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KissyBai912

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Joined: 25 Aug 2003
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Location: Venice, Florida
He's Just Too Much.....
Posted: 02-22-04 12:26pm

Ok, my friend chris, he is great and all, I mean, he's been here for me through out this whole pregnancy and I don't want anyone to think that I don't appreciate him. But here lately he is just getting to be too much. I mean, he calls every morning and wakes me up, and acts offended if I don't want to talk. And then, my mom brings him to my child birth classes even after I told him I didn't want him to go. I told my mom this when it was too late, but she just said she doesn't understand why I wouldn't want him to go. And he's helping my mom with my baby shower on saturday, and she and he have this idea that he is going to be in the room when I am in labor. I don't want to hurt his feeling but I really don't want him there and he is just around too much. He doesn't seem to understand that I would like to have some time to myself befire the baby gets here.....Cuz once he's here I will have zero time for me! And it is really weird, because he is constantly buying stuff for josh. And don't think I don't really appreciate this, but he is starting to act like josh is his baby! And everytime he even gets near my stomach I push his hand away. I guess it wouldn't be so bad if this guy didn't have a history of liking me on and off. But worst thing is, my mom loves him and brings him over and stuff without even asking me! I know she means well but I kind of wish she would back off and mind her own too. Am I over-reacting or is this really too much? Anyone have any ideas on how I can tell them to back off without seeming like a complete health forum? Any ideas on what I can do to make it seem not so bad? I really appreciate his support but it's almost like he's trying to take dewitt's place.....It kind of creeps me out.


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Scarf

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Joined: 12 Feb 2004
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Location: Ontario, Canada

Posted: 02-22-04 12:50pm

Hey hun!
I definitely dont think you're overreating! Id do the exact same thing. What I suggest is that you invite them bother over to your house, prepare a nice meal and over dinner time tell them how you feel. Mention that you're not trying to hurt any of them but this is how you feel about this guy always being around. Id tell them what you told us. I'd get the hint without being offended! You just have to be strong. Remember, its your pregnancy and you're allowed to call the shots! :d if this doesnt work (which would be amazing) then just try to ignore them as much as possible! Hehe. I doubt that'd have to happen. Good luck with everything!
Shannon
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KissyBai912

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Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida

Posted: 02-22-04 12:54pm

Lol thanks.....But invite them to dinner? My mom lives here!!! Lol. Or maybe you meant dewitt.....But he lives in kentucky. He's not really a part of this problem. I just said his name because it feels like chris is trying to take dewitt's place. And I don't want that. Joshua has a daddy. And his name isn't chris!!! Lol. Thanks for the advice....I thought no one was ever going to respond!!!
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Scarf

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Location: Ontario, Canada

Posted: 02-22-04 13:02pm

I meant invite chris to dinner and your mother (but she lives there hehe...Didnt know that) just talk to him and your mom (so she knows exactly how you feel about chris being around all the time) meh..Cant hurt to try! :d
shannon
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KissyBai912

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Location: Venice, Florida

Posted: 02-22-04 13:09pm

Yeah I guess it can't, it's a good idea except for the fact the I have to see him again!!! Lol. I dunno. I'll just try and tell him I need space!!! I don't want him around so much. Or calling me and waking me up every day. He health forum because he thinks 12 hours of sleep is enough....Then I yell at him that when he's pregnant he can health forum at me for sleeping too much! I'm saving up on sleep for when josh gets here! Lol. Thanks for the advice. I might try it......In a few days! Lol. Luckily he doesn't come over much during the week......Because of school. Lol.
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insurancegirl

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Posted: 02-23-04 11:16am

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smith8500

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Joined: 17 Sep 2003
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Location: Louisiana
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Posted: 02-23-04 12:17pm

Oh wow. I think i'd hurt my mom! Lol I swear that would really make me angry! Take it easy. Maybe sit them both down like suggested! And talk about it with him and your mother. Explain that you don't want him as a father for your child. You want a friend for yourself and someone to care for your child but not him as a father. Tell him you appreciate what he's trying to do..... But it's not necessary!
Love,
chandaa
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