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Q: My Horrible Night
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musikmaker
Extremely eHealthy
Monday night at like 11:00 I was arrested. Yup, you saw that right. I am a criminal
Anyways, I got pulled over because my registration light was out so I wasn't too concerned I knew that they would just give me a warning and tell me to fix it. I gave the officer all of my information and I knew that I would be done in no time.
Well, the officer came back and was like "Did you go to court recently for driving without proof of insurance"? Of course I had to say yes because I did about 6 months ago. Here's the shocker the officer then replied "I am going to have to arrest you ma'am because you are driving on a suspended license". I was all like "wha?" because I mean no one told me my license had been suspended.
Come to find out, I was supposed to have received a letter telling me to get high-risk insurance because of the other incident and I never received the letter. Also, the judge was supposed to tell me about that whenever he told me I had court supervision. No one told me I didn't know.
Now most people would think that the officer would have some compassion on little ole' me because I am pregnant and didn't even know about everything. Yeah right! He was so rude, kept me handcuffed the entire time and didn't even let me go to the bathroom. It hurts whenever .Luke kicks my full bladder too! He didn't help me out of the car, which getting out was quite a feat because I was handcuffed, pregnant and police cars are hard to get out of anyway. He just stood there and watched me struggle out of the car!
I was in a town that is almost 2 hours away from where I live but is only 5 minutes from my sister and a half hour from my mom's house. So, I decided that I would post bond for myself and then go to my sisters house till my husband picked me up. However,whenever I went to withdraw the money from their atm it wouldn't work. It was a Cirrus machine and I need a Plus machine or something like that. So then, I had to call my brother and he picked me up and had to post my bond for me! I had to wait for him to get there and I had already been there for like an 1 and a half. The officer still kept me handcuffed and by now my wrists were swelling up around the cuffs and hurting very bad.
That had to of been one of the lowest moments of my life. I had to pee, and the swelling was starting to hurt. My legs and ankles started to swell because I had been sitting in an awkward position but seeing as how I was chained to a railing on the wall, I couldn't move. I am still having allot of back pain because of this night!
Eventually my brother did get there and posted my bond. However, the officer took his sweet old time getting all of the paper work done. I have never been inot a jail or been arrested so I don't know how long this is supposed to take, but my brother has been arrested and he said that it never took that long and he also said that they took off his cuffs as soon as he got in the car and then again when he got into the building. I don't know why they didn't give the same courtesy to a pregnant woman!
Needless to say, my husband and I had to sink allot of money into getting my car back and paying towing fees. $125 for the towing people to take it only 4 blocks! Argh!! We had to pay the city to even get the piece of paper that said that we could pick up our car from the towing place! I think by the time it was all over we spent around 400 dollars , that we don't have I might add. That was half of our rent money, but poof there it went!
So, I am not very happy about it all but I am going to have my license back soon. I guess the only option I have is either cry or laugh. Ihaev chosen to laugh about it all because I now I feel like a common criminal. My family and I have been cracking jokes about it because I don't want to get all crazy about it. I just want it to go away. Besides there's nothing I can do to change it.
There is my crazy, crazy story. I hope that I didn't bore you for too long
~Courtnie
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Replies(22)
mc4ever02
Extremely eHealthy
Wow! That'll be a story for the little one! That is crazy. But honestly, here, that is how they treat everyone. Pregnant or not. You are handcuffed from the time you are arrested (sometimes before your rights are read) and they stay on untill you are released from custody. It hasn't always been like that. A few years ago a kid killed two cops because he wasn't handcuffed while they were driving. Anyway, he should have at least helped you out.
Was your initial incident a dui? You dont have to answer that if you don't want to.
I'm glad your home now. With my luck my brother wouldn't have had the money and I would have been stuck there forever.
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musikmaker
Extremely eHealthy
| mc4ever02 wrote: |
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Was your initial incident a dui? You dont have to answer that if you don't want to. |
My initial incident was driving without proof of insurance. I just didn't know that I needed high-risk insurance so the state suspended my license. They didn't even tell me!
Usually, the officers are nice around here. I just got a bad one because I have friends that have little tiffs with the law and they never went through all the crap.
Oh, and I was never read my rights.
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Zanny
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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mc4ever02
Extremely eHealthy
The only time I have ever heard of high risk insurance is if you get a dui. That is why I asked. That sounds abit severe for no proof of insurance!
It sounds kinda off the way they treated you. If they didn't arrest you, then they really shouldn't have kept the cuffs on you. (While I understand pregnancy hormones are strong, I cant really see you being a threst.
) It they are pressing charges for you not having your license and your rights were not read...any decent attorney will be able to get you out of that. Especially, if it goes before a judge. A crying pregnant woman that was handled so rudely will win over pretty much anything.
What they should have done is keep you there untill someone with a valid license came to drive you and your car home.
It sounds kinda off the way they treated you. If they didn't arrest you, then they really shouldn't have kept the cuffs on you. (While I understand pregnancy hormones are strong, I cant really see you being a threst.
) It they are pressing charges for you not having your license and your rights were not read...any decent attorney will be able to get you out of that. Especially, if it goes before a judge. A crying pregnant woman that was handled so rudely will win over pretty much anything.
What they should have done is keep you there untill someone with a valid license came to drive you and your car home.
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AyaMiyaki
Especially eHealthy
What the heck! I could understand him keeping you handcuffed if you had a warrent for something violent or if you were acting like you were about to flip, but for a suspended license over insurance crap? Come on, now. That's ridiculous. 
.i'm so sorry hon!
.i'm so sorry hon!
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bandeodell
New User
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely eHealthy
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bandeodell
New User
| mc4ever02 wrote: |
| The only time I have ever heard of high risk insurance is if you get a dui. That is why I asked. That sounds abit severe for no proof of insurance!
It sounds kinda off the way they treated you. If they didn't arrest you, then they really shouldn't have kept the cuffs on you. (While I understand pregnancy hormones are strong, I cant really see you being a threst. ) It they are pressing charges for you not having your license and your rights were not read...any decent attorney will be able to get you out of that. Especially, if it goes before a judge. A crying pregnant woman that was handled so rudely will win over pretty much anything.
What they should have done is keep you there untill someone with a valid license came to drive you and your car home. |
You are only read your rights when it comes to felonious charges...Something in which what you say or do can alter an investigation. You are not read Miranda for dwls Driving while license suspended. Which unless a repeat offender has received three dwls charges at which time a simple misdemeanor becomes a felony.
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mc4ever02
Extremely eHealthy
| bandeodell wrote: | ||
You are only read your rights when it comes to felonious charges...Something in which what you say or do can alter an investigation. You are not read Miranda for dwls Driving while license suspended. Which unless a repeat offender has received three dwls charges at which time a simple misdemeanor becomes a felony. |
Really? I was always told that you were to be read you rights if you are arrest. Regardless of the charges.
You learn something new everyday.
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*star*
Extremely eHealthy
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Kia
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musikmaker
Extremely eHealthy
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JasmineGreen4179
Experienced User
Wow, what a story....cops are jerks, I know they are providing service for us, but that does not give them an excuse to be jerks, especially to a pregnant woman! Some of them let the power of authority go to their heads....I think they are just overcompensating for smaller things, if ya catch my drift 
I was arrested for a DUI, and I agree 100% that I should have gone to jail because I should have not been driving, but I was driving myself to the hospital cuz I broke my ankle(that is another story in itself!) I got pulled over cuz I stay stopped at a light after it turned green(I was searching for my cellphone and didn't know the light had changed) Any who, the two cops that arrested me were complete a-holes as well.....I had a freaking broken ankle for crying outloud and they still made me do all the sobriety test BS, you know walk a straight line, balance yourself on one leg....how in the hell are you suppose to do that with a broken ankle! Also I was wearing a skirt that night and after they handcuffed me and took me to the hospital, my skirt had worked it's way up and I was, uuuuummmm, exposed! Those jerks would not pull down my skirt for me and told me if I hadn't of gotten in this predicament I wouldn't have this problem....JERKS!!! I was cooperative and nice until then and then I started being a witch....you can hear me on the tape, some of the stuff I told them was freaking hilarious!!! When I got to the station all the guards were cracking jokes about my ankle and the walking boot I was wearing(I was not in a good mood and in a substantial amount of pain!)....one of the ladies said "Ma'am, are you aware of the fact that you have a boot on you foot" you know being a total smart*ss/witch and I looked at her and said "Ma'am, are you aware of the fact that there are a few places on you that I would love to shove this boot?" Needless to say, they took their sweet little time booking me...a full 24 hours to be exact! Anyway, that's my cops/jail experience....I laugh about it now too, what else can you do but learn from it!
I was arrested for a DUI, and I agree 100% that I should have gone to jail because I should have not been driving, but I was driving myself to the hospital cuz I broke my ankle(that is another story in itself!) I got pulled over cuz I stay stopped at a light after it turned green(I was searching for my cellphone and didn't know the light had changed) Any who, the two cops that arrested me were complete a-holes as well.....I had a freaking broken ankle for crying outloud and they still made me do all the sobriety test BS, you know walk a straight line, balance yourself on one leg....how in the hell are you suppose to do that with a broken ankle! Also I was wearing a skirt that night and after they handcuffed me and took me to the hospital, my skirt had worked it's way up and I was, uuuuummmm, exposed! Those jerks would not pull down my skirt for me and told me if I hadn't of gotten in this predicament I wouldn't have this problem....JERKS!!! I was cooperative and nice until then and then I started being a witch....you can hear me on the tape, some of the stuff I told them was freaking hilarious!!! When I got to the station all the guards were cracking jokes about my ankle and the walking boot I was wearing(I was not in a good mood and in a substantial amount of pain!)....one of the ladies said "Ma'am, are you aware of the fact that you have a boot on you foot" you know being a total smart*ss/witch and I looked at her and said "Ma'am, are you aware of the fact that there are a few places on you that I would love to shove this boot?" Needless to say, they took their sweet little time booking me...a full 24 hours to be exact! Anyway, that's my cops/jail experience....I laugh about it now too, what else can you do but learn from it!
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Kia
Supporter
| musikmaker wrote: |
| Yeah, I don't see ignorance as an excuse either and that is why I am not mad that I got arrested. I just don't like the way that I was treated. I was talking to someone today and they think that I should at least write a letter to his Chief. I think I will do that. |
Good idea.
I ws trying (badly) to explain that I don't think yours is a case of ignorance.
I think that is only if info is available. Example - UK number plates: if your's a re non standard you can't say "oh I didn't know" because the info on the standard is available.
but in your situation the info about your license would only be available if the judge informed you.
does that make sense or am I just rambling?
haha either way I'm agreeing with you
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~baby~g~
Experienced User
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musikmaker
Extremely eHealthy
| Kia wrote: | ||
Good idea. I ws trying (badly) to explain that I don't think yours is a case of ignorance. I think that is only if info is available. Example - UK number plates: if your's a re non standard you can't say "oh I didn't know" because the info on the standard is available. but in your situation the info about your license would only be available if the judge informed you. does that make sense or am I just rambling? haha either way I'm agreeing with you |
You make perfect sense .Kia! The only way I could've known is if I had called the s.o.s(secretary of state) and you can check your status.Lol, as soon as we found this out my dh went and checked his status because his license was suspended a few months ago because our car failed the emissions test (how dumb) and he just wanted to make sure he wasn't suspended anymore. We got a letter saying he wasn't but you never know
btw, whenever his license was suspended he didn't drive at all! I made sure of that. So that goes to show that I wouldn't have driven either if I knew.
This all just so confusing to me.
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
Experienced User
| musikmaker wrote: | ||
My initial incident was driving without proof of insurance. I just didn't know that I needed high-risk insurance so the state suspended my license. They didn't even tell me! Usually, the officers are nice around here. I just got a bad one because I have friends that have little tiffs with the law and they never went through all the crap. Oh, and I was never read my rights. |
ohhh thats a horrible story, its amazing that they are allowed to treat you like that! They treated you like a serial killer!!
Just wondering with the insurance.... do you mean insurance if you hit another car or if you hit property e.g house, person.
If you are talking about insurance for if you hit another car... here in Australia, it is not compulsory to have that insurance! It is however compulsory to have insurance if you hit property or a person.
Hope that makes sense!!
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