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onmyway_0x
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Akkette
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You should in no way blame yourself for what he did to you. It was him that pushed you and you were not to know. Luckily the baby is ok and now you need to make sure you look after yourself and the little one until it decides that it wants to enter the big wide world.
I can understand why you still feel attched to him. Love him or not you are always going to have a certain connection with him because you are having his child. I am glad to hear though that you will not be going back.
You als need to realise that no matter what you tried to do someone will not get help or let themselves be helped if they do not want it. You did not put him in that hospital bed and if he does pull through then he should use this as his second chance.
Well done on beng so strong and getting yourself out of the relationship. It is times like this that we realise that we are stronger than we ever thought possible and with a baby on the way you are soon to be wonder woman. Remember that its his life and he shall choose what he does with his but with your life and your childs you have so much to look foward to (dirty dipers, 3am feeds, teething)
You did all you could and more than what you needed to and that should be enough to know this is not your fault. Remember there is nothing more you could have done (even if you try and convince yourself there was).
Good Luck
Natalie
I can understand why you still feel attched to him. Love him or not you are always going to have a certain connection with him because you are having his child. I am glad to hear though that you will not be going back.
You als need to realise that no matter what you tried to do someone will not get help or let themselves be helped if they do not want it. You did not put him in that hospital bed and if he does pull through then he should use this as his second chance.
Well done on beng so strong and getting yourself out of the relationship. It is times like this that we realise that we are stronger than we ever thought possible and with a baby on the way you are soon to be wonder woman. Remember that its his life and he shall choose what he does with his but with your life and your childs you have so much to look foward to (dirty dipers, 3am feeds, teething)
You did all you could and more than what you needed to and that should be enough to know this is not your fault. Remember there is nothing more you could have done (even if you try and convince yourself there was).
Good Luck
Natalie
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely eHealthy
hey girl,i've been through the same thing only I wasn't pregnant.Usually people like that cannot be helped neither do they want hel[p until they hit rock bottom and it sounds to me like he has.I know its hard and you still love him,but as time goes on it *wil* be easier.You don't need someone like that around you or your baby.There is a chance though that he *ca* change,but he has to do it himself.If you ever want to talk pm me 
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onmyway_0x
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely eHealthy
I totally understand.none of my family liked my man either.I moved out after he hit me and didn't see him for 4 months.He use to be an alcoholic,because thats the only way he knew how to handle his anger.turned out he was depressed and had to be put on meds so now he takes those and stopped drinking alcohol.it's been over 2 months since he drank and like everyone he hs his bad days but he is better.he had to hit rock bottom before realiznghe really needed help.he lost me and his job and nearly lost his place to live.People can change but they have to want to.Your gonna be ok
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onmyway_0x
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| ~*~Melissa~*~ wrote: |
| I totally understand.none of my family liked my man either.I moved out after he hit me and didn't see him for 4 months.He use to be an alcoholic,because thats the only way he knew how to handle his anger.turned out he was depressed and had to be put on meds so now he takes those and stopped drinking alcohol.it's been over 2 months since he drank and like everyone he hs his bad days but he is better.he had to hit rock bottom before realiznghe really needed help.he lost me and his job and nearly lost his place to live.People can change but they have to want to.Your gonna be ok |
Thanks
I've always known he had to hit rock bottom it was just actually letting him...
by that I mean instead of running to his beckon call or taking care of him everytime he was coming down off the drugs I realised and am still realising I had to leave him alone as much as he has to leave me alone.
It's just hard when you see the kind of person someone can be , and then the person they choose to be. he had his moments where he melted me with a smile and he really could be sweet at times, however it was very few and far between.
Now he's in the hospital ... I pray he's ok , but I also hope he decides he has taken this too far and enough is enough.
I know I'll be ok I just have to getover this HUGE hump of not having him or talking to him and so on , it feels like it is taking a lot longer than it should.
But it's all about the babe now ... and I know that , I just dont want to have to one day tell my child that his daddy is dead.
Thank you for being so supportive
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely eHealthy
| onmyway_0x wrote: |
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I've always known he had to hit rock bottom it was just actually letting him... by that I mean instead of running to his beckon call or taking care of him everytime he was coming down off the drugs I realised and am still realising I had to leave him alone as much as he has to leave me alone. It's just hard when you see the kind of person someone can be , and then the person they choose to be. he had his moments where he melted me with a smile and he really could be sweet at times, however it was very few and far between. Now he's in the hospital ... I pray he's ok , but I also hope he decides he has taken this too far and enough is enough. I know I'll be ok I just have to getover this HUGE hump of not having him or talking to him and so on , it feels like it is taking a lot longer than it should. But it's all about the babe now ... and I know that , I just dont want to have to one day tell my child that his daddy is dead. Thank you for being so supportive |
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Makoto
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