arcadia
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Man...
Posted: 03-21-07 13:33pm
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gabe has to be here until .sunday, guys.
i am so bummed out. i just want to cry..
i hate this. i feel so bad. i feel like
it's my fault.
because my labor & delivery was so
hard.
i couldn't push him out fast enough &
it was
too stressful for him.. 
.i don't want him to be here. i don't want
to be here.
i don't know what to do. i can stay here
as hospitality
or whatver.. but they moved us to another
room
across the street from the birthplace, so
everytime
i have to feed him, i have to walk across
the parking lot.
my ankles & feet are so swollen &
it hurts so bad to walk..
& .this room is seriously awful. it's
small, it smells bad,
the lighting is terrible, & it just
makes me feel weird.
we want to go home, but i feel so guilty
leaving .gabe here..
i don't know what to do. i'm trying to
breastfeed, so if i
went home it'd be a slight problem.. i
don't even have an
electric pump.. ugghhh. i miss my bed
& my cats & my room.
i want to bring .gabe home to all of that.
i don't want
to be away from me anymore than i already
have to be.
but there's no way i can stay here until
.sunday.
i'm so sad.
oh, & my left incredibly' tit is like,
engourged & i can't
get hardly anything to come out of it.
i am so exhausted.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 03-21-07 13:50pm
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Oh man!!!! I would just stand in the
shower for like 20 mins. Let the water hit
your back, relax.
I know what it's like to have a sick baba,
.oni *should have* been kept, but we had
to bring her back everyday for 1st 7 days
of her life because I refused to leave
her.
I'm so sorry .krissy, it's not your fault.
I mean, my labor was fast as hell and .oni
had serious problems too. DOn't blame
yourself, you're an awesome mommy!!!!!
My ankels got huge after I Had .oni
too!!!! Not before, but after! It was
horrrrrible!!!! I can totally emphasize
with you!
Try taking a nice hot shower. THat always
makes me feel better!
Kiss .gabriel for us!!!
Sarah
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 03-21-07 13:52pm
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aaww dear i am soo sorry to hear about
that. It's hard leaving your baby. I
almost had to leave Amelia, but they let
her go home with me. It's really hard.
If you were to go home would you be able
to get to the hospital to feed him? are
you still trying to breast feed???
try putting a cold compress on your breast
and then try pumping. they should have a
pump for you to use.
i wish you all the best love. I hope
that he gets so much better. Give him
kisses for me and .Amelia. we love him.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 03-21-07 13:55pm
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I'm sorry .krissy. Well, I guess the
bright side of him staying is he'll be
that much stronger and healthy when he
does come home. Poor little guy. Is he
nursing any better?
It's not your fault your labor was so
rough....that's mother natures fault.
You're a good mother and don't let anyone
tell you different! Hang in there girly,
and if you need anything let me know.
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megums1211
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Posted: 03-21-07 14:03pm
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aww Krissy, I am sorry  It'll get better
soon. Just keep your chin up! and keep
breastfeeding because that always makes me
smile...when I get to have that special
time with Brianne. Just me and her and no
one can take it from us.
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Pooh-Bear-2000
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Posted: 03-21-07 14:08pm
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I'm sorry that you have to be going
through all of this! I'll be thinking
about you and .Gabe! I didn't try the
cabage thing for engoregement but .I've
heard that it really helps. I think you
are supposed to run it under cold water
and then stick some in your bra. Use an
old bra because .I think it may turn
green. It may be hard for you because you
aren't home but maybe someone could bring
some in for you. Gabe is a lucky little
guy! You are a great momma!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 03-21-07 14:28pm
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krissy hun,things will get better.this is
only the beginig and your going to be
spending plenty of mommy .gabe time
together! he will be healthier when he
gets to come home.your doig it so he is
better.Your a great mother already and it
will get better!
why does he have to stay longer .krissy?
Last edited by Willa Weintraub on 03-21-07 14:32pm; edited 1 time in total
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meggan
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Location: westchester
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Posted: 03-21-07 14:30pm
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wow girl... just try to take it easy if
possable!!1 as for as what to do about
leaving gabe or not.. I probably wouldnt
but you also cant stay in horrible
conditions. you need to do what your heart
tells you! Sometimes thats all you can
do!
As far as for your breast being engorged..
There is on thing i did that worked! My
lactation specialist had informed me to
massage my breast from top to nipple in a
nice hot shower to get the milk to flow!
YOu can pump but pumping can trick your
body into making too much and cause
further engorgment since well ure body
will think there are two babies to produce
for instead of one.. and you only have one
baby to relieve you! PLEASE encourage GABE
to relieve your breast.. i had this
problem too and man o man was i happy when
Don would relieve me. Make sure he is
nursing on that breast that is engorged
first because he will relieve it better
when he is hungry not just snacking.. Also
you may have to try to massage some out
first before he latches because when
engorged its so hard for them to latch
on!
i wish u the best and ure doing good
mama!!! keep posting.. take` care!!! hope
all goes well and keep ure head high!
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arcadia
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Posted: 03-21-07 19:38pm
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me & .chris just got home.
i am so sad. i'm crying so hard.
i miss .gabe so much.
i feel so bad leaving him there.
even though i know it's for the best.
i just want to be with him.
they have 6 bottles of my milk in the
fridge.
so i don't have to go back until
tomorrow..
at least .i'll get to sleep.. but i don't
want to.
before we left,
i sat & held him & just looked at
him
for like an hour. i love him so much.
i can't wait until .sunday.
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Bridget
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Posted: 03-21-07 19:42pm
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i can only imagine how hard this is for
you. i'm so sorry.
try to get some rest while you can.
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Idony
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Posted: 03-21-07 20:10pm
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aww that sucks, i cant even imagine how
hard it must be for you
so doyou know what the results were? or
dont you want to share, its ok either way,
no pressure, just curious is all.
so if they are giving him bottles doyou
still think your gonna be able tobreast
feed? has he had bottles before with no
nipple confusion yet...im so terrified of
nipple confusion, i wouldnt know what to
do if i was in your situation, you are so
strong
~alicia~
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arcadia
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Posted: 03-21-07 20:46pm
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i talked to the doctor that sees him
today, & he said he's doing just fine.
they're just keeping him to be safe,
pretty much. because the doctor isn't 100%
convinced that he doesn't have an
infection. because he had a temp when he
was born & had to be on oxygen for a
while & stuff. so it's just
precautionary, i suppose.
i'm pretty sure we're already screwed as
far as breastfeeding goes. i'm still gonna
do it, but he won't take my nipple & i
have to use a nipple shield. i'm still
working on it, but i donno if it's gonna
be successful.
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Pooh-Bear-2000
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Posted: 03-21-07 21:19pm
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Hang in there with the breast feeding. It
was difficult for me at the beginning too.
I had to use the nipple shield for awhile
but it really did help. After a week or
two, them nipples just popped right out!
Sorry you had to come home without him.
Get some rest while you can! Hugs to
you!!
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 03-22-07 00:30am
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im sooo sorry to hear this, you must feek
pretty down.. i know when i was at the
hospital for the last fu;; dau i needed to
go out or i was going to go insane from
sitting around, so shawn took me home to
see the cat and go out for lunch, i missed
reese so much, all i wanted to do is go
back to be with him, but at the same time
i was enjoying not being at the
hospital.... so be happy your not there.
and *try* to think about being home...
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littlesqueaks
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Posted: 03-22-07 00:44am
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hang in there and don't give up everything
is going to be fine!!! I am so sorry that
you have to go through all this but its
not your fault. The doctor's just want to
make sure he is going to be healthy and
sounds like from your posts he is just
that and his pictures he looks like a
healthy bigg boy. Feel comfortable in the
thought that they are wanting to take
double percautionaries in his health and
that they are keeping a real good eye on
your precious baby. Soon real soon you
will be bringing your baby boy home to
hold forever. Get your rest so that
tomorrow you can get up early and spend
the whole day with him. Keep your chin up
everything will turn out just fine.
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meggan
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Posted: 03-22-07 01:03am
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o hunni im so sorry... i feel so awful
this had to happen... but get ure rest..
ull need it!!! any keep with breasfeedin
if u can. if u r persistant u could
succeed.. i wish u th best in that
department... if alll fails jut pump./..
my friend had to with her baby since she
wanted to give him the best...l;ol well
girlie keep that head high and do what ure
doing,.,, you allready have been
an`amazing mother! sending more faith and
love!
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ThriftyGal
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Posted: 03-22-07 01:04am
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aw krissy. i'm sorry. but before you
know it you will all be together and time
will just fly by so fast you won't know
what's happening.
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Kia
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Posted: 03-22-07 03:28am
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Krissy, I don't know what to say.
I can't begin to image how you feel
Ask if you can take him home but return
everyday for checkups like Sarah did with
Oni.
I did the same thing when I was in
hospital, I couldn't stay a moment longer,
but I was supposed to, so I went home but
had to return every morning for checkups -
way less stressful than staying in
hospital and there is less chance of
getting an infection in your own home -
that was one of their big issues with me,
that I was high risk for infection.
so all I can send you is lots of hugs and
hope that you get to enjoy your mommyhood
real soon.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 03-22-07 09:10am
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Oh, .krissy.
.none of this is your fault, hon - none of
it. You did a fantastic job. Gabe's
getting stronger every day, and in a few
days this will only be an unpleasant
memory.
You're doing everything you can do. You're
such a good mother. I know this is hard -
I can't begin to imagine - and this
wouldn't be hard if you weren't such a
great mother.
We love you.
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 03-22-07 09:50am
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that sucks krissy i feel bad for you, that
almost happened with joseph he had a fever
and stuff when he was born , they kept him
in the nursery most of the time, since he
was on antibiotics. but the day i was
getting discharged they got the results
back from the blood test and there were no
signs of infection so they let us leave,
they just had to redo his hearing about 3
times before he pased.
I bet your excited for sunday to get here.
I would feel sooo bad leaving my kid at
the hospital and going home. It would just
feel empty. Things will get better, try
and rest up as much as you can though.
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