It is all up to u if u think u are mentally and emotionally ready for it.. but if i was u i would wait i wish that i would have known everything that i know now .A.N.D if u do decide to make sure that u use condoms and don't let him use the "pullout method"

Just cause your friends are dong it does not mean you have too...... And just to do it to be cool cause everyone esle can make youthink "what in the hell haveI done....way after you've done it. Virginity is a very special thing. If you are willing to have sex with this person, you should really know this person, not just think youknow them. Its somthing you can never ever get back................Maybe kids today do not even consider this a sacred thing now days..... You are very young........I did not consider sex, way until I was 18. I thought about it several times....but I was taought, everytime you ahve sex with an individual, you take a chance on that person being a father............its true. Condoms break, the pill does not always work..its not worth the risk. You have your whole future ahead of you. If this person respects you and loves you.....he will be willing to wait as long as it takes until you make the decision yourself......I'm just a Mom what do I know? Theres lots you can do and not have intercourse!

I applaud to your context highly. very well said. no disrespect to you ckayyy93; what is with the underage sex lately, it seems to get younger and younger? soon there'll be girls just starting off hitting puberty and wanting to have sex.
I honestly say, finish school and get to know this guy a bit more. Truly, six months isn't long enough time to really put trust into another person. I have four syblings that are the ages of 13,14,and 15 and I coddle them crazy, like keeping track of chicken hens or what not, trying to protect them; I even had sat down to speak with them all about stds and intercourse. I had great help for a demonstration by their step sister who has gotten pregnant at the age of 14 (gotten an abortion) and now at the age 18 (which she had no choice but to keep this one). they're still only kids , and honestly so are you. yeah I'm sure I'm getting the impression "OMFG....who's this guy?!11oneone...what ev!".
I'm 19 and I had sex with my girlfriend at the age of 18 (I recall it being the legal age) and I was with her for two years since I was 16 [two years being with her without subject to intercourse]. A month after, we broke up. Long story short, even two years wasn't good enough to lose my virginity in a relationship.
I mean I can partially agree with fragile rose...but mainly if she was giving this advice to a more matured woman.

I honestly hate seeing girls regretting something they could of easily said no to and been patient for acouple more years; seeing girls drop out of high school to attend to their childs working part time jobs. I'd extremely advise you to wait. At the age 14, no girl or guy should be ready. Don't risk the chance of being a mother or a virus provider that has stds.

Well sometimes kids not meaning that i am not one.. cause even though i am 18 i am still but a child myself.. don't like being told no and being not looked down on but umm what is that word oh yea critisized bout what they do.. i am not making her decisions honestly if i was her i would not do it cause i found out not that long ago my boyfriend that i had been with for .S.I.X months was a women beater and he ended up beating me.. i mean just from what she said all i was trying to do was help her without tellling her what to do...

I understand what you mean. I didn't intend it to sound like what you said was wrong.
there's another example ckayyy93, six months isnt a sure thing; things can change quickly. getting pregnant dramatically changes your life whether you you like it or not. Please rethink your descisions over, and if you do plan on having sex, don't reluy just on birth control...make sure he uses a condom.
I may not be a girl, nor have experienced the pain...but I can assure you, quoting my step sister, "it's hell going through labor". The fact of the matter, I rarely talk to my step sister anymore...she was kicked outta the house after it was known she was pregnant the second time. The father who raised my step sister, wont even talk to her anymore. Plus, on top of that, she dropped out of high school and doesnt even have a part time job.

Honestly, if you have to ask for the opinions of strangers on the internet, I can promise you that you are not ready. If you have to ask, it lets us know already that you're not sure. When you are ready, you will know without having to ask our opinions. Also, make sure you know about birth control and have access to it. Make sure you know about anatomy, pregnancy, and STDs. Also make sure you are comfortable with your partner and ok with the fact that you two probably won't spend the rest of your lives together.

very well put llewellyn.
please do a lot of research on those three...especially birth control and STDs.

I truly think that people under 17 or 18 should not be having sex.

I was taught abstinance until marriage - I reinterpreted this for myself as abstinance until love.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin!!! I was a virgin until I was 20 years old.

You need to be in love with a man, not a boy. He needs to be responsible and you need to be responsible.

You need to be on birth control of some kind, whether it be condoms or the pill or anything else. You need to be old enough to buy and get those things in the first place.

I highly suggest not having sex unless you know everything about your body, the male body, and reproduction.

Your body is absolutely not ready for a pregnancy. Unfortunately, no form of birth control - even the pill - is 100% effective, and you have to be responsible enough to take it every day at the same time.

I honestly feel that sex if for sexually mature adults. You are not sexually mature, nor are you an adult.

I don't want to sound harsh or preachy; And I agree with what someone above said! Your virginity is a precious gift; it is a present you can only give once, and it should go to a very special man (not boy).

You will know when you're ready, if you are questioning it then perhaps you are not ready at this point in time. I myself lost my virginity at 14 and it couldn't have been a better decision for me because i knew i was ready, i'm still with the same partner now and i'm expecting a little girl with him and i wouldn't change anything for the world. Just make sure you have lots of information about safe sex etc if you do decide to have sex

if you have to ask, then i think you already know the answer to that question.

when you are ready, you won't have to ask. you will know.

please don't feel pressured into doing something you don't want to do yet. i am 21, there are many people in my peer group who are still virgins (including blokes!) there is no reason why you should feel that you are being left behind if you choose to wait.

i can look back at when i was 14 and say i was by no means ready to make such a decision. at 14, i was a very different person to who i am now. you still have a lot of growing to do, both physically and mentally.

i don't say any of this to patronise you. you are free to make whatever decision you wish. it's just not nice to think that you might grow to regret it in years to come.

anyone who respects you as a person will not push you into sex.

best wishes.

thank you im gonna wait i dont think im ready and honestly i was thinking and i dont think i could ever go through with it even if my friends can.

First of all, I think a lot of teens talk a lot about sex and make it seem like they're doing a lot, and they're really not. Especially boys. : ) I don't think (and I think the research supports me) that adolescents are really having sex as young as some people think, even their friends. They may make it seem like they are because it makes them feel mature, but really they're just as inexperienced and unsure as you.

At 14 I was not ready. You need to be very ready and emotionally mature. Having sex with someone really is a kind of commitment that you can never imagine until it happens, and you have to be ready (yourself and your relationship) to the changes that will come about once you start having sex. You will get all sorts of feelings that you need to be prepared for.

I met the man who is now my husband when I was 15. I didn't have sex with him until I was 18. It is true- birth control is not 100% effective. Anyway, it's really better to have sex with a man when he has his own place : ) You don't have to worry about parents showing up or anything.

That's just my experience.