Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
He's Just Too Much..... Posted: 02-22-04 12:26pm
Ok, my friend chris, he is great and all,
I mean, he's been here for me through out
this whole pregnancy and I don't want
anyone to think that I don't appreciate
him. But here lately he is just getting
to be too much. I mean, he calls every
morning and wakes me up, and acts offended
if I don't want to talk. And then, my mom
brings him to my child birth classes even
after I told him I didn't want him to go.
I told my mom this when it was too late,
but she just said she doesn't understand
why I wouldn't want him to go. And he's
helping my mom with my baby shower on
saturday, and she and he have this idea
that he is going to be in the room when I
am in labor. I don't want to hurt his
feeling but I really don't want him there
and he is just around too much. He
doesn't seem to understand that I would
like to have some time to myself befire
the baby gets here.....Cuz once he's here
I will have zero time for me! And it is
really weird, because he is constantly
buying stuff for josh. And don't think I
don't really appreciate this, but he is
starting to act like josh is his baby!
And everytime he even gets near my
stomach I push his hand away. I guess it
wouldn't be so bad if this guy didn't have
a history of liking me on and off. But
worst thing is, my mom loves him and
brings him over and stuff without even
asking me! I know she means well but I
kind of wish she would back off and mind
her own too. Am I over-reacting or is
this really too much? Anyone have any
ideas on how I can tell them to back off
without seeming like a complete health
forum? Any ideas on what I can do to make
it seem not so bad? I really appreciate
his support but it's almost like he's
trying to take dewitt's place.....It kind
of creeps me out.
*~*~*~*~*~me and mah mini
nut~*~*~*~*~*
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Scarf
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Posts: 1062 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posted: 02-22-04 12:50pm
Hey hun!
I definitely dont think you're
overreating! Id do the exact same thing.
What I suggest is that you invite them
bother over to your house, prepare a nice
meal and over dinner time tell them how
you feel. Mention that you're not trying
to hurt any of them but this is how you
feel about this guy always being around.
Id tell them what you told us. I'd get
the hint without being offended! You just
have to be strong. Remember, its your
pregnancy and you're allowed to call the
shots! :d if this doesnt work (which
would be amazing) then just try to ignore
them as much as possible! Hehe. I doubt
that'd have to happen. Good luck with
everything!
Shannon
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 02-22-04 12:54pm
Lol thanks.....But invite them to dinner?
My mom lives here!!! Lol. Or maybe you
meant dewitt.....But he lives in kentucky.
He's not really a part of this problem.
I just said his name because it feels like
chris is trying to take dewitt's place.
And I don't want that. Joshua has a
daddy. And his name isn't chris!!! Lol.
Thanks for the advice....I thought no one
was ever going to respond!!!
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Scarf
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Posts: 1062 Location: Ontario, Canada
Posted: 02-22-04 13:02pm
I meant invite chris to dinner and your
mother (but she lives there hehe...Didnt
know that) just talk to him and your mom
(so she knows exactly how you feel about
chris being around all the time) meh..Cant
hurt to try! :d
shannon
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 02-22-04 13:09pm
Yeah I guess it can't, it's a good idea
except for the fact the I have to see him
again!!! Lol. I dunno. I'll just try
and tell him I need space!!! I don't want
him around so much. Or calling me and
waking me up every day. He health forum
because he thinks 12 hours of sleep is
enough....Then I yell at him that when
he's pregnant he can health forum at me
for sleeping too much! I'm saving up on
sleep for when josh gets here! Lol.
Thanks for the advice. I might try
it......In a few days! Lol. Luckily he
doesn't come over much during the
week......Because of school. Lol.
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 02-23-04 11:16am
Last edited by insurancegirl on 10-07-04 12:20pm; edited 1 time in total
Oh wow. I think i'd hurt my mom! Lol I
swear that would really make me angry!
Take it easy. Maybe sit them both down
like suggested! And talk about it with
him and your mother. Explain that you
don't want him as a father for your child.
You want a friend for yourself and
someone to care for your child but not him
as a father. Tell him you appreciate what
he's trying to do..... But it's not
necessary!
Love,
chandaa
