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Q: Sorry, Venting Again..

asked by: Zanny on April 5th, 2007

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Apparently no-one wants to be friends with me anymore. I used to have two really close friends, one guy and one girl.

I found out the guy likes me and avoids talking to me because he hates the idea of me having a boyfriend.

The girl.. well I don't know what happened there. I guess she moved on.. she has so many good friends and she drives all over the place going to see them every day of the week. I think the fact that I have .Jenny has become a real issue with her.. I can't do "cool" things anymore, like stay out til 3am in some random guy's house drinking vodka straight outta the bottle like I did when I was 16. She hasn't grown up, and I have.. and it's hard, because now I don't have anyone. I don't have any friends who are mums, and I don't go to baby groups or anything because all the other mothers are in their 20s and 30s. I get looked down upon like some irresponsible promiscuous person.

I know, I know.. I'm going to get told "welcome to motherhood, you don't get to party anymore".. but that's not what I wanna do. I want to have a few friends round and just chat, or go to the beach or something with .Jenny and have an ice cream. I didn't think that was asking a lot of anyone.. but I guess I was wrong.

I wish you guys didn't live so far away =(

Replies(12)

HcoBrunette06

replied on April 5th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

aw zanny, we love you. im sorry your friends aren't around anymore Sad

mami2karina

replied on April 5th, 2007

New User

I'm sorry you feel like that. Can I ask how old you are? I had my daughter when I was 17. I lost all but one of my friends, they were all doing their own things, partying, going out, getting drunk. Even after I had her they wanted nothing to do with me because my ex-husband alienated all of my friends. It's hard, I still have a hard time making friends and I'm not that old, I'll be 21 this month and I'm pregnant with baby #2. I know it's hard, but things eventually get better. Just wait until they have kids, then they'll know. It happened to my best friend, know she understands how I felt when I had my daughter. I'm here to talk if you want to.

Zanny

replied on April 5th, 2007

Supporter

mami2karina wrote:

I'm 18.. and thank you =)

Thanks .Terra, I love you too <3

mami2karina

replied on April 5th, 2007

New User

You're welcome. I know how hard it can be. Even though I am no longer with my husband and have someone else in my life now and we're having a child, the friends I use to have are for the most part non-existant in my life. Even the ones that I made after I had her. It's the sad part of life I guess. I hope things start looking up for you soon. Are you a single mother or is the father helping out? I am now raising my daughter alone and it's hard, but I'm surviving.

jenniek

replied on April 5th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Are there any mommy groups around that maybe you can meet new people at and make new friends? Somehow through Facebook.com a bunch of girls with kids in my area found each other and now we have monthly get togethers and such. Its great to get out and meet new people with kids that way you have someone to relate to about parenting things and the kids can play together. So try looking for groups in your area or something! And if all else fails the ehealth girls are always here for you!

tigresacanela24

replied on April 5th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Zanny I know where you're coming from with the friend thing. People change when you have a baby or maybe you change when you have a baby. Probably it's a bit of both. My so-called best friend keeps standing me up for things lately and we used to talk to each other every day but we might talk once or twice a month now. Stupid heiffer. She started getting weird while I was pregnant but we still talked and hung out but once i had the baby it was like poof...she's gone! Rolling Eyes

If she ever has a baby then she'll finally understand but by that point I definitely won't want to deal with her.

candita_sky

replied on April 5th, 2007

Advanced Support Team

is it just me are all of us moms feeling really down and out of it lately???
i wished i was closer id come over i need friends to come over too but alas no one ever stops by. I feel for you hun

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 6th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

i'm sorry zanny.2 of my friends have(are gonna have) babies and i never ditched them.I don't talk to them as much because I have 2 jobs but I never would ditch them! I wish you lived closer! i'd definetly go to the beach with you and jenny Wink

Sunflower_pie81

replied on April 6th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

zan, i am 25 with a baby and most/all of my friends are just ummm gone....so don't feel bad i feel the same way.

I went out for the first time in months, guess who it was with.......My boss and an out of town corporate office.....how fun was that??? well it wasn't too bad.....and we did have a nice glass of wine....but still....

so dont' feel bad, your not the only one.

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 6th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Sunflower_pie81 wrote:

Gen,I think as soon as I get caught up with my bills i'm taking a day off and we can go to the beach or something!

OctoberBaby06

replied on April 6th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I know how you feel with the friends thing. I still talk to some of my friends online but when it comes to hanging out with me forget it. It really sucks Crying or Very sad

Sunflower_pie81

replied on April 6th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

Sunflower_pie81 wrote:

Gen,I think as soon as I get caught up with my bills i'm taking a day off and we can go to the beach or something!

that'd be great.

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