why would you think he would kill you and your kids is it really that bad? has he threatened it? if i was you i would take a break if its really that bad

Because about 10 years ago it was real bad, and I always thought it was because of his blood pressure, he pulled out a gun and pointed it at me after a really "silly" argument, but since then things seemed ok,,, and now, it's something about the look in his eyes. I called hoping to talk to his doctor about it, but I have to make an appointment just to see him even if just to talk... so that's why I'm wondering,, does the blood pressure cause this type of anger in people... Like I said, I'm being real careful taking his stress into consideration, keeping my mouth shut because every little thing seems to annoy him. but I'm still worried and stressing myself on a daily basis. I've thought about leaving, but I'm scared even for him.

i understand ...but think of this is it best for you and your kids to be in that situation? also blood pressure can make you more easily irritated it happened to me but i dont think i got bad enough that i was going to pull a gun out thats really extreme

I do love him, we've got a long history, been together 15 years, in love for over 20.
I would have left along time ago, but I've convinced myself it's not his fault, that it's the high blood pressure causing him to react this way, that's why I came on this forum to ask if this was normal. I still blame the B.P. but at this point I don't know if I should put up with him "it", and put myself and my children through another hard time,,, because it's not always this way, sometimes it's wonderful!! Thank you so much for your time with your replies!

High blood pressure does not cause people to pull out a gun on their loved ones.
You have a real problem on your hands. Get help. Call a hotline or something. You are his wife and if you see that look in his eyes again I think that you are endangering yourself and your children by not taking action.
Everyone (or almost everyone ) has problems with finances and many people have high b/p. That does not cause anger in any one. Anger is about what is going on in someone's head.
Your husband sounds dangerous and if the only reason you didn't leave him is his b/p I think you are fooling yourself.
Get help.
(Sorry to sound so tough but yours is a very worrying post).
I wish you all the best
Lynn

whether you watch wrestling or not, there was a young pro wrestler that just killed his wife & 7 yr old son then ended up hangin himself a day later. Chris Benoit. It happens.
Veronicca V

Hi,
I have have high blood pressure for over 2 years. To the point of where my dr put me on medication. It has never made me violent or irritated or in any way mean.

I don't mean to sound harsh or talk bad about him. I've been in an abusive relationship... and that "look in his eyes" is when I knew he was probably going to snap and hurt me or have a violent rage. I would highly advise you to at least "take a break" while the going is easier. You don't want to take off when he's in a violent rage, it's easier to get out sooner. I know it sounds bad, believe me, i've been there. My friends told me to leave and I didn't.. my family told me to leave and because it wasn't what i wanted to hear i ignored them. It's a dangerous situation. It's not you or the blood pressure. He has anger issues and before he hurts you or your kids he needs to learn how to control his temper. When they get in that rage mode they don't necessarily think of the consequences. I believe thats why a lot of people do the homicide suicide. People have issues - some more than others . I believe that a person can get into that "rage" stage because they don't know how to deal/handle their own anger and can hurt someone bad.. and after the fact they realize what they've done and thats when a lot of people harm themselves because they can't live with what they've done. Again i know this isn't what you want to hear, but i've been there done that and I'm only 23. I would higly advise talking to a couselor or at least getting yourself and the kids out of that situation.

I'm with you on that! Life is too precious.
Veronicca

You don't need to worry about it because it is not too dangerous.And there are many
good treatments at present to resolve it.

Hi hisbetterhalf,
It does happen. Bad marriages are as true a fact as life itself. I just hope the best for you. And hope you find a solution for it. If you need anything you can always share it here on the forum. Troubles are halved and happiness is doubled by sharing.
Good luck.