I voted "YES" but it would depend on the circumstances....was it a one night thing or an ongoing relationship (where you found out and it stopped after going on awhile), or is she/he in love with the fling.

Getting that image out of your mind will take some time, no doubt about that. I guess it depends on how much love there is in the relationship and if you truly want to get past it.

it was a one time thing. we are trying to work things out.

I just didn't think about it.I did at first but it only makes things worse.I think about the fact that he did cheat on me (my ex) but I don't go as far anymore to actually think and visualize him with someone else.

how did you get to that point. i can't help but think it sometimes. it's difficult to explain. if i don't stay busy, those images just creep right in.

The only thing that will help is time. When a significant other cheats it is a betrayal. You can say that you forgive them and mean it. But just because you forgive does not mean you will forget. Your trust has been broken and trust is a very important part of a relationship. The only thing that she can do is honestly put in the time to rebuild the trust. It isn't something that happens overnight. Sorry that I couldn't be of more help. This is just my take on the situation that happened to me, so if you do not feel the way that I have explained, then please disregard.

I hope that you are feeling better soon!

I know what you mean,it just takes time.you just see the love you have for the person more than the hurt after a while.I just ignore images.

i hope it doesn't take too long. i see everything now - not just the love.
my head is spinning so fast it's not even funny. i want to hold her and push away because it makes me sick to think that i wasn't the last person she had sex with.

Dave let me tell you that time will heal the wounds, however you and the misses turn out (together or divorced), and I know that's not easy to hear and believe, but trust me man....hopefully soon you'll look back and be at peace with all that's happened to you lately!

thanks to everyone for your support. it really helps.