Were you able to get everything sorted out with your health? I think that should be your number one priority.

Are you agianst having a child right now, or did you just think that you wanted to wait longer between children?

I just thought I wanted to wait longer. I'm having surgery to remove the mass on my pancreas, if that's what you mean. It's a laser surgery. i'm having it in 2 weeks.

Id wait until you feel ready..It is much much harder with 2 then it is with one and if you are the primary caretaker then you need to feel 100% ready for it. Your body isnt even totally healed from being pregnant before.. If you do decided to do it then awesome for you but i really think you need to feel totally and completely ready first.

yeah, I am a stay at home mom now. my husband gradutes in may and he got a job as an executive at the hospital here. So I am the primary caregiver. I am not 100% ready.... how do I tell him?

hahah pleade the case for your mental sanity..?

Or id do some research on the effects of having children so close together..on your uterus ect. show him yes people do it and yes its possible but look at how harmful it could be to my health..plus tell him you enjoy sleep and for his saftey and wellbeing you shouldnt be any more deprived from it

I remember you having some concerns about pancriatic cancer. I just wanted to see how that was going. I'm glad to see that they have things under control.

If you did decide to begin ttc and got pregnant striaght away (just for the sake of argument) your children would be almost a year and ahalf apart. Do you think that you would be able (or want) to handle that? Do you think you would resent your husband at all?

My brother and I are very close in age, and my mom has told me that when she was pregnant with my brother she looked at me and thought that I was so old and mature and that I would be able to help her out so much. Well when he was finally born, she realized quickly that I wasn't going to be as much help as she thought. How could I at 18 months old?
She has told me that she wouldn't change anything for the world, but when its my turn to have kids, she would recomend spacing them a little further than she did.
However, I love being so close in age with my brother. We always were close (as we got older). I thought we would kill each other when we were younger though.
I think that if you are going to be the primary care giver then you should be 100% ok with the idea of having 2 very young kids. If you think it might be to much, then I would talk to dh about your concerns and maybe come to an agreement that you would like to have more kids, but would just like to wait a while.

Yeah, the cancer is under control. I am having surgery and they don't think radiation is neccessary.

I was originally thinking that I wanted to have my children 3 years apart. Like, start trying when she's 2, then maybe I won't have 2 in diapers.