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Q: Boyfriend Wants to Watch Girlfriend Stimulate Another Man

asked by: jr123t on April 10th, 2007

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I've been dating this guy for six months and he seems to have a strange habit. While having sex, he likes to hear about my past sexual encounters with guys in explicit detail and tells me he wants me to pleasure another man and tell him about it. It seems the only way he climaxes is if we are engaging in this erotic fantasy talk, but now I think he really wants me to engage in sexual acts with other men to provide new material for his mental masturbation. I believe an exgirlfriend had gotten him into this, but I am not at all comfortable with this and wonder if there is any way to reprogram his mind from this habitual way of thinking to enjoy sex without feeling the need to hear me share my sexual past with him...please any advice would be appreciated.

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Fairy Godmother

replied on April 10th, 2007

Supporter

Had to Jump On This One!

If this man is at all interested in you or cares the one little bit, he will be willing ot listen to what you are saying. That this type of sexual behavior is making you uncomfortable. Of course he'd love to have all of this come true.why else would a man even want you to say such things during an intimate moment of just the two of you. Just my opinion, but if he is not willing to re'generate his ways of "climaxing" I'd say RUN LIKE HELL.........but thats jut my OPINION!

Sunflower_pie81

replied on April 10th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I wouldn't like this either...I agree...with Fairy*Godmother. If it seems like this is the only way he can climax then something is wrong...I think that you need to sit and talk to him...I wouldn't like this...if it didn't change....runn like hell to put it gently. lol

Llewellyn

replied on April 10th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I wish that my partner was like that...... Seriously though, I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with what he wants, but I also certainly do not think there is anything wrong with your being uncomfortable and unwilling. It's just two preferences that aren't the same. People deal with differing preferences all of the time. Sometimes it is enough to end the relationship, and other times it can worked out just fine. If you really feel uncomfortable, don't give in. Like the others said, talk to him about it. Be honest. Try couples counseling if you two can't work it out yourselves. Keep in mind that if he is really unwilling to listen and try to respect your wishes, that says something about him. Good luck.

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