I have a 30 yr old friend that I feel may have ODD (oppostional defiance disorder). She will argue with anyone and everyone about EVERYTHING. For example, if we or she and anyone else agree to go to a restraunt she will always want to go somewhere else and if everyone agrees to go then she will change the place and want to go somewhere else. She will change the place over and over just to be difficult. She will also ask specific questions that she knows will cause a problem or arguement and that you can't possibly give an answer that will make her happy. She looses her temper and will throw tantrums if she gets really mad (including hitting her husband). She often does this in front of her children but will blame it on whoever she is mad at-that they made her act that way. Nothing is ever her fault and she is impossible to reason with. She oftens makes things up and twists the words of others around in order to cause conflict. Her daughter has been diagnosed with ODD. I can not find any information online about adults with ODD and have been told that maybe she is bi-polar. She has lost all of her friends (she dumps them when she doesn't get her way) and her husband is about ready to leave her. I don't know if she has a disorder or if she is just a hard person to get along with. I really feel she needs help but am not sure how to go about talking to her about it. Any suggestions would be helpful.