I think perhaps it is time to find a more significant other thatn this one.

Of course it is possible to not bleed when you lose your virginity. Some people do bleed, but that's not the norm. Why would it be? Sex is something your body wants to do. It's your body's purpose. Your body does not want it to be awful, painful, and bloody. The whole "sex should be painful and bloody your first time" thing is a myth.

Also, being tight or loose does not mean what he thinks it means. The vagina can seem tighter or looser depending on how in the mood the woman is. The vagina doubles in size when the woman is in the mood.

Usually, men who are circumcised do lose a bit of the sensitivity that uncircumcised men have.

Honestly, your boyfriend sounds like he needs some serious sex education. Personally, I am not sure if I would want to be having sex with someone who not only does not know what they are talking about, but also makes accusations of cheating. It sounds there are serious trust issues, and he's filling your head with absolute garbage when it comes to sex and your own anatomy!

Here are some sites that you can look at if you want to know more about sex and anatomy:
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex_faqs_index.ht m
http://www.coolnurse.com/hymen.htm

Stupid comment.


marissa, your boyfriend is also ignorant if he believes that every woman bleeds when she looses her virginity.

The fact is, most women loose their hymen (the skin that breaks and bleeds sometimes during a woman's first sexual encounter, and what supposedly signifies that she is a virgin) long before they have sex. Sports, bikes, horeback riding, and a dozen other activities can cause a young girl's hymen to rip.

You may also have been born without one. Personally, I only had a thin string of skin that counted as my hymen. It did not break on my first sexual encounter; it didn't break until a year later. Catching it against the top of the penis during sex was incredibly painful, but that normally happened only on accident. Other than that, my hymen did not interfere with sex and it certainly didn't break the first time.

Most women do not bleed their first time. Most hymens are already broken. This doesn't mean she's not a virgin, it means she just doesn't have a hymen.

Your boyfriend needs to know this; I suggest you show him this forum and my reply so he knows what's actually up with a woman's body.

Your boyfriend doesn't sound very sensitive. I never bled from sex. It's perfectly normal. And some women are just larger then others, being 'tight' isn't a sign of how much sex you have had.

Maybe he's just not big enough for you : )

I was just kidding about that. But saying that you aren't tight enough is the same thing as saying he's not big enough. People are just different.

i was raped at 7 lost my virginity willingly when i was 15 or 16 and did not bbreak my hymen (i think that is the word haha) until i was 18

I'm sorry to hear you were raped.

I too didn't break my hymen the first (or second... or dozen) time I had sex. It happened almost a year later.

I'm quite curious to know if your boyfriend took any sex ed classes. Although I'm a male, I know for a fact that someone, especially your boyfriend should not make such accusations on false knowledge; I learned that from my first and suffered.
One thing I dispise, by your question it seems is if you act as if just because a male is cirmcumcised he loses all or most sensitivity in the penis. I'm circumcised... and I can well damn feel just about everything, plus more ...compared to the nerves in my index finger. When circumcised, the nerves aren't butchered with a cleaver.



I actually believe that is true, so I've heard around from research. By the way, nice job on the search and information. I've actually learned something new today.


Sorry to hear that. Some men should be brought out back and shot; the people who molest and rape, severely ruin society.


That's damn true. 'different strokes for different folks'.

Thanks. It's always good to learn something new. I post those coolnurse links all over the place. I think they are great.

Well especially since it was an uncle and i confronted him about it in front of a bunch of people.. (i just wanted answers as to y..it has happened more than twice so i thought it was something i was doing.. but at seven who knows....)well he ended up shoving me and told me that it never happened.. sometimes i wonder if it was all a bad dream i was only seven maybe it was u know? but then again iwas raped by two of my unclesi was sexually molested by my aunt she used to make me do things when i was younger and a guy friend of mine raped me.. and the some other guy raped me.. and one hight i actually had a bad feeling about going off with my aunt and her two freind well needless to say.. one of the guys got my aunt really messed up and raped her.. well.. that happened to be the guy that iwas supposed to be going off with.. if i had not have gotten that feeling it would have happened again...

That's completely horrible. I've very sorry to hear. I mean my mother was molested when she was younger. And it's hard to deal with even knowing that someone you love very much was abused in such manner.
All I have to say is, please don't continue the circle of this horrible mishap. Reason I say this is, so I've heard, that majority of victims who were raped or molested are brought up to continue with this nature and harm other people. Some people see it as a disease. Although, you are clearly not a horrible person. Just be cautious and really careful. I'm glad you caught that feeling before it happened again.

Actually, most people who abuse were abused at some point. However, that does not mean that most people who are abused will become abusers. Confusing, I know. It's a very subtle difference.

I know... I wasn't intending it to quite come out so stereotypical. Like I said, my mother was molested; she never abused me in such manner. And I was going to ask if her aunt or uncle had been abused in their history. But I thought about leaving it out. There's a certain limit that I respectively not pry.
...I already said, it's a vicious circle...and some people that are exposed to this horrible nature prevoke it and/or even worse keep having it attack by selecting more and more victims. I know quite well about what I speak of.

I have no intentions of hurting anyone.. i am not heartless...although i do have trust issues.. and it seems that (even in relationships i push everyone away) anytime i get really happy. or really close to someone.. to the point of marriage i have even pushed them away.. i do not know why.. i think it is a psychological thing

I didn't think you were from the way I read your replies. I generally say that to anyone who has become a victim; I've actually met and know people, (whom I don't talk to anymore for specific reasons), that had filled up with hate and abuse younger people. And I'm honestly glad you aren't one of those people. I fully understand your reasoning, maybe not on the same issue, but trust is an easy thing to lose, as well, abuse. I have several friends that are victims, I've even recently spoke to a girl across town, who was molested by a doctor in her previous years. you cant really trust anyone anymore...it's pitiful. I rarely trust many people in the dating world due to my ex's actions. Love is also quite hard to come by. I can well understand why you push people away...and there is a flip side to that, in which you're no longer an easier target to be attacked again, but also it'll be harder for you to come across love. It is partly phychological. this circle affects many, not only the victims but even the ones who really care about the people who had been victimized.
I truly hate to hear and see people recked like this, and in a sense, it's why I'm trying to help all the people I can; same reasons as the many other caring people on here.
I hope things get better in life for ya.

Oh honey, have you had therapy??

You sound perfectly healthy, but I know these things are hard to ever heal from on your own. Just a suggestion.

You must be one tough cookie.

I think just about everyone of these chiks r right, i was a virgin when met my bf, but he didnt believe me either, said i wasnt, but we grew close, its been 2 yrs now and we r closer than ever, he never once doubted me that i wasnt a virgin before him, i simply explained that if i wasnt a virgin before i met him, then i prolly would have told him caz its not that big of a deal, this guy sounds like a paranoide tool, and u no what they say, which ever significant other in the relationship are more paranoide and jelouse about other people are more likely the ones going to cheat, so just remember that next time he thinks otherwise, sorry im just rambling, good luck hun xox

Okay im a bit scared, I too have just lost my virginity however it was unprotected. I'm 100% positive I did not cum, however im fearful of Precum... can anyone put my mind at ease? What is the likelyness I got my partner Pregnant? I'm terrified, please help!

ok, some likely percent chance, talk to ur partner bout it, to ease ur mind, get test, blood test, talk to her bout any symptoms like mised period

can you give me any type of chances most information site ive visited say anwhere from .1-4% chance is this true?