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Posted: 05-10-07 21:59pm
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There is more than 1 extra partner
involved 
Some use a condom and some don't but I
think they are safe. I know most of them
for many years.
They are reasonably not to rough but I do
feel more fragile and more tired at times.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-11-07 00:17am
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| Didi09
wrote: | There is more than 1 extra
partner involved
Some use a condom and some don't but I
think they are safe. I know most of them
for many years.
They are reasonably not to rough but I do
feel more fragile and more tired at
times. |
It's not just your body right now, you're
letting something grow in it so you need
to tell any partners involved to be
gentle! It's your responsibility alone to
keep you and your child safe.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 05-11-07 17:43pm
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Be really careful about STD's, certain
ones can cause birthing complications or
be passed to the child during birth.
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Didi09
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Posted: 05-11-07 21:21pm
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I will. Thank's to both of you.
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Jaydensmommy
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Posted: 05-14-07 21:40pm
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I really wouldn't suggest it. Just
because you've known someone for years
dosen't mean they can't have a disease.
Many people especially men carry these
stds with no signs or symptoms and could
pass something to you unintentionally.
That is just a very risk situation and you
have your child to think about.
Also....."thinking" someone is clean isn't
a great idea..I've known so many people
who have gotten an std from someone who
they "thought" and they swore they knew
was clean...and wasn't. I mean think
about it....people don't purposely get
stds or spread them around..most people
don't know they have them. Good luck.
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amethyst eyes
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Posted: 05-14-07 21:53pm
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.herpes and hpv are both examples of std's
that can not be checked for in men unless
their are obvious symptoms. .i would
strongly advise against this just to be
safe but if you do make sure to use
condoms.
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Didi09
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Posted: 05-15-07 21:09pm
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I am now asking, almost everyone to use a
condom. Most are but you know it's not
always that easy and some don't. My
boyfriend already thinks I am difficult
and over cautious.
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Posted: 05-15-07 21:38pm
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| Didi09
wrote: | | I am now asking, almost
everyone to use a condom. Most are but you
know it's not always that easy and some
don't. My boyfriend already thinks I am
difficult and over
cautious. |
Over cautious? How can anyone be over
cautious with their own life and the life
of their child?
Make everyone who touches you wear a
condom! They aren't just 'touching' you,
they are also touching the life of your
unborn child. I'm sure in a few years, if
the child turns up with hiv, you won't
think all these people were 'probably' ok.
It only takes one.
Wear a condom. I don't care if you have
sex with 2 dozen men. But I do think you
have a responsibility to make sure that
baby is safe!
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 05-15-07 21:47pm
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| Didi09
wrote: | | I am now asking, almost
everyone to use a condom. Most are but you
know it's not always that easy and some
don't. My boyfriend already thinks I am
difficult and over
cautious. |
It would be that easy for me. No one
would come near me and put my baby in
danger just because they don't feel like
wearing a condom. Simple as that.
There is pretty much no such thing as
being difficult and over cautious when it
comes to your baby's life.
Maybe you need to talk to your boyfriend
about why he is not more concerned about
your child's health.
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