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Q: I Am Not Sure If This Person Is Abusive
asked by: rdm138 on May 5th, 2007
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The person who lives across the street from me calls herself my friend but ever since I have known her if I do something that she doesn't like even if it is in my own home she blows up and starts screaming at me cussing at me and calling me names. Telling me that I am a horrible parent and someone needs to take my daughter from me. But other times she tells me that I am a wonderful parent and my daughter is lucky to have a mom like me. she has told me that I should have been with her on my daughters birthday because she was upset that her sons birthday was in two days and she can't see him. She stood outside out apartment and called me a drunk and a worthless person. THis was so every one could hear it. My daugher and husband heard it. Then she turns around and asks if she can borrow something. My daughter has a prgram at school and she said that I cannot stop her from showing up. That even if she has a problem with me that she will still talk to my daughter who is five. That i cannot stop her. I need some help I feel trapped can someone give me some advise.
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paul995
replied on May 6th, 2007
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that's some weird neighbor you have there. Well, I guess you have to talk to her, or let your husband talk to her. It's definitely embarassing when she shouts and the whole neighborhood hears it. It's pretty annoying I must say.
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Spirit
replied on May 6th, 2007
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"Weird" is one way to describe this neighbour...................potentially dangerous is another.............don't sit idly by waiting for the next attack. You don't want to be a victim of this persons obvious emotional problems..............from this time on...........record all incidents, time, dates witnesses, what was said etc.(in case you have to take it further)

You may also want to gently tell her to ease off.............of course when she's not in the "maniac" phase............and I did say gently and see how that goes.....that'll give you some indication of her reaction if you decide to go all out............telling her to please disappear!

And what do you normally do when you don't particularily like someone? You avoid them....................even if it takes a few months................find reasons to not be in the same place as her or if she comes over.............find reasons not to be home....................yeah I know you shouldn't have to............but given time she'll find a new victim and your families off the hook Smile
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princessnae
replied on May 7th, 2007
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Get School, Law Enforcement Involved
This is a potentially abusive relationship. Let your school know about the situation and that this person is not welcome near your child. Second record all incidents (just like the poster said, time dates witnesses).

Also, she has no right to speak to your daughter. If she comes near your daughter you have every right to call the police, no matter what she says.
Unless she has a child at the school she has no right to be there and do let the school know.

Explain to your daughter that she is not to talk to her no matter what. Cut the ties from her and don't take any crap. If she has a key change your locks. Be careful not to get yourself caught in this web of drama, it can be dangerous. Dont feel like you have to take this from her, you dont.

Write everything down and contact the police. They can give you more advice and help direct you.
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Willa Weintraub
replied on May 7th, 2007
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sounds like you need a restraining order.
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someoneneedsadvice
replied on May 7th, 2007
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Wow
I am glad that I don't have a neighbor like that. She is not your friend - Sounds Bi-polar to me. When she comes over - tell her you are busy or that you do not feel well. Stay away from her!! Since she is so crazy continue being polite though!
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