it is common for men to have erections at night. even several times. i think it is also common for a man to push away from someone or something that maybe trying to touch the genitals while sleeping. you should try to talk to him about initiating sex with you. try to do it with out confronting him. make it as friendly as possible. just tell him somethings you would like for him to try. sometimes it is a very delicate situation for two people to discuss their sex lives

thank you for your advice. so maybe if i could hint toward him initiating sex more often and it works..then i should bother to mention to him that the erections at night make me slightly jelouse?
he told me when he woke up in the morning that he had a dream that he was in university and his own dorm room..he said that one of the teachers kept giving him a hard time about wearing the wrong shoes to class.
i didnt ask anymore because i didnt want to bring up the uncomfortable topic.
but this makes me think that instead of some chick from his internet porn movies..it could possibly be some girl he knew in highschool or even an ex gf..or maybe just some hot university girl.
i know these are just dreams and i probably shouldnt be concerned..but they do bother me..and it is hard to face him in the morning when i think he fantasized about other women and most likely remembers his sexy dreams.

do you ever fantasize about other men? nobody in particular just a different male. there is nothing wrong with fantasies. they are in fact healthy. i would not mention anything about your jealousy to him. try to let it go. be positive and just talk to him about initiating sex.

i can't fantasize about other men sexually..i have tried before..but the image doesnt stick..or really do anything for me at all..but i think this may be because of my upbringing ..i keep thinking that is wrong to fantasize about other men while being with the one that you love..and because that feeling has been inputed so strong in me..i cannot do it
that is why i have come here to see what others think.
so thank you..you have helped a lot..i will do my best not to let it get to me.
when he mentions how he has had some crazy dreams every morning..i wont think negitivly unless he acctually tells me it was some other woman.
until then i will just assume that the dreams are of me.
if i think that they are of me then that would be sure to help me not feel akward having sex with him anymore.
i feel like i am fooling myself..but if this is a common thing and nothing to worry about..then i must get my mind trained to understanding that.
besides deep down inside i know that he cannot control his dreams to fix this problem..and bringing it up to him would just embarrass him and probably make him feel even more akward when it comes to initating sex.
thank you again for your promt and very helpful replies

you are welcome. that's why we are here. glad i can help. any other questions or problems feel free to ask and discuss.

hmm this is to hard for me to ignore
this morning i really wanted to have sex with my bf, but he said that he was feeling too tired and not in the mood..i couldnt seem to turn him on..so i let him sleep..then about an hour later he got a huge erection and started jerking off in his sleep..this is tearing apart my self confidence and makes me not want to have sex with him any more..i have to leave the room now..how could his dreams overpower the real thing...could anyone relate to this situation or let me know why he may be doing this
i feel that i am very attractive..i am thin, long brown hair, brown eyes, italian skin tone, i hear from others that i have a great personality..so i dont think it is because he is unattracted to me...i just dont understand him..he turnes me down pretty much every time i want to have sex with him..please i need suggestions before i loose all of my self confidence

my fiance' often gets aroused in his sleep and will wake up cause he can't role over properly... i've never had a problem with him masturbating though. maybe your guy has a sexual addiction of sorts that he feels he can't share with you and he is working it out in his sleep.
one of my last exes did have the problem your referring to. he would just randomly start masturbating in his sleep. one day i woke him up and asked him and he basically broke down and told me that he didn't feel comfortable asking me for anal sex and was dreaming about it for about 2 months.

but of course there are just ideas, and may not be the truth

hunnie first off, nocturnal erections are a sign that your man is healthy in that area. it is very normal. also, just because his penis gets erect during the night does not necessarily mean he is dreaming of something sexual. i don't know what he dreams, he may dream about sexual things sometimes, but just because he has an erection during his sleep doesn't mean he is fantasizing of somebody else. men usually have around 8 or 9 erections throughout the course of one night. it's very normal & you have nothing to worry about.

i have been with my fiance a year now and just recently he has been having problems getting an erection and dosent realy want much sex but gets erections in his sleep i get very frustrated and it gets me down i recently found texts on his phone which were quite rauchey what should i do help

Hellokitty1986.....am not to sure what to advise on the text messages but you should confront him about them.....As for the erections in his sleep that is normal for a guy it just means they are healthy.....My fiance does it often and i know there is nothing wrong with him Jenny