Need Guidance...*urgent* I Beg of a Wise Mind to Help Posted: 03-19-07 13:56pm
We just found out last nite (took 12$ test
that guaranteed 99% accuracy)...I'm 20 and
she is 17...I go to art school (am there
at them moment) she goes to high school
(she is there at the moment)... I know
that the first day is the hardest and she
called me sounding frantic on the
phone...
plz she is on the verge of a nervous
breakdown and I'm worried about her mental
health (in relation to her physical) she
said she was shaking horribly and can not
take down food...I'm scared for her
What can I say to cool her down and walk
her through this? It is hard because my
younger 18 year old sister has a 2 year
old. This will be a tough burden to lay
upon my parents and we are both nervous.
So far we have agreed to tell no one.
Should I talk to someone? We are planning
on telling our parents in a week to be
sure (waiting for period)...she can't keep
her composure around her mother...it is
hard
Someone who has been here please help
me...what can be done to calm her mental
state? She is so frantic I don't know how
to help...it is hard when we alone know.
I have never been so scared. I am scared
for her health. I feel ashamed.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 03-19-07 14:22pm
tell her its ok, and that u love her and
you'll never leave her... thats what my bf
said to me when i found out i was preggy
(i was 17 and he was 19 at the time) it
helped alot. also tell her you will be
there for her when she tells her parents.
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Kia
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Posted: 03-19-07 14:27pm
I am assuming then that the tests were
positive?
in which case she needs to go to a doctor
to arrange medical care.
waiting or avoiding the situation will
only make it worse.
and if she has had positive pregnancy
tests then there is really no point
waiting for her period.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 03-19-07 14:29pm
I can only tell you what my boyfriend told
me. When we found out we were both in
shcok but Dom kept on reassuring me saying
that he's going to stick by me and be a
father etc. ALso it may be of help to her
if you're there to tell her parents to but
thats a persoanl preference
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Tyrohvirgel
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Joined: 19 Mar 2007 Posts: 7
Posted: 03-19-07 14:35pm
Thank you. I understand your point in not
avoiding it. The difficult part is getting
her to agree to this. If it were my way
we would be telling our parents tomorrow
but I am letting her call the shots for
now because I don't want to make things
worse for her mental state. Just the fact
that she is shaking and in a weak physical
state due to her nervousness. Being the
first real day of knowing it is hitting us
like an avalanche. My life is turning
upside down.
Thank you to the previous reply as well.
I have already told her these things. I
think they have helped it is good to know
those words have helped you.
Thank you for your replies all the wisdom
I can get right now helps me I am in a
terrible state. As of now this web-site
is the only source of counseling I am
receiving and will be grateful for more
replies. I realize it is not the end of
the world but my girl is my world and when
she is in this state it terrifies me. She
means everything to me and I hate that she
must bear this burden.
Last edited by Tyrohvirgel on 03-19-07 14:39pm; edited 1 time in total
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Kia
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Posted: 03-19-07 14:38pm
Tyrohvirgel
wrote:
I am letting her call the
shots for now because I don't want to make
things worse for her mental state. Just
the fact that she is shaking and in a weak
physical state due to her nervousness.
Being the first real day of knowing it is
hitting us like an
avalanche.
That is really worrying.
Please make her an appt to see her doctor
asap.
Being in that state is not going to help
at all and I prsonally feel that dragging
it out and avoiding (temporarily) will
make it worse.
you know like if you have to go to the
dentist... you start thinking about it,
then get a bit worried and if you have
several days to go, you're a wreck by the
time it comes around, then you find out
that the waiting was 100 times worse than
the appt.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 03-19-07 14:38pm
Believe me every girl on here is a
abusulute jem and will be willing to help
out it any way they can, their advice in
like gold dust, i have no idea what i
would have done if it wasn't for this
place it keeps me sane!
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Tyrohvirgel
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Joined: 19 Mar 2007 Posts: 7
Posted: 03-19-07 14:41pm
That is great to know Danzzi. I'm
grateful my concerns are welcome here
