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skullygirl
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Does It Bother You? (porn)
Posted: 04-21-07 14:09pm
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Should it bother me if my fiancee
masterbates to internet porn.
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Tylanas
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Re: Does It Bother You ?
Posted: 04-21-07 14:19pm
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| skullygirl
wrote: | | Should it bother me if my
fiancee masterbates to internet
porn. |
No. Especially if you two do not live
together, he's going to have alone-time
when he wants to pleasure himself and
you're not there.
It is only a problem if he prefers to
masturbate to porn over having sex with
you.
You can also take some sexy pictures of
yourself for him to look at when he wants
to masturbate and you're not available
 I did it.
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skullygirl
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Posted: 04-21-07 14:31pm
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We do live together thats the thing. He
does not prefer porn to sex but if im
sleeping he wont wake me up he will use
the computer. Do you think thats a big
deal ?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 04-21-07 14:43pm
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| skullygirl
wrote: | | We do live together thats
the thing. He does not prefer porn to sex
but if im sleeping he wont wake me up he
will use the computer. Do you think thats
a big deal ? |
I think you need to talk to him and say
that you wouldn't mind if he woke you up
to have sex. Tell him you would prefer it,
in fact!
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 04-21-07 14:46pm
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It certainly would not bother me. A lot
of people look at porn, whether they are
single, married, or living with their
partner. Most people in committed
relationships still masturbate.
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Becky
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Posted: 04-21-07 17:59pm
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both me and my husband used to watch porn
(not together) whilst masterbating. it
isn;t a replacement for sex just an
addition.
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*Vanessa*
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Posted: 04-23-07 21:36pm
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My bf used to do that, he would hav mags n
i would b like get rid off em n stop
wasting ur money, n he would but then he
would just get more n hav to hide em n b
paranoide, we broke up for afew months n i
moved on from alot of things that used to
freak me out abit with him but now i just
read the mag, look and admire the pics.
Actually yesterday i drew a portraite of
afew of the girls in there n made a
collage in pencil n coal and it looks
awsome, me and my bf made a sex game and
stuck my pic in the middle o the board
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NWKC
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Posted: 04-24-07 00:29am
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| beckster06
wrote: | | both me and my husband used
to watch porn (not together) whilst
masterbating. it isn;t a replacement for
sex just an
addition. |
yeah my girlfriend and I were the same
way.
I recall seeing this question before in a
similar thread.
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princessnae
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If It Bothers You Talk to Him
Posted: 04-24-07 02:31am
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My boyfriend is the same way. Except we
live 2300 miles apart right now and I
don't always liked to be woken up.
Defiantely voice your concerns with him.
I know that sometimes it makes me jealous
when he's watching those tiny perfect
skinny minny girls, are you the same way?
Do you enjoy porn? Have you ever tried
watching together.. That might help , it
works for us..
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hawkeye69
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Posted: 04-24-07 12:46pm
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Be very careful girls about giving
pictures of yourself naked to another
person! Not all relationships last and
some end pretty ugly. Look what happened
to Paris Hilton!!!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 04-24-07 12:52pm
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| hawkeye69
wrote: | | Be very careful girls about
giving pictures of yourself naked to
another person! Not all relationships last
and some end pretty ugly. Look what
happened to Paris
Hilton!!! |
I'm engaged to the man I give naked
pictures to, I think I'm pretty safe.
Plus, I'm one of those people that just
wouldn't be offended. Thirdly, I'm an
artist so my nude pics are tasteful lol.
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Re: Does It Bother You? (porn)
Posted: 04-24-07 13:01pm
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| skullygirl
wrote: | | Should it bother me if my
fiancee masterbates to internet
porn. |
Just be open to him and tell him how you
feel about it. Tell him you would rather
have sex with him then him having it
alone.
Don't take picture of yourself unless you
are Very comfortable with it and you are
sure you will get them back if the two of
you should ever part!
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 04-24-07 13:05pm
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All a matter of opinion. I have shared
nude photos with people that I am not
currently with and did not get them back,
did not ask for them back. I am still
very comfortable with it all.
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Posted: 04-24-07 13:34pm
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my husband has photos and videos of us
having sex. now that we're not together
his new girlfriend saw them on his
computer. i don't care though cause we had
a great sex life that produced 3 kids so
it could of only made her jealous. lol
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Georgia59
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Posted: 04-24-07 15:06pm
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imho, yes you can feel bothered. But you
don't have to. Why does it bother you?
Personally, I went through this and it did
bother me, but it was more because I was
feeling inadequete and having
self-confidence issues. I felt that he was
looking at these other girls (who I would
never measure up to) because he didn't
enjoy looking at me or something.
I started to feel totally unconfident and
never wanted him to see me naked, which
was a huge problem (I had also gained
weight which didn't help). Eventually we
finally talked about it and I feel much
better. I explained how I felt and it was
important to me that he understood and
tried to make me understand that it wasn't
about me.
I got more open to the idea and now it's
something that we do together. There are
going to be times when one of you is in
the mood and the other isn't, and you'll
have to learn other ways that you as a
couple can deal with it. And you'll
definately have to talk about it in the
meantime. People don't talk about it, but
negotiating your sex life is a hugely
important part of marriage.
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ShiningShannon
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Posted: 04-24-07 22:24pm
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A lot of guys like to watch porn videos
online or look at pics. Maybe you could
watch with him or have him show you sexy
pics he likes to look at. It would give
you and Idea of what kinds of things he
likes, then if you feel comfortable maybe
you could try to copy poses or moves that
you see.
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