Hey Sweetie, First of all you ARE NOT a screw up. It is wrong for your parents to compare you to your brohter or anyone else. I remember all too well when I was 18 going on 19. My life was a incredibly mess......WORD! I hit the big 50 this year and have I ever learned lifelessons! As for having occasionaly drinks, I ma all for it. I have smoked pot in my life and done other thigns as well. Not proud of a lot of hte things I have done, but i am proud of the accomplishments I have achieved. Even though I DID NOT live up to the expectations of everyone else....You did grad. high school? Have you ever considered a Technical college? You could still help with the breeder. I myself have seen too many unwanted little animals (without pedigrees) begging for homes at shelters and it breaks my heart...I have a daughter who 23, so I do understand where you are coming from. I think besides the bipolar thing, you are really trying ot discover who you are and your place in life......If at all possible, you should consider continuing your education to learn a trade and use the $ you earn from helping the breeder for fun things. Yep, I am a MOM and I sound like one, but I DO NOT look like one nor, act like one most of the time. I do know I wish I had someone who would have told me the things I am telling you now....but not sure if I would have listened either...Just know you are special and do not allow ANYONE to get you down. If you remember nothing else, remember this.......only YOU allow how to let things said to you effect you..........you have the control over your own feelings.....choose to be happy and choose to live each day asif it were your last! Always here for you!