You cheated on her because she had a past?

You can't control what happened before she met you and if you can't cope with it then maybe you should look deep down into why. Are you only going to be happy if your gf is a virgin before you?

Do you apologise about cheating? She has no need to apologise for things that happened when she didn't know you and you have no right to expect that she should.

.g.e.t. o.v.e.r. i.t - everyone has a past and if you love someone you accept it. If you can't get past it then move on because it's not fair to cheat on someone and be like that with them because they had sex before they met you.
grow up.

you cheated her..you dont deserve to be with her. watch a movie called "chasing amy". its a really good and relevant to this subject and maybe itll show you some insights. you have to change the way you think, you have to let go of the bitterness. does she know you cheated on her?

Yes, your ego is getting the best of you. You hate the idea some one has touched your woman.

For crying out loud she is a human being and had a life before she met you.

If you are serious, then you really got to get a grip guy.

If you don't like it, go and find a virgin.

Otherwise, you will find that women tend to sleep with men.

Sorta like guys sleeping with gals.

okay first this girl should dump this guy becase he cheated on her. If she stays with him after he cheated she is really stupid/ignorant. A girl past is never an excuse to cheat.

Now going to her. What explanation does she has for her past? Did she cheated in her 10 previous relationships? Where all of them one night stands? Find out what the underlying cause was. And this an example to put into perspective, my fiance had an exwife with a promiscous past. The cause for this was because she was sexually abused as child and she didn't got proper physichiatric treatment afterwards. Well he married her and she cheated on him, divorce happened. Other thing 10 relationships is nothing if she is single like me in the 30's come'on. Spreading that out into years that's means a few hehehe.

Last i'm sorry if i offended you james but going back to the begining there is no excuses to cheat. I would have dumped you in a new york minute.

Hi James,

I was in your position before and i felt a lil more insecure because stories streamed in about him when we were together.

I know it is a little hard to accept. But i learnt this: IF you can't accept it, then you probably can't accept her as your girlfriend. It is a fact that kept me in denial for too long. Things are clearer now. She had lots of bf but you have her now. Why focus on her past when you can plan the present and future. It is easier said than done. For me, i let myself lose him and i learnt this.

Whether it is too late, i am not sure. But if things were to work out, then i'll let it work out. If not, maybe we're not destined to be together. (That is how i see things though. Many probably think that i am too reliant on how things will eventually fall into place. I am not as passive as i sound).

Good luck. Just tell yourself that you've done something bad as well. Worse, it is when she is with you. Judging the unfairness of the situation, be honest with her and hope she'll forgive you.

I appreciate all the responses, and no need to apologize, the harsh responses are warranted. Thanks everybody.

it's ok man.

one of my exgirlfriends slept with over 20 people before I was with her. I found out about it after I was with her for a few months. Ultimately we broke it off, because the little "20-people crack" evolved into a fault line.

Bottom Line - You can't blame someone becuase they did something you disagree with before you even knew them.

Your jealousy and resentment is warranted because this is something that bothers you. I've been there, I know how you feel. But it's a matter of accepting it or not accepting it. You can't cheat on her because you dont' like what she did before you knew her.

On the brightside, she's probably pretty good in the sack... ya know what i mean?!?!

Are you serious? Do you really like this girl?? Because the things that happened in her past made her who she is today, and if you like her then you should get every single one of these guys on the phone and thank tham. Then thank them that things didn't work out with them and now she is with you. Then go rent Othello with Lawrence Fishburne. It is a great movie about the green-eyed monster.

I'm so sick and tired of people saying her past is what made her what she is today...or the past is the past...or what you have today is the only thing that counts...that's [edit]. If it bugs you, it's for a good reason. people who sleep around have issues. You don't need that. One thing....how many in how long a period of time is crucial. 10 in one year vs. 10 over 10 years is another. How old is she. The nature of the sleeping around is important.

Who cares how many people shes been with. As long as she used protection with these men her past should not matter. Even if she did have 10 men still doesn't give the right to cheat on her. If it's that bad then i guess you need to move on, and leave her alone. I'm sure she's not proud of her past, but ever thought maybe she wants to move on ,and start a new chapter in her life?

I agree.there is no difference between 5 and 10.no matter how high the nimber,she has still done everything with someone else.think about if the two of you broke it off and you founsd a virgin who liked you and you fell in love.Imagine she felt it to be right to cheat on you because you already had someone else before her.how would you feel? what goes around comes around.