After days of research to try and understand all of the symptoms/traits of bipolar illnesses, I am prepared to help a loved one seek help. Actually she was already being treated professionally with medicine and therapy, but unfortunately the doctor reduced her meds and told her that last week's appointment was her last. I think I have learned enough and am willing to help seek additional treatment, but I have a few questions.

- My friend tends to lie when, or after she had an episode in order to cover up what she has done. The problem is, the lies are becoming overwhelming for her, as she cannot remember who she told the lie to, nor what the lie was. How does someone build up a network of friends, or come to an agreement with the bipolar person in order to keep the lies in check? How is this done without it backfiring and seeming like everyone is against the ill person?

- Furthermore she likes to claim a lot of time for herself and seems to lead another life away from everyone. She claims she needs her space, but to me this is a cop out to allow her secret, episodal feelings space to wonder so it does not affect her friendships. (he is scared to death to lose her friends). When a person commits to seeking help, do they also need to commit to the black-out times? the times when no one knows where she is?

- Medication change/increase? in order to regain the "therapeutical level."

- What can I expect?

- Can someone share their experience on this subject?

Also, I came up with my own list. Am I missing something?

- She needs to admit she needs help.
- She needs to be willing to do it.
- She needs to be committed to doing it.
- She will be 100% accountable (until she regains therapeutic level with meds)
- Friends network to keep her in check. (I know that sounds horrible, but she goes into these black holes because of her recent relapse).
- Multiple person counseling
- Controlling/ommitting the lying


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