I am having difficulty getting through to my boyfriend what is important in a relationship and why. I am in the wrong to say that what is important is communication, honesty, trust and passion? He understands the first three but not the passion, he wants to say sex is not important. What I am triing to explain to him is that its not about the sex but what comes with it. and that is to feel that there is an attraction still between the two of you, the feeling of confiedence that your still his so on and so on. He has been medicated for Bi-polar and the meds make him lose all thought of sex and now its become a job to him and that makes me feel in turn inadequate, unattractive, and that the passion of attraction is gone. He wants me to be understanding and let things be the way that they are.

So ok let me ask any of you. What is important to you in a relationship? Do you think that he should try to meet in the middle? Be understanding to my needs as much as I am trying to be understanding with him?

This has been going on for a 1.5 years and we have sex maybe once a month I tease him and say on the holidays only. So if you don't mind responding tell me what you think.