Masterbation Addiction - Disrupting My Life? Posted: 04-13-07 05:11am
Hello There.
I am a 18 year old male and i believe i
may have a problem with "Masterbation
Addiction" i read alot of the forums out
there and there are mix reviews on what
masterbation addiction is some say you are
addicted if u masterbate more then once a
week some say you are a addicted if u
masterbate more the once a day.. for me it
really depends on the day somedays i do it
once and im done, other days i do it non
stop one after another after another i
think the most i reached was 12 times in
one day. sometimes i find my self
masterbating again right after i
ejaculate.. like as soon as i orgasm 2-5
mins later im masterbating again... and
for no know reason i find my self doing it
when ever i feel bored?? is this normal
heres a situation i found my self in just
2 hours ago i was playing an online game
called guild wars it was fun for awhile
and then it began to bore me so i exited
out of the game and could not find
anything else to do so i opened up the
internet found some porn and just started
masterbating.... after i was done i then
realised that this could be a problem and
i came right here to eHealth to look it
up... i used to be a member here before
and was asking about lung cancer which i
found out i dont have anyways back to my
problem.. Im embarassed to admit it but is
it normal to masterbate in places that you
know isnt a good place to masterbate...
heres what i mean im in highschool and was
in detention.... and we have this stupid
room in the princables office that has
glass windows all the teachers and
princables were out for lunch and no one
was there.... all of a sudden i found my
hand rubbing my penis.. i wanted to stop
but i couldnt... i felt ashamed after and
spent of the rest of the day trying to
figure out why i did it... Another
situation was i was at a friends house and
we were having a party... and there was
booze involved but i wasnt drunk but many
of my friends from school were and there
were girls taking off there cloths and
kissing each other... after the party was
done we went to bed i was on the floor of
my friends bedroom and there were people
sleeping on the bed once again i found my
self masterbating before i fell asleep i
really think this is not normal and would
like any information that could help me...
Another thing i am wondering i am very
Anti-Social i dont like meeting new people
i get a feeling of being scared when there
are people i dont know around me. i feel
normal when im around friends and family
and i drink alot because i dont seem to
mind meeting new people when im under the
infulence of the almighty booze.... thats
the only time i meet new people my anti
social problem is so bad that is has
stopped me from getting my drivers license
and finding a job.. and i am worried that
i wont be able to find one... I am also
very shy around girls.. and am still a
virgin which i dont mind but i fear my
shyness and unwillingness to talk or
communicate with girls is gonna stop me
from having a relationship... the farthest
i have gone with a girl is fingerbanging
her.. and i was in a situation where it
was forced on me to do it or else i
probally wouldnt of had the guts to do
it... could these problems be related to
me masterbating so much...? i would also
like information to help me get rid of my
anti social problem so i can continue with
life.. and meet a girl i want to have a
relationship but when ever the oppurtinity
presents it self i always back down... Im
also scared about asking girls out... i
mean i know if they say no to me it doesnt
mean i should give up but for me asking a
girl out is a big deal and if i hear the
words know i usually become really
depressed... I am not ugly.. but im not
that good looking either people usually
dont make fun of me but in my past school
years grades 1-9 i used to get teased alot
called gay because i was to scared to talk
to girls i want to but it just doesnt come
out... this could also be a factor in my
masterbating and anti-socialism??
This is probally a long read and i greatly
appericate the help...
Thanks again.
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an_dro_id
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Apr 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Australia
Posted: 04-13-07 05:36am
im not sure if this is much help with your
question, but it is completely normal to
masturbate as many times as you like. It
only becomes a problem when it does
actually interupt your lifestyle. And the
examples displayed arent exactly major
really. just thought id let you know :]
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Critizin
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2007 Posts: 25 Location: Canada
Posted: 04-13-07 05:43am
i know masterbating is normal.... but in
places that are public like a school
and a friends house i mean.. i should
have some control over it shouldnt I? and
believe me when i was at school doing it
it seemed as if my hand was doing it its
self i couldnt stop it i dont think thats
normal lol..
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chick1978
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Joined: 08 Apr 2007 Posts: 68 Location: canada
Posted: 04-13-07 08:49am
masterbation is normal, if you can control
when you want to do it.
But, it seems to be interfering with your
life.
I just think that as soon as you get a
girlfriend and practice safe sex then, you
will feel less pent up with sexual
frustration!
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Critizin
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Joined: 13 Apr 2007 Posts: 25 Location: Canada
Posted: 04-13-07 08:56am
IF i get a girl friend which was my other
problem but thanks for the confidence
boost
just to let everyone know i have decided
that im gonna try to control my self from
now on try to only do it once a week
because i feel i been doing it to much i
ware the big guy out lol...
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Fasttricky
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 21 Location: Manchester, England
Posted: 04-13-07 09:07am
Masterbation is fun, and yes it hits the
spot, but it should never cum between you
and your life!
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ninapie22
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Joined: 18 Apr 2007 Posts: 5 Location: florida
Posted: 04-19-07 12:41pm
wow.. it's ok.. you seem really
self-conscious. it's ok to masturbate..
i'll be 18 in three weeks and i guess i
haven't had a lot of experience with guys
in that area but i'm still at the stage
that i think it's funny. anyway.. back to
your problem(s). maybe in a public place
is kind of awkward and you probably
shouldn't if you can help it. imagine.
what if someone walked in? you'd be in
more trouble.
one of my friends had this girl perform
oral sex on him in class.. and he got in
major trouble... i didn't see him ever
again. so.. just be a little more careful
next time.. go to the bathroom if you
absolutely have to. lol. the anti-social
stuff i think is all in your head. i have
this guy friend who's so nervous to talk
to girls.. and when he does he's really
really serious about it. you should just
find a girl to be friends with.. after a
while you wouldn't be so uncomfortable.
and just think of it this way.. most guys
glorify girls to be this other creature
that's always perfect and beautiful.. but
girls are just like guys.. some even
nastier. they fart.. take a sh* lol.. i
know it's gross. but it's true. and the
way you see most girls is because they've
shaved, tweezed, plucked. hairsprayed ..
all that. make-up does wonders.. if you
ever are in a relationship, after you guys
get really comfortable with each other..
she'll let it all hang loose so to speak..
trust me.. seeing a girl all done up.. and
then that same girl when she's on her
period, hadn't shaved in 3 weeks or done
her eyebrows in the morning.. will
definitely put it all into perspective.
just go up to someone and start a
conversation if you feel you're ready.
don't beat yourself up about it so much..
they're just people. you shouldn't give a
complete stranger power over you like
that. i also believe a little mellowing
out would help. that's my advice.. hope it
helps. ^^
p.s. lung cancer? does that mean you
smoke? ..i hope you've quit. not that it's
my business but i despise cigarettes. i've
been around it all my life and almost
every family member is an uber smoker..
not good for you sweetie.
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Tylanas
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You Do Not Have An Addiction! Posted: 04-19-07 12:53pm
I am a girl. I have a fiancee now, but
back when I was in highschool, I
masturbated every single day. I did not
and I do not consider it an addiction.
I think your problem is that you don't
masturbate enough in private time, so you
get the urge to do it in public places.
You have also made it your boredom
activity; this is also bad because as you
said, boredom can occur anywhere!!
You need to find another activity to do
when you are bored. I think that will
solve your issue of wanting to masturbate
when you get bored in public places. I
tend to zone out myself, and have random
adventures or conversations in my head;
but I have a strong imagination.
Whoever said that masturbating once a week
is considered an addiction is stupid.
WHoever said that masturbating once a day
is an addiction is stupid. Hell,
masturbating 3-5 times a day isn't an
addiction, as long as it doesn't interfere
with daily life!
SO, get something for your hands to do
when you're bored! Get a stress ball and
keep it in your pocket. Learn oragami, or
knitting XD There are a lot of things you
can do to keep your hands entertained.
You do not have an addiction.
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reneblack
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Nov 2006 Posts: 247 Location: A beautiful place, CA-USA
Posted: 04-19-07 12:58pm
Masterbating is normal but, you could go
to jail; for masterbating in public. Its
like drinking alcohol in public.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 04-19-07 13:04pm
reneblack
wrote:
Masterbating is normal but,
you could go to jail; for masterbating in
public. Its like drinking alcohol in
public.
It's generally referred to "public
indecency" and the law applies to mny
things. Public masturbation could
certainly be considered one of these
things. Any form of public sexual display
- and masturbation is obviously sexual on
some level - is innapropriate.
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Critizin
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Joined: 13 Apr 2007 Posts: 25 Location: Canada
Posted: 04-20-07 09:27am
in reply to ninapie22 your post was pretty
moving thanks for that it
will defiently help me in some way in the
future! and about the lung cancer... no i
dont smoke but the reason i thought i had
lung cancer is because in the past i used
to have really bad pains in my chest and
didnt know what they where this was when i
was around 13-15 cant remember but i
automatically assumed i had lung cancer
and was freaking out.... lol but it was
just my head and the pain turned out to be
my mind telling me there had to be pain
there because i was thinking it... wierd
what your mind can do Thanks for that
post again
And about me making it a boredom activity
i think thats what i have actually done
lol..... strange boredom activity isnt it
i try to find a new
one and thanks for the help guys....
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meblonde01
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Posted: 04-20-07 11:37am
Critizin
wrote:
i know masterbating is
normal.... but in places that are public
like a school
and a friends house i mean.. i should
have some control over it shouldnt I? and
believe me when i was at school doing it
it seemed as if my hand was doing it its
self i couldnt stop it i dont think thats
normal lol..
I think if it is interrupting your normal
life. And you already said you feel it is.
Than I would call it a problem. Anything
in life that we do out of moderation might
be considered a addiction. Sound like you
might have a little addiction going on.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 10-22-07 13:54pm
I know this is an old thread, but I found
it intriguing. Also, masturbation
addiction is becoming a very serious
problem because of the proliferation of
internet porn.
The reason it is a problem is that some
males cannot have normal sexual
intercourse with their wives/girlfriends,
they can only ejaculate while masturbating
to porn.
anyways back to my
problem.. Im embarassed to admit it but is
it normal to masterbate in places that you
know isnt a good place to masterbate...
heres what i mean im in highschool and was
in detention.... and we have this stupid
room in the princables office that has
glass windows all the teachers and
princables were out for lunch and no one
was there.... all of a sudden i found my
hand rubbing my penis.. i wanted to stop
but i couldnt... i felt ashamed after and
spent of the rest of the day trying to
figure out why i did it... Another
situation was i was at a friends house and
we were having a party... and there was
booze involved but i wasnt drunk but many
of my friends from school were and there
were girls taking off there cloths and
kissing each other... after the party was
done we went to bed i was on the floor of
my friends bedroom and there were people
sleeping on the bed once again i found my
self masterbating before i fell asleep i
really think this is not normal and would
like any information that could help me...
Another thing i am wondering i am very
Anti-Social i dont like meeting new people
i get a feeling of being scared when there
are people i dont know around me. i feel
normal when im around friends and family
and i drink alot because i dont seem to
mind meeting new people when im under the
infulence of the almighty booze.... thats
the only time i meet new people my anti
social problem is so bad that is has
stopped me from getting my drivers license
and finding a job.. and i am worried that
i wont be able to find one... I am also
very shy around girls.. and am still a
virgin which i dont mind but i fear my
shyness and unwillingness to talk or
communicate with girls is gonna stop me
from having a relationship... the farthest
i have gone with a girl is fingerbanging
her.. and i was in a situation where it
was forced on me to do it or else i
probally wouldnt of had the guts to do
it... could these problems be related to
me masterbating so much...? i would also
like information to help me get rid of my
anti social problem so i can continue with
life.. and meet a girl i want to have a
relationship but when ever the oppurtinity
presents it self i always back down... Im
also scared about asking girls out... i
mean i know if they say no to me it doesnt
mean i should give up but for me asking a
girl out is a big deal and if i hear the
words know i usually become really
depressed... I am not ugly.. but im not
that good looking either people usually
dont make fun of me but in my past school
years grades 1-9 i used to get teased alot
called gay because i was to scared to talk
to girls i want to but it just doesnt come
out... this could also be a factor in my
masterbating and anti-socialism??
i dont think thats
normal lol..
i try to find a new
one and thanks for the help guys....
