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Q: Can Anyone Offer Any Advice?

asked by: pinkpetal3 on March 18th, 2007

New User

Hello I am new to this board. On the outside I am a happy person that is nice to everyone yet quiet. But... in the inside i have a lot to say. I am intelligent, i got into medschool early and have a 4.0 gpa. I have always wanted to dance and sing but never got the chance to. I am scared to do things like that and get jealous when i see people i know doing it. I am pretty but am a perfectionist. I got rhinoplasty last summer. I met a guy online when i was 15 and I have been "seeing" him ever since. We rarely see eachother but I am sooo needy for someone to love me and have not made many close friends in college because i have been so focued on school and my relationship to him. I visit him but i don't tell my parents b/c i don't know what to say. Lately i have been feeling very depressed, like i am alone... like i expect so much out of this world and out of myself and i hate it. i am smart and many people tell me i am beautiful and many guys want to date me... but i am so close to my "bf" that i can't break up with him because he gives me attention and i am sad to lose that. I feel sad about it one day and another day i am ok... but this has been going on for a while. I question religion, practices of society--- such as the crazy empasise on beauty.. everyday... but that makes me judge myself too.. to the point where i am scared to stand out in certain things. any suggestions or advice? could i be depressed... or just being a girl?

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change is good

replied on March 19th, 2007

Experienced User

sounds like you could be depressed. i think we all are depressed once in awhile. people are here to listen and to talk with you. i think you are unhappy with some of the decisions you've made and need to work through them. your college should have someone to talk to. check it out.
in the mean time there are people here who will listen. keep trying and hang in there.

Stan

replied on March 19th, 2007

Moderator

You just sound very, very intelligent. I suggest you read a book called Poetry Language Thought by Martin Heidegger. I don't think you're depressed at all, if anything you simply have seen for yourself the structure of what society is and it horrifies you. I myself once went through such a phase. Not to say I don't look at the world in this way, I've just learned how to adjust to the realization.

filthiman

replied on March 19th, 2007

New User

i think it could be a mixture of both, in regards to depression, start exercising, tell your parents about your relationship, they love you, they SHOULD understand, go out, be social. you can go out to a club, have fun, and not cheat on your boyfriend, ALL IN ONE NIGHT!!! amazing, no? but seriously, do some of the things you've alwyas wanted to, don't hold things in, its not healthy.

in regards to society: i think you are one of the lucky few to actually open your eyes. i realized very early how great the percentage of humanity is stupid, and or ignorant. thats one fo the things that i hope science can cure in the future, unlikely, but i still hope. as far as religion is concerned, did you grow up being part of a church? because if you never took the time to actually explore religion and find what YOU believe in, then you'll be stuck believing what you were told to believe. and to me, that is being forced to be ignorant.

find yourself, just don't brood on anything. one last thing, if you find that something is dragging you down, don't hesitate to cut it out. yes society is for the most part retarded, just be happy that you realize this and hopefully you won't feel like you have to conform to the mold society has set fpr us.

matt182

replied on March 19th, 2007

Experienced User

you cant just hold on to a bf because he gives you "attention". I think you should do what your heart really says, open up yourself to others and youll see a change for the good of everyone Smile

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