When I read your post I found it very strange that your boyfriend wouldn't (or says he doesn't anyways) masturbate. I thought that was just a natural part of a teen males life! As for your question, I think that if he did start to pleasure himself, he would eventually get to the point where he could last longer in bed. Although I had a friend and she was going out with guy who was a virgin (she wasn't) and they had sex many times, and she would always complain that he never lasted longer, and im pretty sure that he masturbates.. I mean those maxim magazines aren't in the bathroom for no reason! So perhaps the only solution is more experience!!! I would ask your boyfriend to start masturbating, and if he's reluctant, tell him to think of you while hes doing it.. The whole fantasizing thing may help. As for the distance thing I can totally relate to it (my bf lives an hour away), but I hope that what i've typed here may be of some help

I just thought of another option that you can do to help your situation... When your playing around with each other, and you think that he's about to ...Go... (in mildest terms) !!!Stop!!! Whatever your doing.. He may say thats cruel and what-not.. But if you keep doing this a couple times before you let him ...Go... Eventually this could teach him to last longer. I've read of this technique before, and i've done it on my boyfriend and although he sometimes gets mad at me for it (aww, why'd you stop?!) I know for a fact that he can now last longer.. Whether it be his own discipline, or my hand in things.. Or maybe both.. I know that we're now enjoying sex alot more.

Some men do swear that they have never masturbated and hey, maybe they haven't, but I will say that I believe 99.9% at least do pleasure themselves. But yeah, tell him to start masturbating and not let himself cum until a decent amount of time passes. He can start with five minutes or whatever and work his way up. And the above advice was also good, when you two are fulling around or whatever and he is about to, stop. Yeah, he may get upset or whatever, but you know he is eventually going to get off anyway, so he needs to hang in there until you are ready to quit. Hope this helps.

the number system
(i created this from reading lots and lots of books on tantric sex)

the number system is what I have devised from reading books on tantric sex. Think of a 10.0 as the height of the orgasm, and a 1.0 as a completely flaccid state with no sexual stimulation. The numbers 1.0 - 9.9 can be repeated much like riding a wooden roller coaster. The trick is to learn what a 9.0 feels like and to train yourself to respond to it.

Start intercourse and do "normal" things until you reach a 9.0. Immediately stop and let yourself relax to a 4.0 - 5.0. Once you are there, resume thrusting. Repeat this cycle until you are only able to relax to about an 8.0 state. At this time, you should switch to other types of sexual activity. Let your penis become flaccid and try massages, oral, or other types of sexual activities that do not break the mood, but divert the focus from your penis. After a few minutes, start intercourse again and repeat this cycle. The key to this is the repetition and restraint. Over time, you will be able to get to a 9.1, 9.2, and even to a 9.9 (like I can) before having to stop.

Intercourse in itself feels great! The inner walls of the woman’s vagina are very inviting, warm, soft, and the emotional and psychological effects of sex are unmatched; however, the orgasm should not be the "goal" of sex. The whole experience should be the focus, not the end.

When I was a "newbie" (actually from age 16 - 19), I couldn't last more than 10 min on a good day. I met a girl who was very inexperienced and we learned together through books and experimentation. I devised this method and now I can go for hours at a time, with getting to a 9.9 and actually have multiple 9.9 level orgasms. The final 10.0 actually feels more like an 11.0 now. Try this and feel free to pm me for any explanations or further details that you need.

Did you try a penis ring? They're suppposed to make an erection last longer. Don't know if it will work for sure but it may be worth a try

haha that is true. Good suggestion; however, you must be careful with those. Don't get one too tight and make sure that you also buy the appropriate lubricant to apply the ring. If not, it might not fit on right. Also, make sure that you are fully hard first. It can be painful to still grow with the ring on!