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April 15th, 2007
Well, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We now live together. We tend to argue a lot and have started working on our relationship. We still however argue about once a week. Sometimes our fights get down right ugly. He says some of the most horrible things to me. The other night he told me I was to uneducated and to stupid to have an opinion about anything. He calls me names and makes fun of my weight. I then get back at him by calling him names. I don't like the person I become when we are fighting. How do I defuse the situation? Walking away just does not seem to work becuase he will follow me.
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Willa Weintraub
replied April 17th, 2007
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Re: Abuse?
js07 wrote:
Well, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We now live together. We tend to argue a lot and have started working on our relationship. We still however argue about once a week. Sometimes our fights get down right ugly. He says some of the most horrible things to me. The other night he told me I was to uneducated and to stupid to have an opinion about anything. He calls me names and makes fun of my weight. I then get back at him by calling him names. I don't like the person I become when we are fighting. How do I defuse the situation? Walking away just does not seem to work becuase he will follow me.
Wow,thats mental/emotional abuse.You need to talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel when he says things like that and tell him if he can't stop you can't continue the relationship.You don't belittle and say things like that to the people you love.rust me,I was in that position a while agp and it turned into physical abuse and I left.If you want,before it gets ugly get in your car and leave.go to a friends house or just go on a drive.If he threatens to lock you out,tell him to keep his mouth shut then! I'm sorry you are going through this and I wish I could help more,but really it's all upt o you girl.
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Akkette
replied April 17th, 2007
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The questions you need to ask yourself is do you love him?, how much? and is the relationship worth saving?. If it is then you need to seek councelling. Verbal abuse may also adventually become physical abuse. A relationship is a partnership and needs to be treated like one. Remember you are worth so much more than the names and the way he makes you feel. Also think about if the good times out weigh the bad?. You just dont want to get into the situation where it might be to late.

Seek some help. He has no right to treat you this way.

Good Luck

Natalie
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