wow! Its viseversa for me. Im really jealous and possesive to my boyfriend. When my boyfreind trys to dump me I try to kill me self too and he feels bad for me. Except I dont throw things, snatch things, bump into him, or break things, ... I argue and yell really load. We argue at least 5 times a week. I know exactly how your boyfriend feels. right now Im trying to read a book on realationships by Dr. Phil called, relationship rescue. when I ponder about himm wanting to be with some slu!ty girl that does not exist or when I ponder about him not loving me any more I try to read that book, but I am too depressed sometimes to read it. Then I turn to my paranoia stage. I finally admit that I'm am jealous and possesive because my boyfriend sad that If this dose not stop he will disappear. That really scares me. I personally really love him. So I am trying. We have been together for 4 years. So Im really trying. I think that your boyfriend wants you to show him that you love him. Encourage him that no one will come between you guys and that he will always be your boyfreind. Thats if you really love himm. I hope my boyfriend loves me after all this.

Ortho girl. Get out now. Many abused women say they love their men, and take the pounding of their lives. Get out now. You are not really happy. He has managed to make it so, he is the only one in your life.

Get out now.


Reneblack. I had a girl friend exactly like that. Worse two years of my life, trying to get out of that relationship. There is no excuse for your behaviour. You need to get help and change it. You are totally in the wrong.

what ever .

For once I agree with makoto. Get out now. This is a precursor to physical abuse. Take it from someone that's been there and was almost killed by a boyfriend who did the same things in the beginning that yours did. Run. I wish I had. It would have saved me a lot of physical and emotional pain. Because of the situation that I ended up in with him I tried to kill myself. I thank God everyday that I didn't succeed. I won't get into the details but I will say that you need to Get away from him. Peace of mind is better than piece of man any day. If you feel you can't go through it alone, tell someone what's going on. A friend you can trust, a family member. If needs be call a domestic violence crisis line. Do whatever you have to to get away. Do not accept this, do not rationalize it. It can not be rationalized. His behavior is not sane or normal. Trust me honey, you deserve better.

i agree, you dont want to be in an abusive relationship, (or a bad one for that matter) i was in an abusive relationship for over a year and he was extremely abusive and killed my self esteem. trust me it sucked. i lost all of my friends and their respect because of it. it got so bad that he hit one time while we were in the car, and i was driving, and i crashed my car. it was totaled and i finally got away, because it opened my eyes to what was going on. please leave him. you will be so much happier. i am, and there are sooooo many good guys out there that are just waiting to meet a girl and treat her good.

Im the one thats trying to change. Me and my boyfriend are doing ok and we are trying to have a baby. He wants one.

[quote]For once I agree with makoto. Get out now. This is a precursor to physical abuse. Take it from someone that's been there and was almost killed by a boyfriend who did the same things in the beginning that yours did. Run. I wish I had. It would have saved me a lot of physical and emotional pain. Because of the situation that I ended up in with him I tried to kill myself. I thank god everyday that I didn't succeed. I won't get into the details but I will say that you need to get away from him. Peace of mind is better than piece of man any day. If you feel you can't go through it alone, tell someone what's going on. A friend you can trust, a family member. If needs be call a domestic violence crisis line. do whatever you have to to get away. Do not accept this, do not rationalize it. It can not be rationalized. His behavior is not sane or normal. Trust me honey, you deserve better. [quote/]

One of the best posts on these forums.

Listen up you jealous people, you think you are doing nothing wrong. Jealousy is wrong. Plain and simple. Than can be no justification for being jealous. All men and women who verbally, phyisically, and emotional abuse their partners, thing being jealous is totally fine. It is not.

Reneblack. Accept you have problems, and it is you that allow yourself to get angry over things. Do not always place the blame. Your "what ever" comment is so typical of a person who does not want to take responsibility for their actions.

Jealousy is a nothing more than an emotional reaction which occurs when you desire to control another's person behaviour. When you try to make them conform to your way of thinking.

Jealous men and women should really seek help.

This is an abusive relationship already. You are being abused. Emotional abuse (the controlling, the manipulation) is here. Physical abuse is here. Do not minimize this; YOU ARE BEING ABUSED. Get out of this relationship. You are not responsible for his behavior (the suicide threats). If he threatens suicide, call the police; it's part of their job to pick them up and take them to the hospital. Then, get a restraining order. Do not minimize what he's doing to you!!!

Please, please don't get locked into a situation and get harmed from it further. Read some books or online articles about abuse.

http://www.dvirc.org.au/HelpHub/Stories/St ories.htm#women



It is great that you recognize your issues! I hope that you take it one step further and see a therapist.

i already did and I agree.