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Should it bother me if my fiancee masterbates to internet porn.
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replied April 21st, 2007
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Re: Does It Bother You ?
skullygirl wrote:
Should it bother me if my fiancee masterbates to internet porn.


No. Especially if you two do not live together, he's going to have alone-time when he wants to pleasure himself and you're not there.

It is only a problem if he prefers to masturbate to porn over having sex with you.

You can also take some sexy pictures of yourself for him to look at when he wants to masturbate and you're not available Wink I did it.
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replied April 21st, 2007
We do live together thats the thing. He does not prefer porn to sex but if im sleeping he wont wake me up he will use the computer. Do you think thats a big deal ?
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replied April 21st, 2007
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skullygirl wrote:
We do live together thats the thing. He does not prefer porn to sex but if im sleeping he wont wake me up he will use the computer. Do you think thats a big deal ?


I think you need to talk to him and say that you wouldn't mind if he woke you up to have sex. Tell him you would prefer it, in fact!
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replied April 21st, 2007
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It certainly would not bother me. A lot of people look at porn, whether they are single, married, or living with their partner. Most people in committed relationships still masturbate.
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replied April 21st, 2007
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both me and my husband used to watch porn (not together) whilst masterbating. it isn;t a replacement for sex just an addition.
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replied April 23rd, 2007
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My bf used to do that, he would hav mags n i would b like get rid off em n stop wasting ur money, n he would but then he would just get more n hav to hide em n b paranoide, we broke up for afew months n i moved on from alot of things that used to freak me out abit with him but now i just read the mag, look and admire the pics.
Actually yesterday i drew a portraite of afew of the girls in there n made a collage in pencil n coal and it looks awsome, me and my bf made a sex game and stuck my pic in the middle o the board
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replied April 24th, 2007
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beckster06 wrote:
both me and my husband used to watch porn (not together) whilst masterbating. it isn;t a replacement for sex just an addition.


yeah my girlfriend and I were the same way.

I recall seeing this question before in a similar thread.
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replied April 24th, 2007
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If It Bothers You Talk to Him
My boyfriend is the same way. Except we live 2300 miles apart right now and I don't always liked to be woken up. Defiantely voice your concerns with him. I know that sometimes it makes me jealous when he's watching those tiny perfect skinny minny girls, are you the same way?

Do you enjoy porn? Have you ever tried watching together.. That might help , it works for us..
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replied April 24th, 2007
Be very careful girls about giving pictures of yourself naked to another person! Not all relationships last and some end pretty ugly. Look what happened to Paris Hilton!!!
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replied April 24th, 2007
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hawkeye69 wrote:
Be very careful girls about giving pictures of yourself naked to another person! Not all relationships last and some end pretty ugly. Look what happened to Paris Hilton!!!


I'm engaged to the man I give naked pictures to, I think I'm pretty safe. Plus, I'm one of those people that just wouldn't be offended. Thirdly, I'm an artist so my nude pics are tasteful lol.
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replied April 24th, 2007
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Re: Does It Bother You? (porn)
skullygirl wrote:
Should it bother me if my fiancee masterbates to internet porn.


Just be open to him and tell him how you feel about it. Tell him you would rather have sex with him then him having it alone.
Don't take picture of yourself unless you are Very comfortable with it and you are sure you will get them back if the two of you should ever part!
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replied April 24th, 2007
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All a matter of opinion. I have shared nude photos with people that I am not currently with and did not get them back, did not ask for them back. I am still very comfortable with it all.
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replied April 24th, 2007
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my husband has photos and videos of us having sex. now that we're not together his new girlfriend saw them on his computer. i don't care though cause we had a great sex life that produced 3 kids so it could of only made her jealous. lol
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replied April 24th, 2007
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imho, yes you can feel bothered. But you don't have to. Why does it bother you?
Personally, I went through this and it did bother me, but it was more because I was feeling inadequete and having self-confidence issues. I felt that he was looking at these other girls (who I would never measure up to) because he didn't enjoy looking at me or something.

I started to feel totally unconfident and never wanted him to see me naked, which was a huge problem (I had also gained weight which didn't help). Eventually we finally talked about it and I feel much better. I explained how I felt and it was important to me that he understood and tried to make me understand that it wasn't about me.

I got more open to the idea and now it's something that we do together. There are going to be times when one of you is in the mood and the other isn't, and you'll have to learn other ways that you as a couple can deal with it. And you'll definately have to talk about it in the meantime. People don't talk about it, but negotiating your sex life is a hugely important part of marriage.
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replied April 24th, 2007
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A lot of guys like to watch porn videos online or look at pics. Maybe you could watch with him or have him show you sexy pics he likes to look at. It would give you and Idea of what kinds of things he likes, then if you feel comfortable maybe you could try to copy poses or moves that you see.
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