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Q: 18 Yrs Old In High School - Single
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Critizin
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I go to alot of school parties and its funny cause all the girls that are 14-15 find me super attractive and are always trying to get with me im not shy when im drunk so i dont find it hard meeting girls when im drunk... but im not gonna be drunk all the time just to meet a girl... back to the young girls part.. like i said there all 14-15 and some of them a really like but where i live its considered being a pedafile if u are 18 or over and go out with a 14 or younger girl.. damn my age cause some of these girls that find me attractive i really like and would like to ask them out but i cant it seems that no girl my age wants to go out with me and only wants to be friends? im not just in it for the sex i want a relationship first and if so happens sex should follow after so be it but if theres no attraction i wont stay in the relation ship for the sex...
what my question really is how would i improve my self esteem to make me feel that i have courage to go up to a girl and ask them out, How can i stop being so anti-social and get a job and my drivers license so i can get money and transportation to go out on dates... How can i get rid of my fear of meeting new people?
im not one those guys that thinks he so ugly that he will never get a girl.... and finds all the faults he can in him self im just really shy and dont like approaching girls... why the heck wont girls make the first move it be alot easyer.. lol i just wanna know how to get rid of my shyness... is it true "Nice guys finish last?"
Thanks for reading
any help would be greatful.
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Spirit
Experienced User
Well, you got it right near the end....................your painfully shy......not anisocial. Not everyone can be the "life of the party" or .Mr/Mrs Popularity.............but if that's part of your goal...................watch carefully someone you admire and emulate them..............how do they approach people?do they show interest in the other person or is it all about them?
It's normal to want a relationship, however at this age, I'd be careful what you wish for..................there's high emotions, power trips and little games played especially for the novices.................all about learning and growing up, but not an absolute need for the ups and downs of teenagers.
All for improving self esteem................get the drivers license, get the job..................part time.................thru friends/family.............thru the school..................if you want it bad enough.............you'll find a way and do it!
For shyness, a public speaking course.................like Toastmasters............but ultimately it doesn't matter which course or skill you acquire as long as you do something..................remember the last time you did something new or mastered some skill.......................how did you feel?on top of the world?............................and how does it feel to sit around doing nothing?absorbed in self pity?....................get moving...................and the rest will follow
It's normal to want a relationship, however at this age, I'd be careful what you wish for..................there's high emotions, power trips and little games played especially for the novices.................all about learning and growing up, but not an absolute need for the ups and downs of teenagers.
All for improving self esteem................get the drivers license, get the job..................part time.................thru friends/family.............thru the school..................if you want it bad enough.............you'll find a way and do it!
For shyness, a public speaking course.................like Toastmasters............but ultimately it doesn't matter which course or skill you acquire as long as you do something..................remember the last time you did something new or mastered some skill.......................how did you feel?on top of the world?............................and how does it feel to sit around doing nothing?absorbed in self pity?....................get moving...................and the rest will follow
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paul995
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