Sexual Health - Men Forum - Too High of Libido

Tylanas

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Actually no.

What you need to do is talk to her about this. While 3-4 times a month is by no means a bad amount, sex should be a balance between you and her. If you want more, then I don't see why you shouldn't have more. The thing is, the lessening sex is probably due to a loss of libido on her part... and it may make her sad, she may be frustrated about it. For all we know, she's one of the girls posting on the women's health forum saying "I've lost my libido!" I don't mean that literally, but you get my point I hope.

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wildwings

replied on May 3rd, 2007

New User

Thank you for the response!

The thing is is that I HAVE talked to her about.. more than once. And after we talk about it, we do increase our sexual activity for about a week(like mentioned in the first post). But then after that week of increased sex, it goes right back down to zero.

I think I just need to accept the fact that her libido is down from before and get used to it either until it goes back up, or just get used to it period.. Sex isn't the only good part about a relationship! But it is a definite plus! (plus it makes you feel more connected in an emotional and physical way, which is was seems to be bothering me the most, we've lost our physical connection.. and it stinks!)

Thanks!

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MikeH90

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Experienced User

wildwings wrote:

Thank you for the response!

The thing is is that I HAVE talked to her about.. more than once. And after we talk about it, we do increase our sexual activity for about a week(like mentioned in the first post). But then after that week of increased sex, it goes right back down to zero.

I think I just need to accept the fact that her libido is down from before and get used to it either until it goes back up, or just get used to it period.. Sex isn't the only good part about a relationship! But it is a definite plus! (plus it makes you feel more connected in an emotional and physical way, which is was seems to be bothering me the most, we've lost our physical connection.. and it stinks!)

Thanks!

are you certain she hasn't lost interest in you and the relationship? Could she be getting it somewhere else?

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Willa Weintraub

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

MikeH90 wrote:

wildwings wrote:

Thank you for the response!

The thing is is that I HAVE talked to her about.. more than once. And after we talk about it, we do increase our sexual activity for about a week(like mentioned in the first post). But then after that week of increased sex, it goes right back down to zero.

I think I just need to accept the fact that her libido is down from before and get used to it either until it goes back up, or just get used to it period.. Sex isn't the only good part about a relationship! But it is a definite plus! (plus it makes you feel more connected in an emotional and physical way, which is was seems to be bothering me the most, we've lost our physical connection.. and it stinks!)

Thanks!

are you certain she hasn't lost interest in you and the relationship? Could she be getting it somewhere else?

that is a possibility,but I am the same way as her.I only have sex maybe once or twice a week and it might not be because she is getting it somewhere else or she is not attracted to you anymore,but when your with someone for so long,it gets old and you have to kick it up a notch or two.how about not asking her for sex or trying so hard.Have fun with it and just do foreplay for a while.mess around with her through out the day,get her thinking dirty thoughts or something.it works for me lol

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MikeH90

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Experienced User

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

MikeH90 wrote:

wildwings wrote:

Thank you for the response!

The thing is is that I HAVE talked to her about.. more than once. And after we talk about it, we do increase our sexual activity for about a week(like mentioned in the first post). But then after that week of increased sex, it goes right back down to zero.

I think I just need to accept the fact that her libido is down from before and get used to it either until it goes back up, or just get used to it period.. Sex isn't the only good part about a relationship! But it is a definite plus! (plus it makes you feel more connected in an emotional and physical way, which is was seems to be bothering me the most, we've lost our physical connection.. and it stinks!)

Thanks!

are you certain she hasn't lost interest in you and the relationship? Could she be getting it somewhere else?

that is a possibility,but I am the same way as her.I only have sex maybe once or twice a week and it might not be because she is getting it somewhere else or she is not attracted to you anymore,but when your with someone for so long,it gets old and you have to kick it up a notch or two.how about not asking her for sex or trying so hard.Have fun with it and just do foreplay for a while.mess around with her through out the day,get her thinking dirty thoughts or something.it works for me lol

sometimes the journey is better than the destination.

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Willa Weintraub

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

MikeH90 wrote:

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

MikeH90 wrote:

wildwings wrote:

Thank you for the response!

The thing is is that I HAVE talked to her about.. more than once. And after we talk about it, we do increase our sexual activity for about a week(like mentioned in the first post). But then after that week of increased sex, it goes right back down to zero.

I think I just need to accept the fact that her libido is down from before and get used to it either until it goes back up, or just get used to it period.. Sex isn't the only good part about a relationship! But it is a definite plus! (plus it makes you feel more connected in an emotional and physical way, which is was seems to be bothering me the most, we've lost our physical connection.. and it stinks!)

Thanks!

are you certain she hasn't lost interest in you and the relationship? Could she be getting it somewhere else?

that is a possibility,but I am the same way as her.I only have sex maybe once or twice a week and it might not be because she is getting it somewhere else or she is not attracted to you anymore,but when your with someone for so long,it gets old and you have to kick it up a notch or two.how about not asking her for sex or trying so hard.Have fun with it and just do foreplay for a while.mess around with her through out the day,get her thinking dirty thoughts or something.it works for me lol

sometimes the journey is better than the destination.

ok,well it's a try right?

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MikeH90

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Experienced User

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

MikeH90 wrote:

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

MikeH90 wrote:

wildwings wrote:

Thank you for the response!

The thing is is that I HAVE talked to her about.. more than once. And after we talk about it, we do increase our sexual activity for about a week(like mentioned in the first post). But then after that week of increased sex, it goes right back down to zero.

I think I just need to accept the fact that her libido is down from before and get used to it either until it goes back up, or just get used to it period.. Sex isn't the only good part about a relationship! But it is a definite plus! (plus it makes you feel more connected in an emotional and physical way, which is was seems to be bothering me the most, we've lost our physical connection.. and it stinks!)

Thanks!

are you certain she hasn't lost interest in you and the relationship? Could she be getting it somewhere else?

that is a possibility,but I am the same way as her.I only have sex maybe once or twice a week and it might not be because she is getting it somewhere else or she is not attracted to you anymore,but when your with someone for so long,it gets old and you have to kick it up a notch or two.how about not asking her for sex or trying so hard.Have fun with it and just do foreplay for a while.mess around with her through out the day,get her thinking dirty thoughts or something.it works for me lol

sometimes the journey is better than the destination.

ok,well it's a try right?

no doubt. Flirting and the anticipation of the possibility of gettin some always makes me hornier!

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Willa Weintraub

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

when I can't have it is when I want it more Laughing

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MikeH90

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Experienced User

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

when I can't have it is when I want it more Laughing

me too.

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Willa Weintraub

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

so wildwings,our advise to you is make her want it but don't give it to her.after a bit you'll have the best sex of your life! Laughing

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Llewellyn

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

that is a possibility,but I am the same way as her.I only have sex maybe once or twice a week and it might not be because she is getting it somewhere else or she is not attracted to you anymore,but when your with someone for so long,it gets old and you have to kick it up a notch or two.how about not asking her for sex or trying so hard.Have fun with it and just do foreplay for a while.mess around with her through out the day,get her thinking dirty thoughts or something.it works for me lol

It sounds like I am kind of like you, Melissa. In the very beginning of the relationship, I want sex all of the time. Then I taper off to maybe once a week, if that.

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wildwings

replied on May 3rd, 2007

New User

Thanks for the replies everyone! I really hope that she isn't getting her fulfillment from somewhere else.. I'm about 99.99% sure that she isn't, shes very loyal and is very much in love with me!

I would LOVE just doing the foreplay and not even ending up having sex, but that's the thing, she doesn't even want to do anything physical towards each other.. and when I try to get something started I get my hand pushed away or I get a "no, not right now" in a disgusted voice.. I wish I could get her riled up and wanting it, but I just can't! It doesn't work anymore! I hope it's not that I don't have "game" anymore! Rolling Eyes

Thanks everyone, I appreciate all the input!

I think next time I actually do get her wanting it, I'm going to turn her down Twisted Evil

hehe, thats just mean, as I well know, but I think it might just work!

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Tylanas

replied on May 3rd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

hah

SOunds like a good plan, unless of course she's put a lot of effort into it and it seems to be something special.

What I would do is start giving her little kisses, no matter where you are. Just little things. DOn't bother trying to "make out", just give her a peck on her cheek, neck, ear, etc. Touch her; gentle touches anywhere, even her breasts, but don't make it into anything. These are subtle ways you can get her attention without her resisting, because they're so fleeting, what's she going to do? She might not even know exactly what you're doing. But things like this may get her turned on throughout the day.

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Willa Weintraub

replied on May 4th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Eiri wrote:

hah

SOunds like a good plan, unless of course she's put a lot of effort into it and it seems to be something special.

What I would do is start giving her little kisses, no matter where you are. Just little things. DOn't bother trying to "make out", just give her a peck on her cheek, neck, ear, etc. Touch her; gentle touches anywhere, even her breasts, but don't make it into anything. These are subtle ways you can get her attention without her resisting, because they're so fleeting, what's she going to do? She might not even know exactly what you're doing. But things like this may get her turned on throughout the day.

thats perfect!

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wildwings

replied on May 4th, 2007

New User

Thanks! I will give it a try!!

wildwings

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fiona05

replied on May 5th, 2007

Supporter

maybe she thinks you are pestering her too much and you are always trying to get into her pants! maybe you could give her physical attention but without trying to lead it into sex. little kisses or stroking; on her arm, on the side of her neck, on her tummy... whatever but not being too invasive or too in-her-face. make it gentle and loving and not neccessarily sexual. rather than trying to convince her to have sex, let her come round to the idea in her own time Smile

eiri basically said it, i think. hope it goes well for ya.

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