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Anal Sex??? Posted: 04-05-07 17:06pm
ok, so my guy wants to do it (in the bum).
its like a huge turn on for him. i have
never done it, and i am not sure if i want
to. mostly because i don't know much about
it, except that it will hurt. (and i am
definitely not looking forward to that) i
have heard that it can be really good and
stuff. but what i want to know is: what
happens after? i heard that you loose
control over your bowel movements. is that
true??? can it mess me up in there???
after all it is where you poop out of!
does poo come out while your doing it? are
there any health risks i should know
about??? like long term problems or
problems that can happen later on because
of it??? i am very curious to know
everything about it before i decide
whether to do it or not. so please, any
information is very appreciated.
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Tylanas
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Re: Anal Sex??? Posted: 04-05-07 21:12pm
BridgetC87
wrote:
ok, so my guy wants to do it
(in the bum). its like a huge turn on for
him. i have never done it, and i am not
sure if i want to. mostly because i don't
know much about it, except that it will
hurt. (and i am definitely not looking
forward to that) i have heard that it can
be really good and stuff. but what i want
to know is: what happens after? i heard
that you loose control over your bowel
movements. is that true??? can it mess me
up in there??? after all it is where you
poop out of! does poo come out while your
doing it? are there any health risks i
should know about??? like long term
problems or problems that can happen later
on because of it??? i am very curious to
know everything about it before i decide
whether to do it or not. so please, any
information is very
appreciated.
Anal sex does not have to hurt any more
than vaginal sex. It can be painless! The
important part is preparation.
Afterwards, directly after when you hop
into the bathroom for the first time, you
may have a slightly looser or numb
feeling, but you will nevr loose complete
control. The only way this would happen
were to be if you never had vaginal sex
ever again and had losts of anal sex with
very large toys lol.
Fecal matter does not come out while you
do it because you prepare first. Here's a
clue: if you feel like you need to poo,
it's probably a bad time to have anal sex!
Wait until after you've gone and you feel
nice and empty.
You can have a preparatory shower and
clean yourself - even inside if you wish
with a gentle warm-water enema.
Anal sex is very enjoyable. The key is to
go very, very slowly, use a lot of lube,
and to prepare before hand by slowly
stretching with larger and larger
butt-plugs. I know, that sounds funny but
I assure you that anal is a lot more
enjoyable when you know how to relax your
body. it's amazing!
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BridgetC87
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Posted: 04-05-07 21:46pm
thank you for your help, and sorry about
the double post thing.
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Llewellyn
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Posted: 04-05-07 21:53pm
To reiterate a lot of what eiri said, anal
sex requires lubrication, preparation, and
communication. Many people use an enema
first. Also, you should probably have
your partner use a finger or small toy on
you first to get you relaxed and used to
the feeling. It does not have to hurt.
Some women love it, some don't care for it
even if it doesn't hurt them.
It is safe unless you rush into without
the lubrication and preparation. If you
rush, then there actually is a chance that
you'll tear a bit.
Also, be aware that, although it is rare,
you can get pregnant from anal sex if the
semen drips from your anus to your vagina.
You can also get STDs. So you might want
to use a condom.
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nightangel73
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Re: Anal Sex??? Posted: 04-05-07 23:47pm
Eiri
wrote:
Anal sex is very enjoyable. The key is to
go very, very slowly, use a lot of lube,
and to prepare before hand by slowly
stretching with larger and larger
butt-plugs. I know, that sounds funny but
I assure you that anal is a lot more
enjoyable when you know how to relax your
body. it's
amazing!
eiri so do you enjoy anal sex a lot?
Bridget just try and see if you like it.
If you don't like it, don't worry, many of
us women don't like it. Fortunatetly my
fiance doesn't like it either so we are
both sexually compatible in that sense
(I actually
like that his disgusted at anal sex
because i know for sure he does not have
any gay tendencies you know cause gays are
the ones who like to do it on the bum
bum..yikes!)
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Re: Anal Sex??? Posted: 04-06-07 01:42am
nightangel73
wrote:
Eiri
wrote:
Anal sex is very enjoyable. The key is to
go very, very slowly, use a lot of lube,
and to prepare before hand by slowly
stretching with larger and larger
butt-plugs. I know, that sounds funny but
I assure you that anal is a lot more
enjoyable when you know how to relax your
body. it's
amazing!
eiri so do you enjoy anal sex a lot?
Bridget just try and see if you like it.
If you don't like it, don't worry, many of
us women don't like it. Fortunatetly my
fiance doesn't like it either so we are
both sexually compatible in that sense
(I actually
like that his disgusted at anal sex
because i know for sure he does not have
any gay tendencies you know cause gays are
the ones who like to do it on the bum
bum..yikes!)
Dear god you're offensive!
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change is good
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Posted: 04-06-07 05:54am
i think that means yes
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nightangel73
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Posted: 04-06-07 09:49am
change is good
wrote:
i think that means
yes
I agree
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Tylanas
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Posted: 04-06-07 13:47pm
change is good
wrote:
i think that means
yes
No fool.
Not only was she offensive, close-minded,
ignorant and stupid in her comments, she
insulted both me and my boyfriend. This
isn't the first time she's done this
either.
I do not consider anal sex to be a
"signal" that someone has "gay
tendancies". That's really idiodic, and
only a homphobe like nightangel would ever
think that. I am actually substantiated in
calling her that; she's proven herself to
be one and she doesn't hide from this
aspect of herself.
Do I like anal sex? Yes. I've only had it
once however. Does my boyfriend like anal
sex? Yes.
I've kissed a girl before, yet I don't
consider myself bisexual. I also have no
probem with bisexuality or homosexuality.
So before any of you go assuming anything,
maybe you should get the full story. I
mean, god!
homophone_nightangel
wrote:
(I actually like that his
disgusted at anal sex because i know for
sure he does not have any gay tendencies
you know cause gays are the ones who like
to do it on the bum
bum..yikes!)
How completely offensive this is!!! I
can't believe anyone would believe the
above comment. Honestly, only someone who
lives under a rock or is brainwashed
belives that crap.
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ebarnhard33
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Posted: 04-06-07 17:13pm
Good lord nightangel... are you really
*that* close-minded?
I honestly don't have anything to say.
You're the most ignorant and naive person
i've come across in a long time.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 04-06-07 20:14pm
ebarnhard33
wrote:
Good lord nightangel... are
you really *that* close-minded?
I honestly don't have anything to say.
You're the most ignorant and naive person
i've come across in a long
time.
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Sunflower_pie81
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**let Me Just Say Posted: 04-06-07 20:28pm
Anal sex isn't for everyone. I personally
like it. It doesn't mean that the guy
that i am with is gay or anything like
that. (ahem!!)
If your bf is attentive to your needs than
it can be a wonderful thing. I am hoping
that you and your boyfriend have an open
mind. being clean is the key, you can do
and enema and that way you will know that
there shouldn't be anything left in there.
you know?
Make it fun, not a chore, don't go into it
like it's something that is going to be
painful and dirty. It can be great and
clean depending on the things you do
before hand. Have him use his fingers
first to prepair you, using lube (lots of
it) of course. And let him know that he
has to go at your pace, maybe even let you
back up onto it....or even you on top so
that you controle to depth at first.
Yes sometimes the skin between the vigina
and the anus can be ripped...but it
doesn't happen normally. So it is
safe....as long as you both listen to each
other.
Ok have fun, oh and remember that going
front to back is fine but going back to
front is not good.....leaves the door open
for infections in your main little
kitten....
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BridgetC87
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Joined: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 38 Location: California
Posted: 04-06-07 22:31pm
thank you everyone. i really appreciate
all of your help but im still not sure if
i want to do it or not, im still iffy
about it, i guess i just need to think
more about it and definitely talk to him
about it more. anyways thanks for all your
help!
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Jester27
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Posted: 04-08-07 00:56am
Eiri
wrote:
change is good
wrote:
i think that means
yes
No fool.
Not only was she offensive, close-minded,
ignorant and stupid in her comments, she
insulted both me and my boyfriend. This
isn't the first time she's done this
either.
I do not consider anal sex to be a
"signal" that someone has "gay
tendancies". That's really idiodic, and
only a homphobe like nightangel would ever
think that. I am actually substantiated in
calling her that; she's proven herself to
be one and she doesn't hide from this
aspect of herself.
Do I like anal sex? Yes. I've only had it
once however. Does my boyfriend like anal
sex? Yes.
I've kissed a girl before, yet I don't
consider myself bisexual. I also have no
probem with bisexuality or homosexuality.
So before any of you go assuming anything,
maybe you should get the full story. I
mean, god!
homophone_nightangel
wrote:
(I actually like that his
disgusted at anal sex because i know for
sure he does not have any gay tendencies
you know cause gays are the ones who like
to do it on the bum
bum..yikes!)
How completely offensive this is!!! I
can't believe anyone would believe the
above comment. Honestly, only someone who
lives under a rock or is brainwashed
belives that
crap.
I agree.
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BeautifulLiesx3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2006 Posts: 73
Posted: 04-09-07 17:13pm
God, last I checked this was a place to be
open minded and give/seek advice for
people not directly attack or insult
anyone. I myself don't personally like
anal sex but it's not that bad and it
certainly doesn't mean someone has gay
tendencies. That's a very arrogant thing
to say, there's nothing wrong with
enjoying anal sex .. lord.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 04-10-07 13:13pm
wow,lets everyone jump on angel!
she was stating her opinion which is
allowed.yes it was offensive to some of
you but maybe she has has had things
happen in her lifetime that lead her to
believe that way.fine if someone says
something about it being offensive but
ya'll don't need to kepp jumping on the
girl.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 04-10-07 14:10pm
Most people in here can't see beyond what
they believe is true and for that they get
stabbed verbaly. I think it's wrong for
people to call other people offensive,
close-minded, ignorant and stupid, or an
idoit, weather or not they are. Please
people grow up. It's not right to call
people, substantiated or not, names or
label them.
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Posted: 04-10-07 14:16pm
Sunflower_pie81
wrote:
Most people in here can't
see beyond what they believe is true and
for that they get stabbed verbaly. I
think it's wrong for people to call other
people offensive, close-minded, ignorant
and stupid, or an idoit, weather or not
they are. Please people grow up. It's
not right to call people, substantiated or
not, names or label them.
thank you!!!
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 04-10-07 14:23pm
~*~Melissa~*~
wrote:
Sunflower_pie81
wrote:
Most people in here can't
see beyond what they believe is true and
for that they get stabbed verbaly. I
think it's wrong for people to call other
people offensive, close-minded, ignorant
and stupid, or an idoit, weather or not
they are. Please people grow up. It's
not right to call people, substantiated or
not, names or label them.
thank you!!!
I am here to back you up love....lol
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 04-10-07 14:31pm
Sunflower_pie81
wrote:
~*~Melissa~*~
wrote:
Sunflower_pie81
wrote:
Most people in here can't
see beyond what they believe is true and
for that they get stabbed verbaly. I
think it's wrong for people to call other
people offensive, close-minded, ignorant
and stupid, or an idoit, weather or not
they are. Please people grow up. It's
not right to call people, substantiated or
not, names or label them.
(I actually
like that his disgusted at anal sex
because i know for sure he does not have
any gay tendencies you know cause gays are
the ones who like to do it on the bum
bum..yikes!)
