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Q: Need to Vent

asked by: nightangel73 on April 2nd, 2007

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I am broken hearted.....

To make the story short I have been trying so hard to change my job so i could have my dream job for so many years but i'm beginning to realize now that my dream job is just something i won't be able to have ever. I studied the wrong bachelor degree and when I tried to fix it and went back again to school and get another degree in what i wanted it's now too late. I have done everything on my power. I have more education degrees than all the people that have the jobs that i want but they don't wouldn't give an opportunity. At work it's like people just don't want that you succeed. I have wondered if it is that they get intimated with people that have too much education you know like if they are afraid that you are going to take their jobs. Then there is several coworkers that want the job I want to have and their qualifications are not even close to mine. But they have been longer in the company, some their jobs are on the line (company is going to lay them off in a few months) so they try to make me look bad since I'm the one with the highest qualifications. I can't take it anymore. I'm going to get married in october and I want to enjoy my new husband and have babies and enjoy my new family. If there is little strenght left I know when I have babies I won't be up to go on and continue studying. So this is why i'm hanging the gloves now. I just wished i had my dream (computer) job. I am broken hearted...

Replies(15)

littlesqueaks

replied on April 2nd, 2007

Experienced User

Don't give up thats what they want you to do!! You need to put yourself a head of them and prove to the company what you can and will provide for them. Don't let others stand in your way of your dreams and push you down in a lower status because they "think" that they can. You know you have it so go get it. Lift your chin and your shoulders show your confidence and go to the top of the food chain (LOL) Don't rely on the under takers and go straight to the source of who will help you accomplish the goals and dreams that you want. The "important" people in your job will see your enthusiasm, skill, and goal orientated person that you are and place you where you should be. But if you give up to easily they will see that instead and you don't want that. Your a women hear you roar!!!! ISn't that how the saying goes. Go for it it's never to late unless you give up don't give up!!!!!

Just a word of advice from a stranger who has been through the marriage and kid thing already and is trying to reach for the top a little to late in life but I am still going to keep climbing. You are in a perfect situation to get where you want to be before having kids so go for it.

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 3rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

hey angel! It sounds to me like you are very smart and do have all the qualifications.I didn't read he first post but it sounds to me like they don't want to pay you what you deserve so they give the job to someone less qualified so they don't have to pay as much.I'm sorry about your luck deary and I hope things get better for you.

nightangel73

replied on April 3rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I have been depressed today about it. I am really not a person that gives up easily. I have been fighting for this dream for many years (about 7 years). I have learned that not only one has to be qualified but one needs the experience (which is impossible to have when no one gives you the opportunity) and one needs to be in the right place at the right time. You need luck too. And look, the director of my dept bless her heart, she really wants to help me achieve my dream. Well a couple months ago there was a posting a great opportunity and she told me to apply for it because she was going to help me have it because she was friend of the hiring manager. Well can you believe that the hiring manager quitted the company and left shortly after? The position then got frozen. It's like i am not meant to have this kind of job.

At least I can say I did tried everything to get what i wanted even if I didn't get it in the end. Since i still have a year before i have a baby (if god give me one of those) I can try one last course. Something that at least can make more money of what i make and that is not totally disgusting.

I really hate to feel i'm stuck guys. I hate this feeling of there is something that i want and there is nothing i can do about it.

Thanks for letting me vent and thank for the advice

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 4th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

no problem,anytime!

hey,you never know if something else is going to come up better than what you thought.I use to work at an assembly factory,and got a job at a different well know one everyone wanted to work at.well I didn't like it there and stayed at my old job (even thougth I thought I was gonna get fired).well I did get fired and 2 weeks later I got hired at a job that payede almost $2 more than the other! things happen for a reason!

I hope that wasn't too confusing! lol

nightangel73

replied on April 4th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

You know guys I have changed my mind. I am not going to give up! To hell with those m f ckers. I want to have an IT job and no one will stop me. Sorry guys I think that it might have been the hormones from the pill that put me in that depressed mood lol. I'm going to finish my dba certificate and after that I'm going for that green belt certification and I think that will do it. My fiance told me he would totally support me and that he would cook and clean so i have enough time to study (he is so sweet!)

god how did i say i was going to give up, wonder what mosquito bit me. hehe

littlesqueaks

replied on April 4th, 2007

Experienced User

Good for you!! You can do it and you diserve to get the job of your dreams!!! Go all the way and try not to let those F***ers get in you way!!

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 5th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

yay for you! i'm glad your spirit has changed.hey,we all have our moments!

DPantelones

replied on April 5th, 2007

Experienced User

nightangel73 wrote:

Awesome attitude, go for it and let us know how it goes too! Best of luck...D

nightangel73

replied on April 5th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Thank you all!

I will definetly keep the update Very Happy

nightangel73

replied on April 10th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Re: Need to Vent

RedDelight wrote:

Damn you puss-bags are *everywhere*!!! Grow the f*ck up--- do it if you want it, baby. If you don't have it-- it's your own damn fault. No one elses but yours.

You are probably not going to get your dream job at this rate. Might as well go for second best.

lol

nightangel73

replied on April 11th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Update, Update

Well guess what guys?

Today I had two recruiting companies calling me about a job offer that came out, a fantastic opportunity and yes it's a computer job woohooo!! Not only the job is good but the company omg is the equivalent to Microsoft or IBM but in the pharmaceutical world. It's a temporary contract offer which that still works for me because this is a foot in the door for a company that everybody would die to work for. Not only that would look awesome in my resume but that's enough time to make the contacts which I'm very good at and get quality experience and the title that I need so I can move forward. And it's a whole more money too! It is almost certain I will get interviewed but yet I still have to pass the interviews so guys wish me luck and pray for me!

wow..

BridgetC87

replied on April 11th, 2007

New User

reddelight, you are very rude. do you really think it is necessary to talk that way to people? if you have nothing nice or supportive to say, maybe you shouldn't say anything at all!

nightangel73

replied on April 11th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

BridgetC87 wrote:

reddelight, you are very rude. do you really think it is necessary to talk that way to people? if you have nothing nice or supportive to say, maybe you shouldn't say anything at all!

Don't worry bridget I don't take things written online personally.

BridgetC87

replied on April 11th, 2007

New User

it is just really getting on my nerves! i normally i do not either, but this is supposed to be a site to get help and advice, and the particular person only has mean and rude things to say.

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 12th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

BridgetC87 wrote:

it is just really getting on my nerves! i normally i do not either, but this is supposed to be a site to get help and advice, and the particular person only has mean and rude things to say.

you know what?I really think someone hacked into her account.she is a very good friend of mine and she would never talk this nasty to someone.yes she is sarcastic but never like this.I'm actually worried abouther because she hasn't returned any phone calls or pm's,so I honestly think its not her and there is something wrong.I hope everything is ok. Sad

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