Joined: 07 May 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Hamilton, Ontario Canada
I Am Seeing Some Signs And Not Sure What to Do! Posted: 05-07-07 07:57am
My name is Sandi. I have an 18 year old
daughter who has only been with her
boyfriend just two weeks. Already he said
that he loves her. I will tell you a few
more warning signs. He is 23 first of
all. She gets up in the morning for
school and he shows up to spend this time
with her. She comes home and he spends
her every waking hour with her. She
spends all of her time with him and I have
noticed that I never see her unless she
wants something from me then it is just
long enough to get it. He gets very upset
when she wants to spend time with other
family members. He also wants her to get
pregnent so he says she won't leave him.
I have brought it to her attention what it
is that I am seeing and she just says that
she doesn't see it and that she is not
going to put up with it, but she can't do
anything about if she doesn't see it
herself. I know there is something that
is not right but I am not sure what to do
or how to make my daughter see this.
Please any and all advice would be
appreciated.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-07-07 10:02am
hello sandi.I'm sory about this situation
but I don't think there is anything you
really can do.he does sound like he is
controlling and that comes with abuse.she
won't see it unless she wants to.This is a
situation when she has to make her own
decision without help form anyone.If she
makes the wrong one,well she will learn
from it hopefully and move on to better
things.If I were you I wouldn't give her
anything anymore unles she needs it.I know
it must feel like she is just using you
but this is a new relationship and the new
will not go away for quite a while.maybe
after the new wears off she will see a
little more of how she really is.Maybe
keep showing her what you see but don't
pester her or she wont want to listen
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-08-07 09:46am
Unfortunately Melissas right...........not
much you can do about it............when
someone other than their parents thinks
they're the greatest thing sliced
bread...........the cats
meow..............it's not a fair
fight..................life............but
not fair.
Keep your eye on the situation, act
accordingly................under your
roof? your rules..............school work
suffers.............internet, cellphone
etc disappear. We're parents and there's
the unwritten rule of being allowed to
"snoop"............discretely of
course...................and don't give
up..............they're all pretty much
self absorbed at this age and it's all
about them...................it's nothing
personal and don't let her bring you down
to her level with screaming
matches.....................play the spy
and continue to "plant" seeds of
knowledge..................they listen
more than you think................my teen
girl got dumped, moved on and wised up
