I never watched the show. But I remember hearing in the news that they weren't going to do another season because of their loss. I assumed it was a miscarriage. How do you not prepare your children for news like that? Maybe, they didn't know it was a life threatening condition and that she would just have problems. What a horrible experience to have, let alone in front of america.

http://ehealthforum.com/health/topic88745. html

of course, i hope this does not bring up abortion. im just posting the topic so people can read about it if they haven't already.

I think they were hoping for a miracle, to be honest. They knew the baby would be born with serious health problems, but they were probably hoping that she would pull through. Unfortunately she didn't.

It's extremely sad. I don't know how I would begin to deal with something like that.

is this a fictional programme? i've never heard of it...

trust me laura, you don't deal with it- you just live everyday best you can

No it's not fiction.

I don't like the way they're trying to bypass the grieving process.. that's terrible. "We don't look back".. it's like they don't even wanna remember the daughter they created.

i haven't seen it but i definitely think they should've prepared the other kids for potential bad news.

it sounds awful

yeah, i think they should have too. or if they didn't they should have at least told them off camera.

I think what they did was brave. They're trying to show people that *everyone* grieves. and you *can* pull through it.

Of course, people are going to take it differently. You must have not watched the whole episode. I saw them on 2-3 occasions pray to the .lord and bless .victoria .ann(the baby) for coming to them. Even if it was briefly.

What did you expect them to terminate the baby because she had a problem??? THey have the funds to care for a mentally/physically retarded child and were willing.

They now plan on adopting.

Sarah

nobody implied they should have terminated. we're all saying they should have prepared the other children for what might happen (and did). they knew the baby had a good chance of not making it but they didn't tell anyone that. those little boys (i'm assuming, i don't know the show or the family) had no idea there might be a problem and had to go through the shock of finding out their new baby sister had died on camera.

i also don't like the way they're acting like "grieve and get over it". not everyone grieves the same and it's a really personal thing and you need to take as much time as you need.

maybe i read it the wrong way, but that's how i took it.

i never said they should have terminated the pregnancy, thanks, i don't agree with abortion. the whole topic is about them telling the boys on camera instead of preparing them first. I do think it's brave that they kept on with the pregnancy, but I think they should have told the kids off camera instead of breaking the news to them in front of america, it was awful.

Wow ladies, I wasn't refering to what yall had said.

I agree with that.

What I put in bold from .zan's post is what I don't agree with.

Sarah

It shows that hey losing a child happens to the rich and famouse and not just to us...It is hard to loos a child and you grieve in your own way that may have been the only way they know how so thery dont just fall apart and never recover there have been those days for me but i pray everyday that my little boy is up there and is happy. and I pray to god everynight that he will bless me with another child...and i am thankful that you guys are here for me for when i do start to fall you guys are there to catch me.

ah that is so sweet hun! i hope you get another baby. me, i don't want anymore kids but my little girl will always be right here in my heart

nice to know that my kids will always have an angel looking over them.

I really didn't think anyone would jump down my throat for having an opinion.

But this part of the story just made me think "what the heck??".. I admit I *didn't* see the programme, so I'm just going by what it says on that link..

"Rev. Run: diggy might have taken it the hardest, but I didn't let him. I had him out on the skateboard the first day. Basically we teach our kids thankfulness. We all cry, but not a long period of it. We don't have pictures [of victoria anne]. We don't look back. We don't want the walls of our house to start crying, and everything to just crumble around us."

The "I didn't let him" part seems a lil harsh. Let the poor bugger grieve.

It's just the way he worded it that bugs me.. but again, I didn't see it so I'm just giving an opinion based on how that all sounds in my head.

And no, I wouldn't have expected such devout christians to terminate a pregnancy.. personally I think I would have done, but that thought never crossed my mind while I was reading it.

i agree with you, zanny.

i agree with that 100%. i dont agree with them at all. its unhealthy to not greive. if you just bottle all those emotions up like that and not look back, it can result in some messed up emotional problems.

I was completely shocked that they showed that on tv. Unforunately I did see that. I don't watch the show, but I happened to catch this particular episode. I thought it was terrible to put their kids through that, especially those young boys....they had no clue their baby sister might not make it. When kids are that young, they don't know about miscarriages and stillbirths...I really disagree with how they "handled it". To me, it was very cold hearted and seemed as if it was no big deal.
And it's not like they showed the episode just one time....I've seen it on 2 times so far.