This is really long, and I am sorry.. I
just feel so alone and wanted to spell out
my WHOLE situation.
I'm 6 weeks pregnant and worried because
this is my second child. We have a
beautiful 16 month old daughter already
and currently live in an in-law apartment
of my parents house. It's 1 bedroom, so my
daughter sleeps in the walk in closet (it
works! ). Anyway, I'm really scared right
now. My fiance is completely against me
having this baby. He didn't work all
winter because he left his old job for a
new one in November, then they didn't have
enough work for him so we've been BROKE.
We survived on what I make Nannying (140$
on a good week) and my credit card, but
didn't pay rent for the last 6 months (not
to mention my Dad paid my car isurance for
me). He was supposed to start working FT
April 1st, but he's only worked a total of
6 days since then. I keep trying to get
him to get a new job but he seems so
reluctant! I found out yesterday that his
new job told him from the START that they
wouldn't have work for him till April and
that he just left his old job because "he
was sick of working saturdays". I'm
furious! We're in the hole about 4 grand
with my credit card and I just started
financing a car in december, and now I'm
pregnant again. I haven't told my parents
because I know they are going to freak out
on me, ESPECIALLY since i was pregnant
last october and had a misscarriage. I've
had a tough time getting on birth control
because of my migraines and even got an
IUD which FELL OUT. (They are EXPENSIVE,
but it's basically the only thing my doc
will let me use because of my migraines. )
My fiance wants me to get an abortion, and
although I am pro-choice, I don't believe
that is the choice for me. I've thought of
adoption, but although my fiance and I are
both adopted by wonderful families, but we
both know the pain that comes with and I
don't think I can ever hand my child to
someone. I'm just scared. He wont even
talk to me about it and not many people
know. I'm 22 years old, broke, my parents
will probably throw me out of the house..
I am so depressed. I want to celebrate
this wonderful life growing in me, but
it's so hard right now.
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Mabel
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Posted: 05-07-07 18:42pm
I am really sorry you are so stressed out
right now.
1. Stop using credit cards. Period. No
good can come of it. Paying interest on
money you don't have is not a going to get
you anywhere.
2. Get on assistance. Medical assistance.
Wic. Food stamps. Something that can help
you feed your family. Which is what I'm
assuming you are using your credit cards
for.
3. Your husband gets a job. A full time
job. You two are young. Working on
saturdays is hardly a national crisis. So
he works on saturday for awhile, the world
isn't going to end. What has he been doing
all winter waiting around for a better job
that wasn't going to get better until
spring?
4. Do whatever you can to help your
parents - help them clean, help them with
yard work, etc. There are a lot of ways to
'pay' rent and helping is going to show
them how much you want to be there.
I don't have any advice about your
pregnancy. That is entirely your choice,
but I will say that Planned parenthood has
free birth control for when you are not
pregnant in the future. IUDs are not
expensive and you can get fitted for
nearly nothing there. (if you are in the
states!)
