my wife and i are heading for a second separation in 3 months. we have been together on and off for 17 yrs. i am verbally abusive and she has cheated while we were separated before. we are currently roommates and she now believes we should live separately again. we have begun to get close and she does not want to give either of us a false sense of security by being together. also she says she wants to forgive and forget but can't yet. also she is unsure if she wants a divorce. anytime i try to talk to her she says i'm pressuring her.