Jules, Of course you are quite right. Masturbation is the safest form of sex you can have. Masturbation is healthy, teaches you about your own body and sexual response and it is most likely the only way that most women will ever get close to their genitals in order to see if something is wrong. Orgasms make a woman more relaxed, less edgy, more content. Various good hormones and good chemicals are automatically released in our brains when we orgasm. Having regular orgasms also make you more likely to have orgasms.
An interesting study I have seen claimed that most women do not masturbate because:
1) they do no know about it
2) they do not know how
3) they think that something is going to break or go wrong
4) they think something is wrong with them and they are the only ones doing it
5) and many stop well before orgasm because they are afraid of the unknown feelings they are experiencing.
Recently researchers also determined that the guilty feelings comes from the fact that when these feel-good chemicals that our brain release when we orgasm withdraws from our systems, we get slightly depressed and feeling guilty. During orgasm, various parts of our brains also shuts down. No activity can be seen in those parts. It is as if we are going into a coma. When these parts of the brain comes online again, it can cause the guilty feelings.
Not all women need toys or feel comfortable with porn, so whatever way tickles your fancy.
The other thing that goes with sexual self discovery should be a good look at your genitals to identify every thing and see what it looks like. Every girl in puberty should at least once take a mirror and take a good long look.
Happy Jilling!!