Usually, when a woman terminates for fetal deformity she has a choice as to what kind of abortion she may have.

There are two types. Labor and delivery induction, and D&E.

L&D is usually done by your own private ob, if they offer it, and it involves delivering a stillbirth.
Basically, your baby is given an injection of digoxin into the heart to stop its beating, then labor is induced. You deliver an intact baby, which is important to many women dealing with fetal deformities.

D&E is often done in a clinic, but a womans own doctor may offer it as well.

For ANY aboriton procedure, even ones at 6 weeks, a woman can easily be put to sleep for the abortion.

You can be put to sleep for the abortion. Basically, the abortion is done with suction aspiration, much like an early abortion. Suction is used, and curettage is used to ensure all fetal parts are removed.

hi, just wondering if you have come any further in your decision? please please think hard and long. it is not un common for women to regret their decision and if you are not 100% sure do not do it!

lisa xxxxx
feel free to message me.

Well, the doctor called today and said the baby will not have any quality of life, they are 100% sure on that. So they are sending me to a place for me to be in labor and be sedated. I will be put to sleep and they will take the baby out like a normal pregnancy and do an autopsy on it to see exactly what went wrong and if it was in our genes. My baby has a cleft lip, eyes are far apart, and the spine is curved. So they said the baby will be handicapped it's whole life and it's also got clubbed hands and feet.

I'm sorry for that... I hope the doctors find that this was just a fluke and your genes are healthy to try again

Okay, that would be a 'labor and delivery' termination.

Thanks to modern medicine and good testing, we can accurately tell women a diagnosis, and explain quality of life.

I am very glad to hear that your doctor has been helpful in helping you find a facility to perform the termination, it really helps.

I'm so sorry that you've had bad news. I hope everything goes ok for you and that your fiance is behind you 100%, giving you the love and support you need.

*hugs*

I'm very sorry to hear this but you sound asthough you have some good support, both with your fiance and your medical team

Well I just got back from the doctor today and he said he is setting me up an appointment on friday to be in labor. He said he will give me medication to start my contractions and it will take 12-24 hours to have the baby. But since I am 19 weeks, is it gunna feel like a normal pregnancy? I never had a baby so I don't know if it's going to hurt. So friday morning I will be in labor. They said after the baby comes out I have the choice to hold the baby or see him. I don't think I could do that, but they will take pictures of him for me to keep. I am sooooo scared but of course, my fiance is supporting me and is going to be there by my side. So hopefully everything goes well.

before you make your choice - I hope you are fully informed on this condition.

Not all children with trisomy 13 die in the first month
http://www.livingwithtrisomy13.org/
there are some on there 19 and 22 years old.

Also you realise that you must have genetic counselling because trisomy 13 isn't a one off occurence.
If this is what your child genuinely has then potentially every subsequent pregnancy will also be affected by trisomy 13.
It is possible to acheive a normal pregnancy but this will require the assistance of a qualified genetic counsellor and endocrinologist.

another helpful site to help you make an informed decision is
http://www.trisomy.org/index.php

they are gonna put you to sleep right?so i'm assuming they will still have the child for you to hold when you wake up?I'm so so so sorry for what you are going through.I couldn't imagine having to make a decision like that.Let me just say if I were you I don't know what I would do,but there is a chance he/she will live.Whatever you choose I hope for you to get through it hun.good luck and I'll be thinking of you.

**edit- I just watched the video on that link and I almost cried.that link doesn't show the worst that can happen though kia,it shows all the children who look normal.Man,I would be so torn on what to do.a cleft lip and club foot/hands can be fixed. . .

that's the point mel.
not all kids are severely affected by trisomy 13.
it shows that many do have good lives.

and no, you are not "put to sleep" when they induce labour.

I'm suprised that the induced labour has been planned so quickly and without counselling - but then she's not in the UK so who knows.

I see what your saying.i tink I would try and have the baby.

im soo sooo soooo sorry, reading all of this made me cry. im so sorry you have to go threw this, but if you ever need to talk im here.

Yeah... it's so hard when it's a wanted child... god, I don't know what I'd do. I think with something more serious than this, I'd completely abort... In this case, who knows? It seems like many of them had developmental problems. That would weigh a lot on my mind.

They can sedate women through the latter part of procedure, it is not uncommon at all!


I am wishing you luck on friday, and I hope that everything is peaceful and over with as quickly as possible.

keep us updated hun.

Keeping my finger crossed for you today hunnie i can only imagine how hard this is for you. I send you all my love

Here, they really don't counsel you on things like that. Her doctor spoke with her. Covered the basics, you know odds of it happening agian, things that could have caused it, and if she will have the same problem in the future. But honestly, I would be surprised if the doctor spoke to her longer than 20 min. He may have offered her concelling. But it is not mandatory by any means. She will, however, probably have to see a genetic councellor before she ttc agian. (Or soon after conceiving)

She is being a trooper. A very stong women. Much stonger than I could be in that situation. She will be in the hospital for a day or two. Then she will give us an update on how she is doing.