I am in my early 40's and have been in a relationship for a little over 2 years. Also, been trying to get divorced for the past 3 years. For the first year and a half he was kind, considerate, patient and communicated, now he still can be kind, considerate and patient but his form of communication is sudden outbursts and wants it over right then. Then he calls and says he doesn't know what is wrong with him. When he gets in this type of mood he always says the meanest and most hateful things to me. In the past year, my mother passed away, since then I am taking care of my 77 year old father who has Parkinson's Disease, have a 17 year old daughter. I know I don't need to be in this type of relationship but the problem is that some of my personal belongings are at his house and I don't know what is the appropriate way to get my things without having another fight. (when he says he wants it over and my things gone he says he wants it gone right then and there) When he gets like that there is no talking to him at all. How do I do this? And why does this keep happening to me? I forgot to add earlier that this started to get really bad after my mother passed and I moved back to care for my father. (after Hurricane Katrina my job moved us to a temporary building an hour and 1/2 away and I staed up there Monday through Friday until my mother got sick and passed) Altogether I was in Hattiesburg 8 months. PLEASE HELP!